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I was talking to someone about circumcision, mentioned that I am against it. She told me that she had her son circ'ed twice! I'm not really sure what she was thinking by telling me that. Maybe an in-your-face type comment. Maybe her way of agreeing with me?<br><br>
So any suggestions for a response? I was too shocked to say anything. I would not say anything too rude though.
 

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I think it's time that people who abuse their children get the horrified responses their actions warrant. Really. It's uncomfortable for sure but I'm working on training myself to react with horror instead of be horrified inside and say nothing. It's societal pressure more than anything that will get people to think twice about it. We have to reach a tipping point where circ isn't cool anymore (like cigarettes).<br><br>
But since the opportunity for a first reaction is past (it happens to me a lot too) I guess you have to decide if you are going to say anything at all. You could say something like "I felt confused and uncomfortable when you responded to my comments against circumcision by saying that your son was circ'd twice because I was unsure of what you meant by it. Would you be willing to clarify?"<br><br>
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"Twice, hmmm? You mean, they screwed it up/it wasn't to your liking the first time? Circumcision is cosmetic surgery on the genitals of a non-consenting minor, and it's not uncommon for doctors to botch the job. Even more common than circumcision revision are problems like penile adhesions and meatal stenosis. I hope your doctor explained those risks, as well as the protective, immunological, and sexual functions of the foreskin. I also hope after a second circumcision, when he 'grows into' his penis he has enough skin to accomodate an erection without pain, skin-splits, and bleeding. But hey, glad it's cute. The long-term functionality of a man's penis isn't nearly as important as whether mom and dad find it attractive for a few years when he's little."<br><br>
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Yup, dh was just told the same thing the other day by one of his c0-workers. They didnt do it right the first time and had the kid go back the second time. It is absolutely awful! What are people thinking? Oh, yeah, they arent! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">"Twice, hmmm? You mean, they screwed it up/it wasn't to your liking the first time? Circumcision is cosmetic surgery on the genitals of a non-consenting minor, and it's not uncommon for doctors to botch the job. Even more common than circumcision revision are problems like penile adhesions and meatal stenosis. I hope your doctor explained those risks, as well as the protective, immunological, and sexual functions of the foreskin. I also hope after a second circumcision, when he 'grows into' his penis he has enough skin to accomodate an erection without pain, skin-splits, and bleeding. But hey, glad it's cute. The long-term functionality of a man's penis isn't nearly as important as whether mom and dad find it attractive for a few years when he's little."<br><br>
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beautifully said. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: poor baby.
 

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This all seems incredibly cruel.<br><br>
But think of all the money the surgeons are getting. So much extra for so many double visits. *Sigh* it won't finish until parents get made to pay for it ALL out of pocket, especially the recircs.<br><br>
Perhaps someone should point out to the insurance companies paying for all these second operations, that if they hadn't paid for it in the first place, they wouldn't be forking out for a second one that is like 30 times as expensive (assuming inpatient stay, general anaesthesia etc.). If parents had to pay several thousand dollars out to get it "fixed" and were warned about it before they did it the first time, I doubt many would take the risk.
 

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"That's horrible! Why?"
 

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My reflex response would have probably been, "OMG! That is horrible! The poor little guy!" (accompanied by a facial expression filled with shock and horror) and I probably would have asked why...<br><br>
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I think I would ask why, so that I could have an intro to educate them gently about loose circumcisions, resulting adhesions, and other likely reasons that they had him recircumcised. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I'm sorry, what an awful conversation.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">"Twice, hmmm? You mean, they screwed it up/it wasn't to your liking the first time? Circumcision is cosmetic surgery on the genitals of a non-consenting minor, and it's not uncommon for doctors to botch the job. Even more common than circumcision revision are problems like penile adhesions and meatal stenosis. I hope your doctor explained those risks, as well as the protective, immunological, and sexual functions of the foreskin. I also hope after a second circumcision, when he 'grows into' his penis he has enough skin to accomodate an erection without pain, skin-splits, and bleeding. But hey, glad it's cute. The long-term functionality of a man's penis isn't nearly as important as whether mom and dad find it attractive for a few years when he's little."<br><br>
Jen</div>
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I would absolutely say something like this...poot little thing <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: ...
 
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