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I have no clue when it is safe to take my son out into the world<br><br>
we have done 2 quick trips to the grocery<br><br>
my family is indian and you do not leave the house after a baby for 6 weeks<br><br>
that is fine and dandy for indians who live in an extended family and have servants and other women to do the shopping and care taking but umm... I dont have any of that.
 

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I went out to do my errands with Samson right away. I always wear him in a sling, and feel he's less exposed that way!<br><br>
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we started taking small ventures out at around 2.5 weeks. just quick one hour or so visits to the bookstore so i could fee like i was part of the world.
 

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I can't tell you what to do, only what we did....we waited until ds was 2 months and had his first round of vaxes (and then I found these wonderful ladies and he might not be getting any more!) I think we went to the grocery store 2 or 3 times but I either put him in the sling (no one touches him in there) or watched like a hawk. I'm sure I looked like a crazy lady veering the cart off sharply if someone even looked vaguely interested in checking out the baby in the car seat, but I wanted nothing of germ-filled strangers going anywhere near my little angel! Otherwise I just made extremely detailed grocery lists and dh did the shopping or took care of ds in the car while I ran in real quick.<br><br>
People who wanted to visit had to wash their hands of course before coming near and any signs of anything (sickness wise) and we asked them not to come over. The dirty little cousins came over and while I wanted to sanitize them in the yard before letting them in (lol) dh agreed that might be a little difficult to do, so we let them play w/ds's feet and look at him while I held him.<br><br>
Some would call me overprotective, but as soon as my ped told me that any 2 month old (or younger) w/a fever meant an automatic spinal tap, I decided that being over-vigilant was the least I could do to stop that from happening.
 

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When my second was three days old we went to WalMart and then out to lunch with my ds1. Then at four days old I took ds2 to ds1's weekly playgroup. I just kept him in the sling the whole time and no one touched him.<br><br>
I'm just not a homebody.
 

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LOL!! We went to WalMart when Leia was three days old too!<br>
People were amazed I was already up and about.
 

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My 1st pediatrician didn't mention anythign about the fever and spinal tap so my husband and I took our daughter out to lunch twice while she was just a couple weeks old.<br>
My new pediatircain told us about the spianl tap thing and told us that we had to be more vigilaint b/c she was born in the winter and htere are more germs floating around b/c everyone is inside togehter. I think if she were a summer baby she could have gone out earlier with less risk.
 

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I so hear that. I was thinking maybe I was a weirdo for taking Samson around so quickly. I brought dd to the Carousel about 48 hrs after Samson's birth, and people were just in awe. Again, I felt much safer with him in the sling!
 

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I guess I'm in the minority here. I waited at least a month before I took ds out and didn't start really going places with him till he was 6-8 weeks. I think there's something to be said for letting these oh-so-new creatures come gently into the loud, busyness of the world. All the colors and sounds and denser energy must be such a shock to them compared to the refinement of where they've been for 9 months. So I decided to wait tho I did go a bit stir crazy and I'm someone who is quite comfortable just hanging out. So if you're someone who likes to get out and about then this probably wouldn't work for you and I'd follow the lead of the other moms here who went out but used a sling and/or their own wise instincts about the conditions for being out. HTH
 

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Dd was over a week old. I did run to walmart when she was a few days old after I fed her and she was napping. Ds held her until I got home because he didn't want me to take her into Walmart. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">: It was January, so he had a point! LOL<br><br>
Ds was born this April at home. We went to church when he was three days old and I just kept him in the sling. People admired him from afar. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> We went all kinds of places his first week because dh was off work and we closed on our refinancing of the house so we could add on. Lots of errands to run. After that week, we kind of took it easy sometimes staying home and sometimes going out. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Whatever you're comfortable with! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/oops.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="oops">T :Busybusymama~You really do sound busy!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Anja is one month old today, and I haven't really taken her out anywhere. We've gone for walks in the stroller, but that's it.<br><br>
I think I'm afraid to take her out in public.
 

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Other than doc appts and visits to the LC, Zane didn't go out anywhere, and I barely let anyone come over, LOL, for about 7 weeks. But he was born in Dec and I just didn't want to take him out in the cold or the germs.
 

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I would have liked to have stayed home and nested for at least a week but had to take dd in for a weight check the day after we were discharged, in a snow storm, in the middle of winter, into a germ filled hospital.... and then back to the hospital every day for 4 days... then I had a 'free' day and finally got to Kids'r'us to buy some preemie clothes cause dd didn't fit into any of her baby clothes. Then I just stayed home and refused to budge.<br><br>
The doctors also warned me about winter bugs and RSV and told me to make sure family washed their hands before touching her. Don't recall the medical staff washing their hands.<br><br>
I guess the issues with taking a newborn out are making sure their body temperature is kept stable and to keep them away from germs, ie other people. But a baby in a sling is pretty protected.
 

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I had to take my DD out a lot after she was born at home.... at three days for her doc's visit, then we had to go back a few times for bilirubin count tests.<br>
My DS had the same thing happen.... but other than those doctor's visits, I didn't leave the house for a few weeks. I had hemmorhaged pretty badly and was very weak for a while.<br>
My friend, who recently gave birth to her child, took a two hour car drive to a friend's house to swim in her pool and hang out all day when her baby was one week old!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"> I was like, wow, you go, girlfriend! This is the same girl who, the day after she gave birth, was sipping a beer and cleaning her house while her baby slept<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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We only took ds out twice during the first 6 weeks because it was recommended to me to keep him home for the first 6 weeks by several ayurvedic specialists that I know. It was a bit of a challenge but dh did errands or I would go out and do errands after he got home. It felt really natural for us. The few times I did take him out did not go well and I really noticed some type of developmental shift around 6 weeks that made it easier. I wonder though if I will be able to do this with a 2nd baby. Still, for me I think the minimum would be 2 weeks.
 

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I would have given ANYTHING to be able to stay home for six weeks.<br><br>
I felt totally unable to deal with the world. Everything scared me. I was certain that something was going to hurt the baby.<br><br>
But instead of any kind of babymoon. here's what I got:<br><br>
* baby had a fever at two days, so he had a spinal tap and we spent three nights together in the horrible hospital<br><br>
* two weeks after that there was the Haight Street Fair on my street, so I had to go stay at my parents<br><br>
* while I was at my parents' the ceiling in our apartment fell in, flooding my bedroom<br><br>
* so we moved house when the baby was less than a month old<br><br>
I also have two school-age stepsons, who needed to be fed and such...<br><br>
I had a lot of help from extended family, but it would have been really great if I was from a culture that thought I should be resting with the baby, instead from a culture that thinks "help" means "I'll hold the baby while you clean the house!"
 
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