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  • Was in my teens

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  • In my 20's

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  • In my 30's

    Votes: 66 44.9%
  • In my 40's

    Votes: 10 6.8%
  • In my 50's or beyond

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  • Bio clock influenced me to have baby now rather than later

    Votes: 11 7.5%
  • Bio clock did not influence me

    Votes: 35 23.8%
  • Career/job influenced my family planning

    Votes: 14 9.5%
  • Infertility influenced my family planning

    Votes: 15 10.2%
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I don't mean your last up 'til now, I mean those whose families are complete and don't plan to have anymore including adoption.<br><br>
Did the biological clock influence your decision to hurry up and have that last one sooner rather than later?
 

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I just had our last baby in January. We are definitely done having kids. I am 36 (37 in July) and DH is 38 (39 in July). If we had met and married at a younger age (we married when I was 30 and had our first when I was 31) we probably would have had at least one more child. But having 3 small children when we are in our late 30s is more than enough for us.<br><br>
eta: Occasionally I think I might like to go for #4, but the last few years have been so exhausting for me, and the older I get the harder/longer it is to recover from pregnancy and birth. So although my bioligical clock may still want more children, my physical body mandates that I will definitely not - not to mention that 3 kids actually seems perfect for our family - emotionally, financially, and physically.
 

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Gah. Have to do the math in my head . . . . 32. I didn't think he was the last at the time but now I feel that he is and I'm happy with that decision.<br><br>
My biological clock has nothing to do with it at all. I feel quite young and fertile at 37 and am sure that if I wanted to have more, I'd have plenty more years to do so. I'm just happy with what I've got and am stopping here <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I had both of my children while in my 20's. I won't have anymore primarily due to fertility issues. It took me over 3 years to conceive #2 and that is with help. I can't handle ttc again, it's too emotionally draining for my dh and I.<br>
ETA: There are a few other things that have influenced our choice that aren't on your poll. They are: environmental impact, living small(cars and home), and financial.
 

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I had my last 2 (twins) at 34. We were only planning on 2 and wanted them 3 years apart. Like the pp, we got married later (at 29) and wanted to be done before our late 30s. My mom had me at 38 and I spent my childhood feeling like she was older and a bit less energetic than my friends' moms. I now think that had more to do with her temperment than her age, but I know the experience influenced me.<br><br>
I checked fertility issues because we did have them between numbers 1 and 2/3. That set us back a few months on our 3 year separation schedule.
 

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I had my last (most recent) baby at 29. Failed contraception influenced my decision to have him. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
I may or may not be done having kids. I'm probably done- my health isn't the greatest and I really don't see how I could withstand another pregnancy, much less care hold an infant for hours or chase after a toddler. Nor can I imagine my mental health holding up to the intense emotional needs of an older child who's just been adopted.<br><br>
So it's not about age or infertility, but it is about my health.
 

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I voted "in my 30s" - I am almost 34 and had my last a couple months before my 33 birthday. AFAIK we are done. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> We aren't planning anymore and feel our family is complete. Our decision, though, really doesn't have anything to do with my biological clock, though thinking long-term, I'd rather have my children be college age before I near my mid/late 50s. But really, we are done simply because we feel we have the children we are meant to have. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I just had my last child at 24. So, no the biological clock did not hurry me up. but two kids are plenty enough for us to emotionally and financially support and we are also more than happy with two <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I had my very last at 27 and had planned on #3 being my last, at 25. It was my plan on all along to be done at 25, but 27 was close enough <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I'm thrilled I'll be young enough to enjoy watching my kids and their kids and maybe their kids be born and grow, and that I'll be young enough to go have fun.<br><br>
Oops, I thought I marked bio clock influenced me to have them sooner then later <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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This baby is most definitely our last. My goal was to complete our family by the time I was 30, and I just squeaked in under the wire. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> (I turned 30 in March.)
 

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I was one month shy of turning 40 when dc3 was born. Best present I ever got!
 

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I checked bio clock and fertility issues, but not for the "obvious" reasons. I was TTC from my late 20s through my 30s and very stressed because I was terrified of my bio clock running out. In my 20s I thought that 30 was "too old" to have children and I was in a hurry to have my whole family before age 29. In my early 30s I thought that 35 was "too old." By the time I was 36 I had 6 m/c and was told that I had fertility problems and that I should hurry up and do IVF quickly if I wanted any opportunity to have my own children.<br><br>
We decided not to do that and to leave things up to divine providence. For me it made a really big difference to just let go of my worries about my bio clock and of being "too old." I was 39 when DS was born and now I'm due to have another at age 42. She will probably be our last, but you never know!
 

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Oops, I voted too soon. I was 27 when I had my last baby, but I'm going to have more.<br><br>
I want to be done having babies before I'm 35, so my body will be more able to handle the stress of pregnancy, and so I won't be old before my kids grow up.
 

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I voted "in my teens".<br><br>
I was 17 when my last child (Dd) was born. I got my tubes tied when I was 18 or 19...I can't quite recall. Biological clock didn't really come into play because at that age I had some fertile years left available to me. I did vote that career/job was a factor though, mostly in the sense that I had no job and I was living very low income. I was a single mama of two kids under the age of 5 when I got my tubes tied. I was just done, and I knew it.
 

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I'll be 37 when this one is born and then we're done. My DH might want to have more, but I told him no WAY was I having more babies. I can count them on one hand, barely, and I also think having 3 little ones in a row is plenty for my energy level...
 

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I was 20... in my family thats an old maid... my Grandma had my mom when she was 15, and my mom had me when she was 15... I was 20...<br><br>
OLD MAID
 

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I was 21 with my last. I had my first at 18. Dh and I would like to have more, but right now my health is not good at all, so we'll have to wait and just see what happens.
 

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I had my first child 9 months after we got married, and almost exactly one year later I had my second (and last) child. I was 25. I hadn't planned on having only 2 children, but it never happened for us again. Our baby will be 17 on Monday.
 

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Are you getting baby fever? lol<br>
Most of my friends were having kids before 20 which was <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"> to me.<br>
I had my first at 27 and my 2nd at 32. My dd's are through marriage.<br>
Honestly I don't want to birth anymore and had tubes tied . I might adopt some day though. There are many people who adopt in our church and I can see myself doing that when the kids are older.
 
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