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My 6 year old kept asking when i was pregnant where babies come from and how do babies get in the belly...I told him i will tell you when you get older...Just wondering what do i say next time if he brings up the subject again? Just wanting to be prepared for next time...What age did you all tell your kids?<br><br>
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Tina<br><br>
Riley (10 months) Bradley 6 1/2 years old
 

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I found a wonderful book from which to start my explanations.<br><br><span style="text-decoration:underline;">How Babies Are Made</span> by Andrew C. Andry adn Steven Schepp<br><br>
It's illustrated with paper cut outs. It begins with how seeds are made from egg and pollen, then moves on to chickens, then dogs, then humans, all very simply done. It hits the main points without being too graphic.<br><br><i>from the book:</i><br>
"You were born hungry, just like puppies and kittens, and so you had to be fed. You were fed milk from your mother's breasts or from a bottle."<br><br>
I crossed out the last 3 words on that page, since they weren't true for my babies.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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our ds (also 6) asked, and i just answered that the baby was made by mama and papa - that seemed to satisfy him at the time. i just told him that womens bodies make tiny eggs, and then papa's sperm come together with the egg, and make a baby. "isn't that cool?!" - i tried to be as open as possible, and asked him "did that answer your question?", so he felt ok asking me more if he wanted to.<br>
he didn't ask any specific questions about where the egg and sperm came from, etc. so i kept it at that for the time being.<br>
i would gently caution against the "wait until you're older" answer, although it's less nerve-wracking for you, as he might go elsewhere for information, and get some you may not agree with.<br>
be as honest as you're comfortable with, and if need be, spare any small details you don't feel are necessary at this time.<br>
my own experience was one of total ignorance until around age 10, when i was just handed a book; which was then followed by a very sterile, technical 'discussion' and a "never ever unless you're married" mandate.<br>
i was so mortified and embarrassed, i never approached my mother again with any questions or thoughts. it seemed such a taboo subjecct.<br>
with my 11yo stepdd, i knew she had gone through 'reproductive health' (i guess it's not sex-ed anymore... lol) so i just casually brought it up to open discussion and make her comfortable coming to me with any questions. just asked her what she learned, and talked candidly with her for a while. i think i put her at ease enogh that she will hopefully not hesitate in bringing any thoughts to me.<br>
just after my own sexual experiences, i really want to make sure our kids are as informed and educated as possible.<br>
a healthy sexuality is so important imo.<br>
(hope that helps?)
 

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I found the greatest book that is geared at young children. My daughter loved it and looked at it all the time! It has a Judo-Christian slant (talks about god as giving mom and dad the tools to make babies)<br><br>
Who Made Me?<br><br>
Now that I am pregnant with #2 dd still pulls it out to see how big the baby is right now...and she is 8!
 

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I love "It's So Amazing! A Book About Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies, and Families" by Robie H. Harris. It's geared for an older audience than a six year old, but I've used parts of it with my six year old very effectively.<br><br>
Personally, I wouldn't put off a child's perfectly natural questions about sex by saying you'll tell him when he's older. I don't think that's a good approach if you want to foster communication and have him get his info from you rather than from his friends. That said, those questions do catch us by surprise sometimes!
 

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When I was pregnant with my first I got a magazine with all those fetal photos in it that show the fetal development from conception on. Now that I'm preg with #3 and my 5 year old has been asking questions I have gotten that back out. I'm able to show him the pictures of the egg and the sperm, and how they come together, then how the baby develops from day one all the way till birth. It is now his favorite "book" and it goes with him everywhere.<br><br>
I was a bit leery about showing it too him since in the early months the baby doesn't look very baby like and I thought it might scare him, but he is absolutely fascinated by it. He knows which pictures our baby looks like now, and explains everything in the picture to my almost 3 year old. He knows way more than most kids his age. How many kids can say "umbilical cord" let alone explain its purpose.<br><br>
I did have to explain that the baby doesn't come out my belly button. He finds it simply hysterical that I have a special hole for that purpose. I didn't explain the other purpose for that hole.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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:LOL
 

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I'm reminded of a scene in "Rob Roy" where Liam Neesan and Jessica Lange are telling their two sons that she will be having a baby...<br>
"Well, were is the baby now?"<br>
and Jessica puts her hand on her abdomen and say something like "In here. In a while, when he's big enough he'll come out."<br>
"How will he get out?"<br>
Liam chuckles and answers, "The same road he got in, son!" And he and his wife laugh together. It's a really sweet scene.
 

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Well, my three year old asked and I vaguely told her about how when mommies and daddies love each other, a baby can be made. That satisfied her for now....<br>
She also watched a lot of natural home birth videos because she watched her baby brother being born. She was present at the birth and really *knows* how it all happens<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Moving this to Parenting Issues<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hippie.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hippie">
 

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My mother didn't explain anything to me until I was seven, and by that time I already knew because older kids at school told me in very crude terms. I don't want this to happen to dd so I will tell her before she asks, maybe around age 4? If I manage to conceive this year she will be at the birth (if she wants) so she will have an advantage the mainstream kids don't have.<br><br>
I remember my mom got that paper-cutout book and I saw it and ran to tell my 5-year-old brother, "Mom is going to show us a book with drawings of naked people in it - DO NOT SAY ANYTHING!" I thought we would get in trouble if we already knew. We just sat there passively as she read it.<br><br>
Parenting like this is how I remained ignorant of menstruation and the reproductive system even at age 16.
 

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When my younger brother was about 6 years old I overheard a conversation he was having with the little boy next door. According to the neighbor, (whose parents worked in a hospital so he should know), the hospital is full of eggs. There are pink eggs and blue eggs. When the mommy and daddy want to have a baby, they go to the hospital and pick out an egg. Then the rooster comes in and sits on the egg for a really long time. Finally, when it's time, the egg hatches. Then the mommy and daddy go to the hospital to pick up their baby. Sometimes the baby isn't ready too be picked up so the mommy stays there for a few days until the baby is ready. Then the daddy goes and brings the mommy and the baby home.<br><br>
Now fast forward another 6 years and I am pregnant wth my first. My dear little brother wants to know how the baby got in there. I explain the whole process to him in fairly basic terms. At the end of my explanation he looked at me in horror. "My mom and dad wouldn't do that. They're too nice." My dear little brother is now the father of two and grandfather of two. He finally figured out the truth of where babies come from.<br><br>
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I think going into too great of detail the first time is a mistake. Alot of times we tend to give kids more information than they really want. However, once they start probing with further questions then it is okay to give them more.<br><br>
A simple, "where do babies come from" does not always necessitate a birds-and-the-bees talk. Especially if you are dealing with a 3 year old.<br><br>
I have a friend whose 4 year old asked how he could get another brother or sister. His mom's response to him was, "first mommy and daddy have to have a long talk." He was actually satisfied with that answer.
 

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I believe in being honest and straightforward, while not necessarily having to answer more than is asked. The birds and bees talk can happen one question and answer at a time over a period of years. My daughter is only two, so all I've had to say so far is that it is mommy and daddy that make the baby (She asked if the doctor made it -- don't know where she got that idea!). I doubt that she would understand any more than that at this age. When she gets a little older I'm sure she'll ask the next logical question, and when she does I will be honest and straightforward in my answer. I'm sure by the time she gets to school she'll know everything -- so she won't have to learn the schoolyard version.<br><br>
I'm glad my daughter isn't the only one who thought that babies come out through the belly button! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Oh the joys of religion<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
My dd asked where the new baby came from and I told her "God". <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I have a book which tells from a Catholic perspective how when a man and woman love each other they go to God and tell him they want to be together forever. Then, when they want a baby they ask God to bless them with one, and the special love the mommy and daddy have come together with a gift from God to make a baby. The book is good b/c it also has cartoon naked pictures which show "this is a boy, boy's have a penis, it is on the outside, that is just the right place for it. This is a girl, girls have a vagina, it is on the inside, that is just the right place for it." blah blah blah. She actually already knew vulva (the more important term I thought, seeing as how that was what she was pointing to at the time) and she knows penis and scrotum from watching her brother's diaper changes and bathing with him, she also occasionally draws anatomically correct pictures of the whole family <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
When I got pregnant this time, I borrowed the fabulous video, "You are a Masterpiece" which clearly explains fetal development using just the right terms and I think it starts with the egg and sperm coming together (gotta borrow that again). It is suggested for ages 5 and up I think, but my 3 year old understood it all quite well and also knows "umbilical cord"<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I also had a couple of 12 week fetal models that the kids carried around for a couple of weeks when I was around that stage, and my dd asks me daily how big the baby is now. I think kids are fascinated by fetal development, even moreso than the birds and bees part.<br><br>
For your situation, I would tell as much as he desires to know, and while I think it's good to be careful not to overwhelm, I think there is a good chance he will hear it somewhere else. I hope to have my kids know all of it by that age, but I won't force it on them if they don't seem ready. I learned all about everything from my best friend in kindergarten<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:<br><br>
Definitely check out the "You are a Masterpiece" video if he wants to know about how babies develop in utero.<br><br>
I am trying to explain how our babies come out when the Dr. cuts mommy's tummy open but that most mommies can push the babies out through their vagina and vulva. I want her to know the "natural" way as normal, YK?<br><br>
OK, I'm rambling.<br><br>
Good luck, bite the bullet, and tell him that you are ready to answer his questions whenever he has some.
 

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Now is the perfect time to explain this to him!<br><br>
I just would be honest and straightfoward. mommy has eggs, daddy has sperm, etc. I did this for a while until they asked how the egg and the sperm got together. so, i told them. and my now 13 yr old son was horrified that not only did his dad and i "do that" but that he himself one day would have to do that "just to have a baby". i assured him that he wouldnt mind, not one bit, when the time comes!<br><br>
My youngest know that he grew inside me, and that he came out of me and all that, but no questions on the logistics.....yet.
 

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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;"><i>Originally posted by Meiri</i><br><b>I found a wonderful book from which to start my explanations.<br><br><span style="text-decoration:underline;">How Babies Are Made</span> by Andrew C. Andry adn Steven Schepp<br><br>
It's illustrated with paper cut outs. It begins with how seeds are made from egg and pollen, then moves on to chickens, then dogs, then humans, all very simply done. It hits the main points without being too graphic.<br><br></b></td>
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That's the book my parents got for us! I still vividly remember the cut-out illustrations. LOL.
 

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Me, too! I had the same book as a kid, and your post brought it all back to me, lol!
 

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My youngest dd had lots of questions, and I progressively got more detailed. Then my sister bought her the book "Where did I come from?". We read that and her only comment was "did you and daddy do that when you made me?" Yep. And that was that, she's never asked since (she was/is 5). My older dd (7) has never asked anything, but I'm quite sure I noticed her reading the book one day, so hopefully she knows as well.<br><br>
I'm not sure why it's such a big deal. I think we make it wierd by acting embarassed about it. Kids don't think that way when they are young, which is why I think it's good to tell them then. No mysteries. It's just matter of fact.
 

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with questions like that, I like to ask,<br>
"What do YOU think?"<br><br>
DD's answer will tell me where to start- and finish- my explanation!
 
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