[Onemagicmummy]

DS1 wants this for christmas. we just cannot afford it now, we are behind of therent, council tax, wehad to chagne phone suppliers as were going to get cut off(we were going to change anyway, better deal and we can pay off old one a bit each week)
we sorted throught the stuff we have gotten them so far, he is getting this with some figures to go with it, 2 wooden build a toy kits, a race a car adn a bi-plane, some books, a puppet thearter/shop for them all to share, a puppet set made form wooden spoons that i am making my self, and a Dr who sonic screwdriver, a sonic pen, the master laser screwdriver (thises are baceuse his bro brok his otehr sonic screwdriver and he was really upset) and a Dr who tardis toy, yes it a fir bt but most fo it was from a cheap shop, the castle only cost £14.99 the figures £3.99 each. he has done well.

any more presents to be bought are for the girls as they only have 2 things each. the boys are pretty mcuh sorted but i know fine well he si going to be gutted abotu teh van, what can i tell him!!

Kiz

 

[E's Mama]

It sounds like he is getting quite a bit to me! We told DS that he will be getting 1 thing from Mom and Dad this year as finances are tight, and he should be happy because other children don't have nearly as many toys as he has. We have encouraged him to save his own money for anything else he wants to get.
I bet once your son opens all the presents you already got for him, he will forget about the other thing anyway.

 

[4evermom]

Oh, I think I want that van.

It looks pretty cool...

So you got the Prince Caspian Castle cheap and can't actually return it to buy the van? That would be my first thought. My second thought is that the girls are younger and might not be aware or care if their gifts are more modest. You could set aside the castle for another occasion, like a birthday.

 

[4evermom]

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Originally Posted by E's Mama I bet once your son opens all the presents you already got for him, he will forget about the other thing anyway.

Mine wouldn't.

 

[Onemagicmummy]

he does have enought. i will jsut have to forwarn him that there is no van, the shops are sold out and santa doesnt make that "type" of toy.

he is still going to be gutted but once he opens the presents he should be OK. i will get it him later when i can afford and find it.

Kiz

 

[AllisonR]

He is getting a good variety of toys. That van looks so cool though. If my DS was older, I'd think it was great. You're right, he probably won't forget just because he opens everything else. But I'd be honest and say that it costs a lot of money, you do not have the money now, so he will have to wait. But then maybe give him a concrete day (that you also know you can manage), like his birthday, or next summer.... I tell my DS and DD we will not buy XYZ because it costs too much money. That's life.

 

[amcal]

Personally, I'd ask if he wanted the one bigger gift or all the smaller ones.

 

[DreamsInDigital]

My children make their wish lists with the foreknowledge that asking for something does not guarantee they will get it.

I would not mention it and only discuss it if he asks specifically about that toy after opening the rest of his gifts.

 

[Breeder]

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Originally Posted by DreamsInDigital My children make their wish lists with the foreknowledge that asking for something does not guarantee they will get it. I would not mention it and only discuss it if he asks specifically about that toy after opening the rest of his gifts.

Yep to this. He might make a big deal out of it, or he might not. Kids have a way of surprising us you know.

My DS has never gotten everything on his list... maybe one day if we become Oprah-rich that can happen. In the meantime Daddy will just have to bust out this on the guitar.

 

[Heavenly]

Wow! He is already getting a ton of stuff! I just tell my kids that we don't always get everything we want, and honestly, there is nothing wrong with a kid learning that. My children are each only getting 4 things (for example my almost 8 year old son is getting a wooden chess set ($15), an MP3 player ($15), a large stuffed snake ($10) and a Transformer ($15). I spent around $50-$60 per kid and I am confidant my kids will be happy with what they get because that is how I have raised them. Tell him about all the children in the world who don't get anything for Christmas. My children and I do Operation Christmas Child and the Angel Tree every year and have long conversations about people who don't have as much as we do. It is has helped them to gain perspective on what they truly need.

 

[octobermom]

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Originally Posted by 4evermom Mine wouldn't.

I wouldn't have I was the child that got kinda hooked onto a certain gift in my head and even though I understood I couldn't have it all it was hard.. Saying that though it was something I had to learn I don't mean I had to me set up for diapointment but there was jsut a simple reality to the situation. My DD is 6 and she can be a bit like me in this. Gifts is my far her strongest LL and sometimes she hyper focus on something and had a very hard time letting it go. I do tend to help her see our thought process (or santas ect) so like that I might shw her the sight and read the reviews that show this toy may not be a s great as some think we also talk about if we want on big gift or many smaller ones or a compromise .. In the end its "my" choice and she might not always understand and for 3 years afteer I hear remember when I really wanted XYZ..

but its still well life.

Deanna

 

[octobermom]

Another thing this Christmas DD is just old enough shes "making a list" but she just cuts out pictures from magizines or draws pictures from TV stores whatever her list is filled with barbies and my little pony and disney stuff cause thats whats everywhere.. But honestly I know her better she will ohh and ahh over a tree filled with disney princess and barbies and for a week woud show it all off and say Ohh mommy I LOOOVE you and then they would all be abandoned and she'd go around telling me shes board.. SO shes getting her 1 simple barbie and I'll add a pony to her collection (the one character things she does play with a ton) but honestly thats about it for "TV toys" I know her better shes getting things that she might at first not "get" but in the end I know she will love.

Deanna

 

[bumblebeeskies]

As a pp suggested, can you possibly take some of the other things back and get him the van with that money? I am kind've torn on this. I in no way, think a kid should get everything on their Christmas list or any other time of the year, but if this is the ONE thing he has been talking about, I think I would try to get it. I certainly don't get dd even close to everything she asks for, but if she talks about a specific toy for a couple months, I try to get it.

 

[TwinsTwicePlusTwo]

Wow, that is a neat toy! I think I might have to get one for my littlest ones. Honestly, if it's possible for you to return the other things you've bought and give him only this, I would definitely do it that way. From the prices you quoted, it sounds like you've already spent as much or more than they're asking for the van on Amazon. If it's what he really wants, he shouldn't be disappointed not to get anything else.

If you really, really can't return the other toys, then explain to your son that you can't afford the van right now, and maybe promise to get it for him on his birthday or something.

 

[LynnS6]

By my count, he's getting EIGHT things for Christmas, not counting the puppet theater and the puppets to share.

That's a lot of things.

Yes, he'll remember. I never got my life sized Big Henry doll. You know what? I've lived a long and happy life without it and learned a valuable lesson that you can still have a beautiful Christmas and not get everything you want.

You can tell him honestly that he got 8 things, more than his bro and sisters and you couldn't afford more.

 

[Jessy1019]

My daughter is six and understands that she isn't going to get everything she asks for. When she makes her lists, we talk about prices and how asking for something HUGE means she's not going to get much -- would she rather have many small things or one big one? So far, she's gone for many small things for the past two years (when she's been able to understand costs).

However, there are always a few things from her list that she focuses on, and I do whatever I can to make sure she gets those.

If your son is really fixated on the one toy, it seems like the best option is to -- give him the cost analysis I talked about above the next time he mentions it, and then either return some of the gifts you bought to get him the van or give him what you already have based on his preference.

 

[Onemagicmummy]

the err oppotunity arose last night, we were watching miracle on 34th street, he started asking questons about santa, he announced at the end that he believes in santa.
i told him taht yes santa does bring toys to children but some toys he cant make, cos they are too big/fiddly/etc, so the toy makers here mak the toys, mummy's and daddys buy them then sned the to santa for "safe keeping" untill christmas then he brings them to us and adds his own special present. it opened the door to explain that all the toy makers making his van have all sold out, (seriously i can not find it in a brick and morter shop) he was upset but i promised him 100 times over he can get the van for his birthday, he seemed to take it OK.

Kiz

 

[ewe+lamb]

With the more expensive toys I encourage our kids to save up money for them, at the moment we're making piggy banks to save money for a wii that my dd wanted for christmas, maybe he could save up some money and buy it himself and he may appreciate it more in the end - my dd is the same age as your ds and she accepts this concept - do you think your ds would too?

 

[DaughterOfKali]

My son is on the autism spectrum but still understands that he will not be getting everything he asked for. As a matter of fact, he's not getting most of what he asked for. Yes, he's going to be disappointed but I told him that if he doesn't get something that he really wants, he can save his money to buy it.

He now has a bank (that adds up the money you put in). When he has enough money, he'll be able to buy the toy himself.

I NEVER got what I wanted when I was a kid. Never. It was a horrible feeling. I think that as long as they can get one item they wanted, then that's good enough.

I do explain that there are so many children in the world that don't get any gifts at all and that ds is lucky that he gets presents. (I also have ds choose some of his toys/books to donate to children in need).

 

[laohaire]

I see you already discussed it and it went ok - that's good!

I just wanted to point something out you may not have noticed. The toy looks really cool but the reviews are pretty poor. It seems the toy looks way cooler than it is. Naturally this won't mean a thing to your son, but this is just for you to know so you don't feel as bad about it.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/review/produ...owViewpoints=1