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This had to be one of the hardest mama-ing moments for me yesterday.<br><br>
Out of the three kids, my daughter is probably the best behaved. She gets straight a's and is a competition dancer, she is also a very moral girl and well liked by people she meets.<br><br>
There is a girl in her class who is very jealous, and always makes up stories about her to her mother.<br><br>
Yesterday the teacher called me to say that another mother called to complain that my daughter has been telling "dirty" jokes, and referring to breasts as "knockers"<br><br>
Now we never tell any jokes here, and the kids call my breasts my "neenees". I do not know if they have heard them called anything else, but I am not niave, kids will be kids.<br><br>
My kids are in a very conservative Catholic school, and this is a serious offense. I told the teacher I would ask her about this, and the teacher wanted my daughter to give details and names of any other students that may really be at the bottom of this. My daughter was in tears and denied telling any such jokes or ever saying anything like this, but gave the name of a boy in the class that has been telling jokes like this.<br><br>
I decided not to name names, and instead wrote a letter to the teacher stating that my daughter denies repeating these jokes, though she has heard a classmate tell them. I told the teacher that in the future, should someone tell my daughter a joke such as this and refer to body parts in any slang, she would immediately come to a teacher or another adult. I do not consider this tattle tailing, rather, her sticking up for herself.<br><br>
I will never know the truth, and my daughter believes this is the girl in her class who dislikes her..the mother is a very gossipy person, and I hate the thought that my dd's name is tarnished now..she is such a good girl. This really makes me sad for her.. I do not know what I could have done differently.<br><br>
I am so glad there is only a week of school left. Sigh.
 

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I probably would have done exactly as you did. Hopefully the teachers will respect your faith in your daughter that she is telling the truth. Hopefully they will know her and recognize that this is likely being made up for spite. Your poor daughter, this is a big thing at her age...<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I can certainly understand your frustration....my 10-yo DD would never do anything like that either and we would both be very upset if someone accused her of such things.<br><br>
I think you handled things appropriately.
 

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That is horrible. I think you did really well handling it though. Poor kiddo! My son would have been very upset to be accused of something like that as well.
 

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I'm so sorry for your daughter. I certainly hope the school recognizes how good she is and believes that this is a made up story. BTW, I think you handled things wonderfully.
 
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