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Okay so my DP and I agree that this is a great sounding name for a girl:<br>
Emilia Melo. (Not sure of middle name yet. )<br><br>
It has a nice ring to it, yes?<br><br>
It's just Amelia spelled in the Latin way (DP is Dominican and he claims that in DR it would be spelled this way, I'm inclined to believe him.) I actually like this spelling better.<br><br>
Plus it sounds nice, the M's and L's etc.<br><br>
Here's the issue though... MY name is EMILY. DP LOVES this- his attitude is, as long as he is completely in love with me and hoping that the baby comes out with all of my good qualities, why not name her something close to my name?<br><br>
Some days I feel a little weird about that- like somehow it wouldn't be special enough. I know that boys have a long history of being named after their father but this isn't usually true for girls. I've always thought the John Sr/John Jr thing was a little weird-- I feel like kids should be sent the message from the beginning that they are welcome to be whoever they are- a unique person, separate person from their parents, siblings, and everyone else.<br><br>
So if you were Emilia and your mom was Emily.... Would you feel weird?<br><br>
(our second and third runners up are Linnea and Aviva.)
 

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I think it is nice. What a great connection for your daughter to have to the woman she will most want to be like and emulate, YOU. Our oldest is a 'the III'. He is three and totally understand where and who he gets his name from. I think he will grow up to have the same sentiments as my dh, that it is an honor to be named after your role-model and the man you grew up adoring.<br><br>
There is more to the name though than just sounding something like yours...it has a unique spelling that makes it part of her father as well. Spelled like it is in the DR, she will be proud to have that name for multiple reasons. It represents her father's culture and her mother's legacy.<br><br>
And, simply, it is a beautiful name <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> We are a family all about carrying family names on in our children. My dh and his brother have family names, I do, my mother does, both our children do. I think it is a cherished tradition that many people forget nowadays.
 

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My friend is the 3 Sandra. She hates it because people always call her Sandy which is what her mom goes by. But you have 2 different names so that shouldn't be an issue.
 

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There is more to the name though than just sounding something like yours...it has a unique spelling that makes it part of her father as well. Spelled like it is in the DR, she will be proud to have that name for multiple reasons. It represents her father's culture and her mother's legacy.<br><br>
And, simply, it is a beautiful name <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> We are a family all about carrying family names on in our children. My dh and his brother have family names, I do, my mother does, both our children do. I think it is a cherished tradition that many people forget nowadays.</div>
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Wow, thanks for the great input. I see how when you look at it this way, it actually would be MORE special, not less... I like how you see it as a nice mix of her parents. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"><br><br>
My one qualm is this- you said "What a great connection for your daughter to have to the woman she will most want to be like and emulate, YOU. "<br>
Isn't it a bit unrealistic to assume that any daughter I have will feel this way about me? When I think of my sister and me... I grew up adoring and worshiping my mother but my sister always butted heads with her and still to this day is very critical of her. I doubt my sister would appreciate having the same name as her. And really, as much as I adore my mom- she's practically my best friend- I wouldn't want to have the same name as her. I already struggle at times with trying to celebrate our differences and keep my uniqueness in tact.<br><br>
(However, the name Emilia is just different enough from Emily that maybe this wouldn't be an issue, especially since when spoken aloud they bear even less resemblance.)<br><br>
Thoughts?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Wow, thanks for the great input. I see how when you look at it this way, it actually would be MORE special, not less... I like how you see it as a nice mix of her parents. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"><br><br>
My one qualm is this- you said "What a great connection for your daughter to have to the woman she will most want to be like and emulate, YOU. "<br>
Isn't it a bit unrealistic to assume that any daughter I have will feel this way about me? When I think of my sister and me... I grew up adoring and worshiping my mother but my sister always butted heads with her and still to this day is very critical of her. I doubt my sister would appreciate having the same name as her. And really, as much as I adore my mom- she's practically my best friend- I wouldn't want to have the same name as her. I already struggle at times with trying to celebrate our differences and keep my uniqueness in tact.<br><br>
(However, the name Emilia is just different enough from Emily that maybe this wouldn't be an issue, especially since when spoken aloud they bear even less resemblance.)<br><br>
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Oh I don't think it is unrealistic to envision a daughter who wants to be like their mother in some sense. I think it is a quite natural inclination that the vast majority of girls (especially while very young) have, seeing as their mother is often their first example of what a girl is/could be. I would like to think this lofty goal, of nuturing a loving relationship that manifests intself in admiration and respect, is a healthy vision. Children will naturally seek to follow someone's pattern, be it their mothers or someone else. I guess I was wrongfully assuming that most, if not all, mothers envision such a relationship growing between them and their daughter. Sorry if I seemed presumptious, I would rather look at it as being hopeful.<br><br>
That being said, I did not have a mother whose ultimate goal was to tie strings with me and nuture a loving relationship together. Her goals were elsewhere and that lack of attentive bonding early on showed itself to be destructive in my teen years. I have come to the point where I have forgiven my mother for what I considered egregious and neglectful behavior on her part, however as many can attest, it is not always possible to forget. Regardless, I still look to her for approval in some respects and will always hold her in high esteem, as she is the only mother I will ever have and I will never truly understand the depths of her love for me as much as I wish I could.
 

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FYI, naming daughters after their mothers is not entirely unheard of. My mother was the last in a long line of Elizabeth's. My sicilian MIL is not named for her mother but for her grandmother. All the eldest female cousins on that side also have the same name. In Sicily, you name the first daughter after the paternal grandmother and the second after the maternal one - same rule for boys. The only way anyone gets an original name is to be the third or more of the same gender in the family.<br><br>
Emilia is not the same exactly as Emily anyway. I don't think your dd should have any problem with it and if you and dp agree - then go for it.
 

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I think it's pretty and can't see that it would cause too many problems. My mum shares the same name as her mother.<br><br>
I like Aviva though.
 
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