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I only ask b/c my dd is 8 and is still sleeping w/ us. I don't mind, dh doesn't mind, and she certainly doesn't mind. There's a lot of issues, she's not very confident/secure, but, you wouldn't know that unless you knew her very well. I think it stems from the fact that my step-dad died on her birthday VERY unexpectedly two years ago and he was like a father to her (her bio father has never seen her) Then, I got married, we moved, and dh and I had a new baby and all this happened w/in a year! She slept w/ me when I was a single mom and we tried everything to get her to sleep in her own bed, but to no avail. I must admit that I enjoy her snuggles as well. Is there something wrong that she's still co-sleeping?
 

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They're too old if they ask to bring a boyfriend/girlfriend to join them <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
Sounds fine to me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
-Angela
 

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If it's not bothering anybody I wouldn't worry too much about it. Sounds like she needs the support anyhow. I am proud of you for making yourself available to her in that capacity. Such a rarity these days.
 

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If everyone is fine with it, I don't see why it would be a problem.<br><br>
I think it's great that you co-sleep after all the emotional changes she has had in her life.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">They're too old if they ask to bring a boyfriend/girlfriend to join them <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
Sounds fine to me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
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Exactly. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br><br>
I had a good friend in high school that had only recently stopped sleeping with her mom. She loved it, and talked about it very fondly. Of course she went on to sleep with all of her children for years and she was the one that introduced me to the concept of co-sleeping. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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The other night my father and dh went on a fishing trip and I stayed at my Mom's and ds and I snuggled in bed with her! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
IMHO you are never too old as long as everyone is ok with it. It was nice, felt like back in the day when all of us would come creeping in to snuggle.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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My DS just recently stopped sleeping with us and he turns 9 in March. I miss it very much and am reminding him constantly that he can come back any time if he wants <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"> but I think he's gone for good - I loved co-sleeping and do not feel 8 is too old at all.
 

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Whenever ds & I visit my mom or she visits us we all sleep in one big bed together, even though there are other beds. My aunt still frequently co-sleeps with her 13 year old son, no biggie. I think its great that you are there for your daughter and as long as everyone is comfortable with it then its great. It sounds like what she needs now.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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My parents divorce when I was 2 and I slept with my mom due to lack of space and furniture. I slept with her until she remarried when I was 9, they too divorced and I got my spot back! At 12 I decided I wanted to sleep in my own bed and I remember leaving her bed - it was a hard weird independence thing. Anytime there was company I went back though.
 

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I slept with my mom until I was 18 <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> All 4 of us would be in her bed with her. In her small queen sized bed!! LOL!!
 

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I slept with my mom until I was 13. I had my own bed, and I slept in it occasionally, but most nights I would sleep with my mom. So IMO it's no big deal.
 

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my 9, 7, and 4 year old all sleep with us. We have two double beds next to each other. We love the last 20 minutes of the day when we snuggle in bed, read some books, and then chat a bit as we fall asleep. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 
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