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<p>My 2.8 year old DS is doing great with the potty.  He hasn't had a pee accident in about a week.  He even started to want to stand to pee - sparked entirely on his own - and is doing great with it.  He can pull his pants down and up pretty much on his own.  I have him in a diaper at night and for nap and am contemplating seeing if we can start getting away from those, too, soon.  The bummer is he still won't poop in the potty.  He's gone a couple of times and we made a huge deal of the achievement and we talk about how it's the next step and have even offered bribes! <span><img alt="bag.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/bag.gif" style="width:18px;height:19px;"></span>  I try to see if he'll just sit on the potty at about the time I think he needs to poop.  I notice he's pooping and ask him if he wants to go or say "time to go potty."  He refuses and poops in his underwear or diaper everyday and then denies doing it or resists changing it.  Any suggestions for getting him to poop on the potty?</p>
 

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<p>Good luck here mama, I hope someone has some great ideas.  My DS is almost 2 and has been peeing in the potty for about 4 months, but we've only had 2 poops.</p>
 

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<p>No idea. I told DS that when he learns to poop in the potty, he gets to wear underwear, and until then he's in diapers. But, he's only 21mos, so I may change my mind if he's still not pooping in the potty at this time next year! He sat on the potty twice trying to poop but most of the time he won't even try (and he's never 'succeeded' even once). Hope someone has some good advice.</p>
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<p>P.S. My DS wouldn't pee in the potty consistently until he decided to do it standing up. So he seems to have an aversion to sitting on the potty at all even to pee.</p>
 

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<p>Not sure if you noticed my other thread, but this has been an ongoin journey for us recently, and we are pretty much in the same boat as you.  The only thing different is my son wont deny that he already has pooped, and he doesnt fight me to change it.  He actually asks me if I am mad <span><img alt="bag.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/bag.gif" style="width:18px;height:19px;"></span> I tell him no, just disapointed.  Weve finally had a few breakthroughs.  The only thng I have noticed works?  TIME.  Waiting for HIM to be ready.  lol  Kinda takes all the control out of it, doesnt it?  lol sorry</p>
 

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Im in the same boat too. DD will pee in the potty 95% of the time, but not poop. She hides when she needs to poop and will poop in her underwear or on the floor.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>~Charlie's~Angel~</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1282142/how-to-get-them-to-poop-in-the-potty#post_16079622"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-bottom:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-right:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>  Kinda takes all the control out of it, doesnt it?  lol sorry</p>
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Ha! Pretty much sums it up!  </p>
 

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<p>I am having the exact same question.  My daughter will be 3 in February and she has been willingly going pee in the potty but not one poop.  She wears underwear all day and only wears pull-ups when we will be out for a while and when she is sleeping.  She has been pooping in her underwear daily.  I'm getting really tired of cleaning up the mess.  She was hysterical today when I picked her up mid-poop and placed her on the potty.  She did not like that at all.  I don't believe in forcing her to do much of anything, but this is getting old.  Not sure what to do.  I guess the only thing to do is wait it out until she is ready and willing.</p>
 

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<p>I have to echo. TIME TIME TIME! hahaha! My DS was 100% for pees. No big deal. He'd just go on his own without much fanfare. But the pooping was driving me NUTS. He'd just poop in his pants and then say, "I pooped". No worries about it, no regrets, nothin'. There was really nothing that would get him to do it in the potty. No bribes, no reasoning, no incentive, nothing. He just didn't care. So, I stopped caring and just cleaned him up and changed him. I stopped even discussing it with him. He's just started consistently pooping in the potty in the last few days. I don't know what changed other than HIM deciding he would be in control of it and not me.</p>
 

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<p>i have absolutely zero experience with this (was reading for future reference!) ...</p>
<p>but for the underwear poopers, would making them clean up after themselves possibly be a motivation to poop in the potty instead? obviously with help, but they can take off pants, help you empty them out, fill up a bucket with water, soak clothes, wipe down the floor where clean-up took place, wash hands, etc.....</p>
 

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nkintzel - I was thinking this may be our tactic after all.  My DS decided he was willing to pee in the potty when I stopped talking about it.  How long did the pooping in pants go on before he started going in the potty?<br>
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<p>Take his pants off. Seriously. Let him go naked around the house. Have lots of talks about what poop is and why it has to leave and where it goes (in a pipe under the house, out to a pipe in the street, etc...). My ds1 wouldn't poop and actually would ask me for a diaper to poop in. I think psychologically it's hard to "let go" of the poop. It took about 4 days (we had tried bribes and making him help us clean the undies - he didn't care) of staying home with him pantsless. He didn't poop and would get distressed so I would take him to the potty and he would balk. We talked more about pooping. He watched us poop and flush. We waved goodbye to the poop. </p>
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<p>Finally, he pooped in the potty. He hasn't had any accidents since then (he was 3 years and 1 month when he trained himself and he's now 4 years and two weeks).</p>
 

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<p>DS potty-trained very easily/quickly at 2.5 years old.  However, he really hesitated going poop in the toilet.  He held it in the first few days that we were doing potty training, and I could tell he was uncomfortable but scared to go in the toilet.  So, I let him go in a pull-up.  For the next month, I put a pull-up on him whenever he needed to go poo - I can't remember now if I could tell he needed to go, or if he told me - I think he might have asked for a pull-up when he needed to go.  Anyways, after about a month, we used the last pull-up, and so the next time he had to go poo, I told him we didn't have any more pull-ups and he needed to go in the toilet.  And that was totally fine for him - I guess at that point, he was ready for it?  Or the reasoning was enough to make it okay?  Anyways, whatever it was, he's been pooping in the toilet since then, no problems.</p>
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<p>So I guess I'd recommend taking it step-wise - telling them that when they need to go poo, you'll put a pull-up or diaper on, and then go from there?  We had an exceptionally easy time potty-training, even with the 1 month of pooping in pull-ups, so I don't know if my advice is valid, but it's what worked for us :)  Good luck!</p>
 

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<p>If I could go back and say one thing to myself when we started pt with my ds I would say don't pressure him about the poop. It was a huge problem for me, I got way to upsetand it made us all miserable. It will happen in time. Encourage, offer, don't pressure or bribe. You can not make a kid poop, eat, or sleep.</p>
 

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<p>first step is to get him pooping outside of the diaper. is the poop fairly regular, like you know you can expect it within an hour or two of the same time every day? let him go naked during that time. winter months are great for this -- if you are lucky enough to be home a lot with nothing urgent to do. now, he's apparently attached to pooping in a diaper/pull up. you can tell him that he can certainly poop in it, just not wearing it. you will open the pull up and put it on top of the potty seat (hopefully you have one of those little kid potties) or the toilet seat insert, or even just lay it open on the floor and he can squat over it. if you can just get him to do this, he will have made a huge stride toward toilet training. because once he sees for himself that he can do that, he will on his own progress to going on the toilet. if it were me, i would give him a couple of days notice that this change is going to come. as in, you have a couple more days to keep pooping in your diaper/pull up like you are used to, but on saturday (or whenever you decide), we are going to start making a change that i think you are eventually going to like. here's what we are going to do. it will be fun!! (tell him.)</p>
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<p>just my opinion, but making them clean up their own underwear sounds punitive to me. the kid is going to resent you for it, and resist more. you want to build up their confidence and self esteem instead. as in, how proud and impressed you are at his peeing in the toilet and standing up even, WOW!! you are so accomplished, i bet you could actually poop in the toilet too.</p>
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<p>and for those whose kid poops in their underwear on a regular basis... stop putting them in underwear when you expect a poop!! the very best is if they can go naked or at least bottomless. give them a place to do it, even if it's not the toilet. lay out an open diaper on the floor and let them use that. way better for both of you than using underpants that way!</p>
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<p>keep things positive. don't get mad, or frustrated. and don't give up.</p>
 
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