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Just curious,I have a very young one (just 20 and two in their twenties, I am 37 and curious how comfortable you all feel with the age of midwives, I have to say i was quite uncomfortablw with the youngness of mine but it seems that is the going age of the few I found that are even remotely in my area, how about you. I always pictured having one more in their 50's or so never thought I would have ones younger then me, also none have children so i kinda wasnt real comfortable with that, but have managed to move past it all now that labor is soon to approach, tell me about yours.
 

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Julie, you're midwife is a man? How cool! I was wondering if a man wanted to be a midwife, would he have to call himself something else? In Spanish it's easy, midwife = partera, *if* there was every a man midwife, he could be a partero. But, in English ...<br><br>
My midwife is definitely younger than me (37), but I don't know how old she is. The doula (whom I haven't met yet) I think is older than me. When I saw her picture in her bio, I confess the thought crossed my mind ... "she's just a baby herself." But, I think at 37 we still kind of think of ourselves as our just-out-of-college selves, and I at least have to frequently remind myself that someone who is 28 or 29, can already have several years experience under her belt ...
 

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I think mine is mid-40s, and it seems that most of the HB MWs in the area are in that range or older. Most of them have logged years of hospital work before striking out on their own.
 

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Midwife tranlates to "with woman", so it fits for both female and male care providers.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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My midwife is around 43/44... (her bio says she was born in '63). That makes her about ten years older than me. I think I might prefer my midwife to be around my age or older just because I know that when I go into labor, I tend to get grumpy and might have problems taking too much coaching from someone I might mentally perceive as "just a kid" in the heat of the moment. I know that probably sounds absolutely awful of me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: and I'd like to think I wouldn't react that way, but then this will be my first time homebirthing and with a midwife, so we'll see how I do. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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i have two midwifes they are i am guessing in their 50's i am not good at ages they could be in late 40's or early 60's or even mid 60's for all i know but i am basing that on my best friend who is in her 60's and still does cartwheels and is the youngest person i know <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"><br>
i am 28 and i would feel fine with a midwife younger than me and possibly i would be fine with a male midwife. in high school i met a man who was training to become a midwife and i remember thinking that he was so cool for it. he was a very nice man and was a teacher i think i met him on a field trip to a conference of alternative schools.
 

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mine's in her 50s ~ i don't think i'd be comfy with a midwife in her 20s even though i'm early 20s myself <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I interviewed 5 midwives and have no clue how old any of them were. One had a daughter with children, so I would put her in her 50s. I think her partner was probably in her 40s. The other three I would guess somewhere in their 30s. But, honestly, I don't really care. I did pretty in-depth interviews and am confident in the abilities of the person I chose. I'm fairly sure I would have chosen her even if she had been younger than I am (24), as long as she had the experience and perspective I was looking for.
 

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I've met a couple very young doulas with no children and I was not impressed. I'd be very hesitant to go with a midwife in her early twenties.
 

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Don't they have to go through the same apprentice process as any other midwife? I guess I am not sure what benefit would come with age since experience makes one capable and age does not equate experience. My midwife has a ton of experience but in some ways she knows more about birth than my OB who has been practicing for 23 years KWIM?
 

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I'm guessing mine is in her 40's somewhere or mabye late 30's.
 

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My MW is in her early 30's but we do have a MW in the area in her early 20's. Age doesn't matter too much IMO, it is experience you should look into. Just because someone is older it does not make them a better MW and vice versa.
 

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My midwife with baby #1 was in her late forty's I am guessing, and my midwife for babies #2 and #3 is 50ish. Both have years of experience doing what they do. Interestingly, a midwife who is 40ish in town, and has been reputaable for some time and has lots of experience, has been having some questionable things happen with some of her clients recently, making me leery of referring mothers to her. Things can change anywhere along the line depending on how the midwife keeps herself up-to-date, what is happening in her personal life, etc.<br><br>
I think something important in choosing the midwife for oneself is to know what questions are important for one to ask a midwife, interview a variety of midwives locally if possible, and then to guage one's feelings of comfortability when talking with each one. Do you have a good feeling, like: that's who I want, when you are done talking? Or do you feel kind of leery? I would seriously take into serious consideration my feelings, good or not, about meeting with a midwife. Even if the midwife is competent and skilled, it may not be a good personality match, and that can make or break a happy and safe birth, too!<br><br>
Make the decision on what you are comfortable with, as each midwife has their good and bad points. A very wise and knowledgable midwife may be perfect for one mom, and not for another. A brand new midwife gaining her experience may be a turn-off for one mom, but just what another mom needs for that particular pregnancy and that unique baby. Some moms even choose a different midwife for each birth as mom changes in what she wants and feels is important, too, and different midwives possess various skills, or talents, in certain areas.
 

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I agree that it's best to go with the midwife that feels right for you. Still, as a midwife who started practicing at age 23, off and on since then and now in practice again at 50--well, I think I'm a far better mw now than I was then. And this has not so much to do with the calling or even knowledge (tho I am more knowlegeable now), but with my life experience, experience with people and various situations/psychologies of people, and my own maturity and confidence. Now, these things are unique from person to person, for sure. And there are various strengths that can appeal to a mom, and work well for her situation, in mws of various ages. Yet I will say that while I always had good stuff to offer, I feel that I am both more well-rounded as a person, and more humble about birth and my place in it..I've also had a chance to see 'the rest of the story' as it were, watching families go through time, kids growing up, seeing the long term results of choices made (including my own)--giving me things to offer that I didn't have before.<br><br>
I do notice that my age has tended to increase people-in-general's reflexive respect toward me! Which I think is funny indeed, since age is not necessarily a sign of wisdom and experience. I know a mw 10yrs older than myself who, after 5yrs apprenticeship and more years of doula work, still has a certain aura of adolescent insecurity about her--very nice woman! But lacking in the very maturity and confidence that I'm talking about--and she has a LOT of transports in her practice, admitting to her clients upfront (which I do admire in her) that she is likely to transport needlessly if confronted w/a situation that unnerves her somehow.<br><br>
Anyway...again, go with what feels best, listen to your heart--and be aware of the gifts and the limitations both, of any mw you choose. Sometimes the older ones are not up on current research and methods...but sometimes the younger ones are more 'knowledge based' than 'experience based'. Sometimes the older ones have so much ego/identity invested that they can be controlling or too set in their ways...sometimes it's the younger ones who have too much ego invested, because life and birth have not had a chance to humble them yet.<br><br>
I'm just glad that I'm practicing again at 50...definitely, in my mind (matched by the comments of my clients as I return to this work), I'm not getting older, just better!
 

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My midwife is younger than I am; I don't think she's hit 30 yet. I had my first homebirth with her (5th child) about two years, and had no hesitation to call her for baby #6, due in December.
 

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Mine was in her 40's/early 50's i think. Maybe the youngness has to do with the growing popularity of midwifery? More people going into it as their career instead of college? I wish I had gone into midwifery right out of highschool instead of doing college/grad school. Now I've got a little babe, and I don't think i have it in me to study to become a midwife right now. Maybe when my kiddos get older.
 

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I'm not sure how old my mw is, I think I remember her saying something about being near my mom's age which would put her at about 50 or a little older.<br><br>
I'm 24 and I would not be comfortable with a younger mw. Especially one with no children. My mw had an apprentice with my oldest and I deeply, deeply disliked her. She was probably around my age (20 at the time) but she had no kids and she wore all white, very obviously expensive outfits to attend birth. I didn't want her attending mine but she was there (as backup to my mw) and she wouldn't stop TALKING. I had to ask them to <i>just be QUIET</i> at one point because she was busy gossiping about someone with my mw. For my youngest I told my mw I didn't want her there again. She used another mw as backup instead and that woman was <i>fabulous.</i> She was great with my back labor, etc.<br><br>
So I think it is a combo of both age and whether or not the person has actually given birth. I know of one doula who has only had medicated births herself, I don't see how I could be comfortable with that. Despite all my reading, I don't see how I could have possibly known what labor felt like until I felt it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> BUT, if you're comfy with your mw then that's what matters. And if you get a little snippy during birth, just try to keep her age out of it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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