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Hello,<br>
I'm sure there must be a thread on this some where but I seem to get lost reading all of the threads...<br>
My boys are 5 and I need some sleep. They still wake up in the night and yell at the top of their lungs for me to come up to their room. Luckily my other children usually sleep through it. They wont dress themselves or go to the bathroom with out me standing by the door and throw a fit when I suggest they wipe themselves. They don't want anyone but me to pour their water or fix food or even hand them things. They don't always get their way of course but they always let you know how much they dislike it and sometimes just refuse to drink or eat what was given them. It mainly drives me crazy when they are both demanding to be dressed in separate rooms at the same time and screaming that they are afraid to be alone in the hall or the bathroom or the bedroom. Wow, we sound like a mess. But I would love some advice and one good long uninterrupted nights sleep. Thanks!
 

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Are your boys okay? I mean, it sounds like there's something deeper going on with regard to anxiety. Being afraid to be left in a room in their own house?? What do you think is going on there? Also, it seems to me that there may be possibly some magical thinking stuff going on - like rituals or obsessions... maybe like YOU have to hand them their cereal or else it's contaminated or they will have a bad day or something like that. Am I reading that right?
 

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I've met kids who act like that so your guys aren't alone. My son went through a "the hallway is scary" phase. It lasted about a month and then he was fine. I think he was working on his independance.<br><br>
I've helped build independance by playing games. Ok, who can get dressed faster? Can you get your pants on before mom gets to the bathroom and back? My little man would giggle and laugh as he would do things "faster" then me. Then it proved to him that he could do it. Then it changed to me being downstairs and yelling up that I bet I could get upstairs before he got his shirt and socks on, etc.<br><br>
Now if challenges aren't fun to them, then you'd need to find a different way. My little man loves a good challenge.<br><br>
I might also suggest working on one area at a time to build confidence. Maybe getting themselves dressed for a couple of weeks, then moving to working on pouring water and cereal for themselves. Working on letting them know they are big, strong, capable kids, who are awesomely able to do things themselves. Sometimes they just need a cheerleader.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> I know it isn't easy. But you can get through this!
 
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