our kids have relatives who say the most awful things, and I would like to know how to deal with this.<br><br>
dd, technically sd, has a couple of aunts who have made accusations (in front of her) that dh and I were fooling around behind 'mommy's' back. Not only is this completely untrue, who would talk about such a thing in front of a child?<br>
dd has actually asked me if we were doing this years ago, and I told her 'of course not!' and explained that sometimes people imagine things that aren't true.<br>
Now, my mother just made a comment to my dd that doesn't sit right with me.<br>
She said in an email 'you are getting prettier. You used to just be cute.'<br>
This offends me on so many levels I don't know where to begin. For starters, my mom is one of those types who think women should be all about looks and a man. Nothing else is important. I am trying to teach dd that looks are not the most important thing in the world, and that 'catching a man' should not be your primary goal in life. In the past my mom has made the comment that all of her mixed race grandchildren look 'white.' Not only is this untrue, it smacks of racism to me. My nephew and my son are obviously mixed race to most anyone else, and it makes me feel like she thinks it's so awful that they are, she had to make herself 'see white!'<br><br>
Am I overreacting?<br><br>
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dd, technically sd, has a couple of aunts who have made accusations (in front of her) that dh and I were fooling around behind 'mommy's' back. Not only is this completely untrue, who would talk about such a thing in front of a child?<br>
dd has actually asked me if we were doing this years ago, and I told her 'of course not!' and explained that sometimes people imagine things that aren't true.<br>
Now, my mother just made a comment to my dd that doesn't sit right with me.<br>
She said in an email 'you are getting prettier. You used to just be cute.'<br>
This offends me on so many levels I don't know where to begin. For starters, my mom is one of those types who think women should be all about looks and a man. Nothing else is important. I am trying to teach dd that looks are not the most important thing in the world, and that 'catching a man' should not be your primary goal in life. In the past my mom has made the comment that all of her mixed race grandchildren look 'white.' Not only is this untrue, it smacks of racism to me. My nephew and my son are obviously mixed race to most anyone else, and it makes me feel like she thinks it's so awful that they are, she had to make herself 'see white!'<br><br>
Am I overreacting?<br><br>
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