I know this isn't what you are asking about, but I wanted to weigh in on the emotional aspect of conceiving after a loss. We decide to "try again" two months after my miscarriage (which was early in my second trimester). We conceived right away, but that pregnancy ended in miscarriage in early Feb. It was an early loss and was much different physically and emotionally than the loss of my son, but it had a whole new level of PAIN because of being so soon on the heels of my first miscarriage. I felt incredibly dumb for having tried again so soon. I felt emotionally ready to handle another *pregnancy* but was NOT emotionally ready to handle another loss. So, now I feel like cautioning people from trying again "too soon."
However, that said, five months seems perfectly reasonable to me--and after that much time has passed you can check in with yourself and see if feels like a good decision for you. From what I can gather, PAL never feels "normal" or all happy-happy-joy-joy no matter how long you wait to conceive again, but I would encourage you to be as emotionally as prepared as possible for "any outcome" with a following pregnancy. I am NOT saying you will have the same experience as me at all (I certainly hope you do not!), but I felt like an absolute IDIOT to have opened myself up to the pain again so soon--the pain wasn't "fresh" pain really, it was gouged back open barely healed pain from my little Noah's death. Wow. It was indescribable.
Best wishes with your decision! I'm so very, very sorry that your precious little girl died.
However, that said, five months seems perfectly reasonable to me--and after that much time has passed you can check in with yourself and see if feels like a good decision for you. From what I can gather, PAL never feels "normal" or all happy-happy-joy-joy no matter how long you wait to conceive again, but I would encourage you to be as emotionally as prepared as possible for "any outcome" with a following pregnancy. I am NOT saying you will have the same experience as me at all (I certainly hope you do not!), but I felt like an absolute IDIOT to have opened myself up to the pain again so soon--the pain wasn't "fresh" pain really, it was gouged back open barely healed pain from my little Noah's death. Wow. It was indescribable.
Best wishes with your decision! I'm so very, very sorry that your precious little girl died.
