DH & I have been married almost 4 years & overall have a great relationship. We really trust & respect each other, help each other out, etc. But ever since DS was born we've been feeling more & more distant. I knew it was bound to happen to some extent... DS is very high-needs so we almost never have time to ourselves. Maybe once or twice a month we can get him to sleep in the stroller for 1/2 an hour so we can have time together. All the rest of the time DS is with us, sleeping with us, eating with us, napping with us, etc. We aren't ready to leave him with anyone else for a 'date night' and even if we were, HE'S not ready to be left (he just doesn't feel comfortable enough with anyone, we were getting close with my sister but she may be moving across the country in a couple weeks!!) Intimacy is almost non-existant (because DS is so demanding and if we can get him to sleep we're too tired lol!) and we have never been physically affectionate (although I think we both would like to be) -- we can go several days without hugs/kisses which is kind of sad now that I think about it!!! But the emotional closeness especially is what's suffering. I don't know if we're just too tired, too drained, too overextended... we're both working hard (we both have full-time jobs and no childcare... plus a house that's only partly finished!!) DH is not the romantic type (and every time I bring this up, he comes home the next day with flowers, and then does nothing romantic until I bring it up again months & months later) but he does so much for me every day. We definitely have very different ways of showing love. I'm more of a talking type, tell him I love him, etc. and he's more of a doing type (helping out around the house etc. is how he shows his love). Sorry this is getting really long, I was just trying to give some background, but anyway... what are ways we can begin to feel closer again?????