My husband is passive aggressive and can just plain be a jerk, but comes across as a nice guy to most people who don't really know him. He thinks he is a wonderful and loving husband. He thinks he is doing the right thing.
I didn't come on here to bash him, but to figure out how to deal with this and how to set a good example for my son. I admit, I have been doing a pretty miserable job so far. I am very impatient and just plain don't like or even love my husband anymore. He feels like the enemy, but he is my son's father and still my husband.
Everything I ask is a battle: If I ask my husband to take my son's jacket in the stroller in case he gets too cold, he says, he doesn't need it. I am not going to take it, it is fine. This is after I just checked to see that it was starting to get cold out.
If when I ask my husband to put diaper cream on my son after he forgot and our son is all ready for bed, he says he won't and argues with me. I can't drop everything and do everything. My son had a diaper rash.
Pretty every little thing I ask of him is a battle and he argues.
Tonight, I left the oven on after cooking, and we were sitting down to eat. He said, why is the oven on. I said, I forgot to turn it off. He sighs in an annoyed way and says that I am too forgetful. Mind you, I forget very little of anything, but occasionally leave on the stove or oven while we eat and my husband is the most forgetful person ever, asking me the same things 10 times and doesn't listen and forgets incessantly. Eventually this led to an argument and he is generally disrespectful, so I said I don't want to talk anymore you are being to disrespectful. I have warned him many times that if he starts being disrespectful I am going to stop talking. He ignores what I say, and just tries to talk about whatever whenever and then gets mad when I don't talk or repeat that I am not talking because I don't want to get in another argument and don't want to be disrespected. I feel at a loss, because he pushes my buttons and I lose my temper and we argue. It is like a constant power struggle.
I basically want to know how to handle it when your spouse is talking disrespectfully towards you or when they push your buttons. I have tried numerous things and nothing has worked so far and I always end up getting mad and frustrated. How do I deal with everything being a battle? Yes I have tried 100's of times to sit down and explain things to him. He only sees things from his point of view and thinks he is being respectful. I am not the only one who thinks he is mean and disrespectful
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How would you deal with this, counseling is something he won't do. Once the counselors tried to hold him accountable he quit. He won't read books or make any changes. So the changing is pretty much up to me and I don't know what to do.
I didn't come on here to bash him, but to figure out how to deal with this and how to set a good example for my son. I admit, I have been doing a pretty miserable job so far. I am very impatient and just plain don't like or even love my husband anymore. He feels like the enemy, but he is my son's father and still my husband.
Everything I ask is a battle: If I ask my husband to take my son's jacket in the stroller in case he gets too cold, he says, he doesn't need it. I am not going to take it, it is fine. This is after I just checked to see that it was starting to get cold out.
If when I ask my husband to put diaper cream on my son after he forgot and our son is all ready for bed, he says he won't and argues with me. I can't drop everything and do everything. My son had a diaper rash.
Pretty every little thing I ask of him is a battle and he argues.
Tonight, I left the oven on after cooking, and we were sitting down to eat. He said, why is the oven on. I said, I forgot to turn it off. He sighs in an annoyed way and says that I am too forgetful. Mind you, I forget very little of anything, but occasionally leave on the stove or oven while we eat and my husband is the most forgetful person ever, asking me the same things 10 times and doesn't listen and forgets incessantly. Eventually this led to an argument and he is generally disrespectful, so I said I don't want to talk anymore you are being to disrespectful. I have warned him many times that if he starts being disrespectful I am going to stop talking. He ignores what I say, and just tries to talk about whatever whenever and then gets mad when I don't talk or repeat that I am not talking because I don't want to get in another argument and don't want to be disrespected. I feel at a loss, because he pushes my buttons and I lose my temper and we argue. It is like a constant power struggle.
I basically want to know how to handle it when your spouse is talking disrespectfully towards you or when they push your buttons. I have tried numerous things and nothing has worked so far and I always end up getting mad and frustrated. How do I deal with everything being a battle? Yes I have tried 100's of times to sit down and explain things to him. He only sees things from his point of view and thinks he is being respectful. I am not the only one who thinks he is mean and disrespectful
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How would you deal with this, counseling is something he won't do. Once the counselors tried to hold him accountable he quit. He won't read books or make any changes. So the changing is pretty much up to me and I don't know what to do.
