[mama-aya]

Okay, okay, maybe I'm just really dumb. Maybe this is why we have such a hard time making babies!
But seriously, I can't feel anything in there remotely like a nose or a chin. Just sort of a wall, there. I've been told I have a retroverted uterus, so maybe it makes sense, but I haven't been able to find anything helpful online. Our library doesn't have TCOYF, and Borders never does either, and I hate to order it without at least seeing it first.
Long ago, before DH, I went to planned parenthood and got a diaphragm, and the np never said anything about a retroverted uterus, but I never could get that diaphragm in right, and ended up rubbing myself raw and getting an infection, which was treated quickly, but I never tried a diaphragm again. A few years ago I tried those menstrual cups, Instead, I think. And I used up the whole box without ever figuring out how to get them in right.
Okay, this is pathetic, I know.
Is cervical position even all that important? I am intensely familiar with cm, although a little worried that maybe since I'm not getting it right off my cervix that I'm not even doing that well.
Help!

 

[BeeandOwlsMum]

Hi there!
You aren't dumb. It is hard to check your cervix, especially if you don't know what you are looking for.

Checking your cervical position can be illuminating, but it is not neccessary.

If you have a slightly tipped uterus, when you check and run into that "wall", move your finger forward or backward and see if you can find the cervical opening.

I highly recommend TCOYF. It helped me a LOT with checking my cervix, as well as reconizing my CM. You can look at some of the pages on Amazon.com. TCOYF

There are also some pictures that helped me to know what I was looking for...warning though, they are actual pictures of a woman's cervix throughout the cycle.
Pictures

 

[Jennifer Z]

I have a hard time checking, but another way to tell for some people is how it feels when you have sex.

Warning: might be TMI

If you find yourself squirming around so he doesn't get in as deep, your cervix is probably in the non-fertile stage (and you are instinctively trying to keep him from bumping it because it hurts). If you are instinctively trying to get him to go deeper and physically trying to get as open as possible, it is probably in the more fertile stage.

Oh, another thing, we found it a lot easier for dh to check. Have him read about it in TCOYF. We sorta made it a part of foreplay at times. He doesn't have fingernails (ouch!) and he can get a better angle to be able to tell.

 

[mama-aya]

Okay, okay! I'll order TCOYF already.
As far as getting DH to check-ha! He's already pretty sure that I'm only horny for baby-making purposes. I'm not sure how to convince him that checking my cervix (or telling me about it) is NOT about baby-making, and really just about how much I adore him.
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And does anyone know why the cervix is high during fertile times? Wouldn't it make more sense for it to be low and open? Or is that a germ-protection-function?

 

[jenniferB]

jennifer Z what a great description!! i think i'm going to add that category to my charts.

mama-aya, i've also been trying to check my cervix this month am not sure i've really found it. i think i finally found it a day or two after o'ing but is was very soft. not nose like at all.

an ff expert says that some women have soft cervixs after o'ing. which tells me that maybe cervix checking may not be the greatest indicator...well for me anyway.

 

[mama-aya]

Ha! I found it.
And didn't I feel like the world's biggest dork sitting there proud of myself for correctly identifying a body part I can't believe it's taken me almost 31 years to discover. Jeesh!
I'm not sure what good it'll do me yet, but its interesting to have figured out how to check, anyway.
So, yay!

 

[Jessviola]

jennifer, i think when your cervix is fertile it's supposed to feel more like your bottom lip. http://www.webwomb.com has some good info on checking CP and CM

 

[coleslaw]

mama-aya, Oh pul- eeze!! You felt like a dork? How about me who can't even ponder the thought of trying to attempt to find my cervix without feeling lightheaded.

I think you should be proud!!!!