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A new neighbor in our area is going to be a team captain for the Relay For Life in June in our small town. She is a breast cancer survivor.<br><br>
She called me the other day to ask us to attend a meeting about the race this past weekend. As dh was to be recovering from kidney stone blasting, I told her we couldn't attend. She gave her sympathies to dh and said she'd drop the information by our house this week.<br><br>
For a variety of reasons, we do not wish to be involved with this event. I applaud her desire to support a charity of her choice. But, I don't like being pressured by friends/family/neighbors to support/buy/donate to activities/charities. Dh & I prefer to keep the charities to which we donate personal. We don't go asking people to support our choices (I don't call and ask that <span style="text-decoration:underline;">they</span> donate to Nature Conservancy, for example!).<br><br>
Sigh, it's bad enough when we get hit with the school fundraisers and the little kids asking for money (again, we homeschool and don't solicit funding from anyone for ds's activities). <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
Dh said to tell her we'll be gone on vacation during the timing of the local race and to offer her a donation instead. But, we do not donate to the American Cancer Society. I don't want to give money to a charity we don't support, just to keep things happy with a neighbor.<br><br>
To say we don't support the ACS/Relay For Life makes us look like bad people that don't care about cancer and its victims & survivors. Trust me, we DO have feelings about cancer. My darling mil died from aggressive lung cancer, my fil beat prostate cancer and my bil is a Hodgkins survivor. We have many friends that have survived it (and, sadly, a few that haven't). We choose to support cancer victims with direct help to them (financial, physical and emotional), rather than a large organization, and have done this many times.<br><br>
Any suggestions as to kindly tell her we're not willing to be involved??
She called me the other day to ask us to attend a meeting about the race this past weekend. As dh was to be recovering from kidney stone blasting, I told her we couldn't attend. She gave her sympathies to dh and said she'd drop the information by our house this week.<br><br>
For a variety of reasons, we do not wish to be involved with this event. I applaud her desire to support a charity of her choice. But, I don't like being pressured by friends/family/neighbors to support/buy/donate to activities/charities. Dh & I prefer to keep the charities to which we donate personal. We don't go asking people to support our choices (I don't call and ask that <span style="text-decoration:underline;">they</span> donate to Nature Conservancy, for example!).<br><br>
Sigh, it's bad enough when we get hit with the school fundraisers and the little kids asking for money (again, we homeschool and don't solicit funding from anyone for ds's activities). <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
Dh said to tell her we'll be gone on vacation during the timing of the local race and to offer her a donation instead. But, we do not donate to the American Cancer Society. I don't want to give money to a charity we don't support, just to keep things happy with a neighbor.<br><br>
To say we don't support the ACS/Relay For Life makes us look like bad people that don't care about cancer and its victims & survivors. Trust me, we DO have feelings about cancer. My darling mil died from aggressive lung cancer, my fil beat prostate cancer and my bil is a Hodgkins survivor. We have many friends that have survived it (and, sadly, a few that haven't). We choose to support cancer victims with direct help to them (financial, physical and emotional), rather than a large organization, and have done this many times.<br><br>
Any suggestions as to kindly tell her we're not willing to be involved??
