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My ds is 14 months and I'm looking to get him used to holding utensils in his hand and start figuring the feeding thing out. However, I'm not sure if there's an easier way to go about than trial-and-error and lots of cleanup and when I should really help him learn. Anyone w/ any ideas? TIA!
 

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My dd wouldn't let me feed her anything with a utensils and learned everything by the messy trial and error method. She had a spoon from the time she was nine months old and she started to use it at about a year and learned very quickly, the fork came when she was about a year and a half, and the knife is a long ways off still. She did all of her learning on her own by watching me and by just trying. I would suggest feeding him on a easily cleanable floor or getting a cheap table cloth and putting it underneath for easier clean up, unless you have a dog and then let them do the clean up of the floor after the baby is done. My dd is almost three now and very good with her utensils but still a messy eater as was my brother until he was about eight so don't expect teaching him to make mealtimes mess free because you may be dissapointed.
 

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first try those ergo utensils, they are really nice and fit well in a toddlers odd grip. ANd start by letting them try with larger, chunkier things. Other than that, newpaper on the floor and towels around the neck really help w/ clean-up!
 

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We just give her a toddler spoon and/or fork and let her go to town. She's actually getting pretty good with it.<br><br>
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rice<br>
oatmeal<br>
yogurt (messy but fun)<br>
cottage cheese<br>
mashed potatoes<br>
refried beans<br>
pasta
 

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So do you put the food on a plate or in a bowl for them to start practicing with the utensils? Right now DS still just self-feeds foods from his high chair tray. He tends to chuck the plates and bowls on the floor.
 

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I usually use a bowl (easier to get things on the spoon/fork that way than a plate) and yeah, sometimes it gets tumped. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"> Life with a toddler is just messy...<br><br>
-Angela
 

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I second trying the ergo utensils...I can't remember the brand, but Toy R Us sells them. They are brightly colored, with handles that have a bit of bend to them and the spoons have little tiny holes in the spoon part (that helps things like yogurt and applesauce not slide off so easily). Those specific utensils makes it possible for little ones to eat well with utensils at an early age...I swear they are amazing!
 

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Neither of my dds had special treatment or training, and they just one day wanted to try it themselves. Dd2 even has eating issues but at 20 mos she loves to spear things with a fork. She prefers an adult sized fork like we are using. I say just expose them and when they are ready they will ask for a fork or spoon and try it. Both of my girls started becoming interested at around 18 mos. Trying to indroduce something before they are ready is just an exercise in frustration. Waiting until he's motivated to use it to actually feed himself (vs. painting the table or his hair with the spoon) will be less trouble for everyone.
 

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My dd finds the ergo ones very awkward fwiw. She does okay with typical toddler silverware and remarkably well with adult sized spoons.<br><br>
-Angela
 

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My daughter stopped letting us feed her at 9 months and insisted on finger foods. She would also take a spoon from us and self-feed since about 8 months. She is almost 14 months now and can *almost* scoop things with the spoon. She's pretty good at dipping it and has the scooping motion figured out but can't quite combine them yet.<br><br>
I've been showing her how to pierce food with her fork, and she tries so hard to do that too. She also insisted on having her food on plates since about 12 months or so. One day she asked for one I had, I gave it to her, and she has insisted on one ever since!<br><br>
I think eating is just one of her strong skill sets! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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My DD is also 14 months, and I've been wondering this myself. She's pretty good at eating off an unbreakable plate or out of a bowl, and she usually manages to keep the food in the bowl or on the plate for at least half the meal before she dumps it, and everybody keeps telling me it's time to let her use a spoon, and that I'm "holding her back" by doing the spoon-feeding myself.<br><br>
She's just not interested, though. She loves to feed herself things she can pick up, even tricky stuff like shredded cheese, but when it comes to the sloppy stuff like oatmeal or yogurt, she lets me do it without a murmur.<br><br>
Which makes me think I should wait until she shows an interest.<br><br>
But do you think I'm "holding her back" by not letting her try?
 

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Well, personally I don't think babies should be spoon fed at all, so if she wants to eat things that need a spoon, let her do it.<br><br>
-Angela
 

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I guess I'm reading to let the little ones try w/ a meal that's a bit easier to scoop up and see if they're interested. I plan on maybe trying it weekly until he shows some real interest. The only issue is the white carpet that I have everywhere - sigh - oh well. Curious when everyone's toddler showed interest in using utensils and when they got proficient at it?
 

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She really loves her oatmeal and her yogurt. I couldn't deny her the chance to eat them just because she doesn't have the skill with the utensils yet. That doesn't seem fair. I don't understand the objection to spoon-feeding. It's not like she's being force-fed. She knows how to say "no" when she's had enough, and even before she could do that she knew how to turn her head and push my hand away.
 

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From a lot of reading, it seems that babies are not ready for foods they can't feed themselves (a taste here and there is different) If you child LOVES oatmeal and yogurt, I bet she can eat them herself. (assuming no physical issues)<br><br>
-Angela
 

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I don't think this is something you can actually teach them, just model it. It's like asking when do I "teach" my child to crawl, to sit-up or to walk? My 2 yo has bouts of using utensils and bouts of not. Depends on how hungry she is etc. One day she insisted on hands and DH had some issue that she needed to learn about utensils - well she wouldn't use them at all that night. I told him later, to just let it go. She's actually very good with them and I once had a compliment at the mall to that effect - she was much younger. Anyway, don't worry about it - they'll pick it all up in good time and have impeccable table manners, just like their parents.
 

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ITA with the above! Dogs are awesome when you have messy toddlers! With my son, we started around 18 months with giving him a spoon for thicker things like oatmeal or mac and cheese. I had to "help" guide his hand from bowl to mouth at first, and within a month or so he got the hang of it. Now lately he has decided that it is more fun to eat with his hands again! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">From a lot of reading, it seems that babies are not ready for foods they can't feed themselves (a taste here and there is different) If you child LOVES oatmeal and yogurt, I bet she can eat them herself. (assuming no physical issues)<br><br>
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Well, she CAN feed them to herself, by grabbing big sloppy handfuls and shoveling them into her mouth, while at least half of it dribbles down her clothes and all over the floor and the highchair. She also enjoys making puddles of it all over her highchair tray, and then leaning over and lapping it up like a dog. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> It's just that I'm trying to encourage less stomach-turning methods of enjoying these foods!<br><br>
My current feeling is that we'll wait until she asks for a spoon, or until she tries to grab the spoon while I'm feeding her. Until then, we'll eat with utensils in front of her and offer a model of how it's done, and I'll let her try occasionally when I'm not in any hurry and have time for cleanup.<br><br>
I know I should relax more about the sloppy eating, but it's just so HARD. I can handle one sloppy meal in a day, but cleaning up a mess of that magnitude is too much three or four times a day.
 
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