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How can I tell if my breastfed baby was fed formula? He spent the night with relative Sunday night. he was sent with plenty of stored breastmilk. Last night he was super duper fussy and this morning his poop was not the same as usual. It was almost solid and smelled much different. He just started apples and has had pears before and his poop still seemed more like breast fed baby. I don't want to blindly accuse but if he was fed formula I will be soooooo mad. I won't be able to ever trust them if I don't find out for sure though. Help!!
 

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I think the only way you can tell is just to ask. I'm sorry you feel like your trust was betrayed. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think the only way you can tell is just to ask. I'm sorry you feel like your trust was betrayed. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"></div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nod.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nod"> I agree...just ask. I hope you find out they didn't. I'd be pretty upset too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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The poop does seem to give it away. Although my ff baby has the same poop as when she was receiving ebm. When she was getting both it changed to firmer and green in color. Now it is mustardy yellow with curds again. Weird.<br><br>
Maybe it wasn't formula but some other solid?...<br><br>
I am really hesitant to leave my baby with relatives for this reason. Not related to formula, but just respecting boundaries in general. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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It went from yellow and loose to greenish with some dark spots and solid. Everyone in my family knows that i did not want him to have formula. Problem is, he was with my inlaws! I don't know how to ask without causing problems. They already think I dont trust them but I wouldn't put it past my mother in law.
 

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Well, babies' poop can change. And she may have given him a taste of something (not formula). Or water. Or juice. Or he could be getting sick. I really think you do need to just say something like "Hey, Baby's tummy is upset and his diapers are different than usual. Did you happen to give him something other than the breastmilk I left?"
 

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For good reason it would seem!<br><br>
You have a right to know what is happening with your child there, you have to ask. How can you leave the baby there again with this hanging over everything? Oh, and if it turns out they DID, I wouldn't...and they'd KNOW why. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I agree thar you gotta ask in an open ended, non-confrontational way...better yet have dp ask.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Well, babies' poop can change. And she may have given him a taste of something (not formula). Or water. Or juice. Or he could be getting sick. I really think you do need to just say something like "Hey, Baby's tummy is upset and his diapers are different than usual. Did you happen to give him something other than the breastmilk I left?"</div>
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Yeah that. Also tell her the "the doctor needs to know everything that baby has eaten over the past few days."
 

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You are saddened at the thought that your own relatives would disobey your parenting instructions and you are concerned that your baby was given milk other than your own. I definitely think the stool sounds suspect, but as PP said, they could have given your LO something other than formula. You'll never know unless you ask. I like annettemarie's suggested statement/question. It's very non-accusing, but gets to the point.
 
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