my dd is extremely social. A stranger, adult or child, is just a person she hasn't met.
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my six year old is an introverted extrovert.
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she's very selective-she has a very acute b.s. meter with grownups, and won't interact if she feels she's being spoken down to. If a grownup talks to her like an equal she's extroverted. Same with children-if they come up to her and shout or act crazy, she'll withdraw.
My almost three year old is simply an extrovert. She greets everyone with laughs, smiles, and LOTS of commentary.
My almost three year old is simply an extrovert. She greets everyone with laughs, smiles, and LOTS of commentary.
3 yr. old dd has always been very social. Even as a baby, she was comfortable being in the company of many different people.
She will approach people of all ages (though mostly kids) and just start talking to them, and we're trying to talk to her more about how other people might respond to her:
"Maybe you should ask what his name is.... "
"Some kids are shy and don't want to play with kids they don't know very well.... "
"No, we can't invite that girl for a sleep-over. Yes she does have pretty shoes, but she's also 14 and we don't know her name."
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She will approach people of all ages (though mostly kids) and just start talking to them, and we're trying to talk to her more about how other people might respond to her:
"Maybe you should ask what his name is.... "
"Some kids are shy and don't want to play with kids they don't know very well.... "
"No, we can't invite that girl for a sleep-over. Yes she does have pretty shoes, but she's also 14 and we don't know her name."
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Originally Posted by chel my dd is extremely social. A stranger, adult or child, is just a person she hasn't met. |
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DD will talk to anyone-because they are all potential friends. And if they talk to her first-well then they're fair game for her neverending chats!
We had a dinner party last night (holiday in Canada) and one friend is a psychologist. I heard her say-See mum (to her mother) SHE is a classic example of an extreme extrovert!
It can be very exhausting some days though, b/c the chatter NEVER stops. So many days I have to say just STOP talking for a few mins, OK? PLEASE STOP, (b/c I feel like my head will explode.)
When DD was 18 months old, were in a line at the grocery store. I could see she was trying to get the guy's attention behind us. She tried SO hard to catch his gaze. She was getting irritated, so I finally had to ask him to just look at her.
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(That's all she wanted)
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We had a dinner party last night (holiday in Canada) and one friend is a psychologist. I heard her say-See mum (to her mother) SHE is a classic example of an extreme extrovert!
It can be very exhausting some days though, b/c the chatter NEVER stops. So many days I have to say just STOP talking for a few mins, OK? PLEASE STOP, (b/c I feel like my head will explode.)
When DD was 18 months old, were in a line at the grocery store. I could see she was trying to get the guy's attention behind us. She tried SO hard to catch his gaze. She was getting irritated, so I finally had to ask him to just look at her.
I've realized that my oldest is very social and my 6 yr. old will active social when she is with me and very, extremely shy when she with dad or my mom. Thinking she would be shy at school, but not. When she comes out of school she'll start her shyness again (she seems to turn it on and off). As for my 2 1/2 yr twins they are social butterflys. I sometimes wonder if there is a connection with oldest, middle and youngest child.
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And its kind of weird for me b/c I'm an introvert. However, DH and FIL are about the most outgoing, talkative people I know.
Sounds like your dd just takes a bit of time to feel out the situation and the people around her.
Originally Posted by chel my dd is extremely social. A stranger, adult or child, is just a person she hasn't met. |
And its kind of weird for me b/c I'm an introvert. However, DH and FIL are about the most outgoing, talkative people I know.
Sounds like your dd just takes a bit of time to feel out the situation and the people around her.
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My oldest is very outgoing & social, She will make a friend no matter what. She loves people and just assumes people love her because she's so fabulous! (just like her dad)
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My 7 y/o DS is the total opposite. Very shy and not interested in making many friends (just like mom!). He has about 2 close friends and that's all he cares to have.
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My 3 y/o DD has just recently started to become somewhat shy. Not as bad as my 7 y/o was at this age, but not outgoing like my 10 y/o was.
My 20 month old befriends anyone who will give him food!
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My 7 y/o DS is the total opposite. Very shy and not interested in making many friends (just like mom!). He has about 2 close friends and that's all he cares to have.
My 3 y/o DD has just recently started to become somewhat shy. Not as bad as my 7 y/o was at this age, but not outgoing like my 10 y/o was.
My 20 month old befriends anyone who will give him food!
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I love this!
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I think I would have to describe myself and DS this way. With people I know very well or feel an immediate connection to somehow (rare, but it happens), I am very outgoing and sociable. With new people and people I don't feel that "click" with, I am pretty withdrawn.
My son is extremely slow to warm up to most new people (and even some people he has known since birth, but doesn't see on a regular basis). Even at school with kids he's known for two+ years, he sometimes needs some alone time before he runs off to play with them happily. There are days when his little "best friend" will come up to him and they will run off immediately, and other days where DS will go straight to the benches and sit alone watching everyone for about 5 minutes before joining in.
As for the connection with adults but not kids, I *always* got along better with adults when I was a child, preferring their company to that of other children. Most of the kids were too hyper for my tastes... they tired me out emotionally and physically.
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Is your child possibly gifted? Another reason why I tended to gravitate toward adults was the fact that I was not on the same level, intellectually, with the other kids. A possibility?
Originally Posted by mata my six year old is an introverted extrovert.
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I love this!
My son is extremely slow to warm up to most new people (and even some people he has known since birth, but doesn't see on a regular basis). Even at school with kids he's known for two+ years, he sometimes needs some alone time before he runs off to play with them happily. There are days when his little "best friend" will come up to him and they will run off immediately, and other days where DS will go straight to the benches and sit alone watching everyone for about 5 minutes before joining in.
As for the connection with adults but not kids, I *always* got along better with adults when I was a child, preferring their company to that of other children. Most of the kids were too hyper for my tastes... they tired me out emotionally and physically.
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my kids too, especially my 5 yr old. I'm glad they aren't shy but at times I worry about them being too friendly and trusting of other's... especially strangers. They do know they aren't supposed to talk to someone they don't know if mom or dad (or grandma) aren't there but that doesn't really happen yet since they are so young.
Originally Posted by chel my dd is extremely social. A stranger, adult or child, is just a person she hasn't met. |
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