How to tell BF I'm pregnant?

Ouch, tough situation. Firstly, glad you are doing better and congrats on your pregnancy!

As for your BF, maybe an e-mail? I realize that it sounds like a cop-out in a way, but I think it will accomplish a few things. It will give your friend the news and allow her to compose herself and be kind to you. She would probably be horrified to know that you were about to tell her your great news while she was venting and dumping all over your pregnant friends. She would probably like a chance for a do-over, you know? It will give you a chance to tell her all you have been going through and explain your reason for the e-mail (rather than a phone call) while your thoughts are collected and you aren't afraid of offending her or being offended. You are obviously sympathetic to her situation and don't seem like you are angry with her, so give her a chance to be excited for you without the embarassment of the context of your last conversation. That is a little rambly, does that make sense? HTH!

I had a kinda sorta similar conversation with my bestie. I was telling her last summer that I was getting my IUD taken out so that this fall DH & I could TTC a summer baby. She's a straight shooter, & her immediate response was, "Eww!" then quickly backtracked & said something like "eww for me, not for you, I'm happy that I'm fixed.".....too late, damage done, feelings hurt, joy crushed, & thus sparked off the very first time I was truely pi$$ed off at her in 17 years. UGH! I didn't talk to her for nearly a month, very bad since I talk to her 3-4xs a week.

When I found out I was pregnant, I waited to share until I was "cornered". She called me whilst I was in the hospital getting fluids because of my allday sickness, & asked "OMG, why are you there?!" I fessed up why & I was nearly 11wks along. A quiet, oh, was all she said but it was understood why I hadn't told.

We've come to a silent understanding that she's not enthused, & I don't talk about my pregnancy unless she asks(rare).

Such an odd situation!

I was in a similarish boat with a bf. We have girls a week apart in age and spent our pregnancy together, they have been ttc unsuccessfully for 2.5 years now. We told them we were going to start ttc this fall and have talked about it alot (I am pretty young and had no probs the first time with my surprise, so I wasn't expecting any probs this time.) and sure enough we got preggers our first try. It was really hard to tell her and I could tell she put on a fake voice for me but at least it was over and done with, kwim? That was when I was 5weeks so she had time to get over it and deal with her saddness that we will not have babies the same time again. It was hard for her I am sure but she has never once acted anything less then happy...and I appreciated it! lol. I would say just do it and try to let her go shortly after so she can quietly deal with any emotions and then call her in a week or so and just act like normal.