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the conversation on the One thread got me thinking... sorry if this is too personal or has been done a ton of times... but it made me wonder. How much does your DP or DH get into TTC? Do you let him know what's going on or do you leave him in the blue? Does he *want* to know? Do you tell him when you're going to POAS? how TMI do you get with each other?<br><br>
When my DP and I decided that we would start TTC this fall in May or June, we talked a lot about it. I was amazed how little he actually knew about how babies were made. Our first cycle in October, I shared everything with him and he seemed ok with it. This cycle, it's kind of a "don't ask, don't tell" policy. He really does want to conceive but it's not like I tell him every gruesome detail. It is getting to the point where he is starting to ask about symptoms but otherwise we really haven't talked about it at the length we did last cycle. He really wanted to be there everytime I tested last cycle but I found it made it all the more nervewracking because of course everytime it was a BFN. This cycle I would like to do it alone but he keeps asking about it.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: I am pretty sure next cycle (if I don't get a BFP, that is!) is going to be low key. I doubt we will even discuss it unless I get a BFP or AF. I guess disappointment can only be stretched so far.<br><br>
Anyway, just curious (and bored <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">)
 

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DH asks everyday what my temp was and what that means. After the crazy last week and a half, he's learned about OPK's too. I don't tell him when I poas in case it's negative. I don't think he could handle BFN after BFN. I answer his questions if he asks but I try not to offer too much because some things like my are just too much for him. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">DH asks everyday what my temp was and what that means. After the crazy last week and a half, he's learned about OPK's too. I don't tell him when I poas in case it's negative. I don't think he could handle BFN after BFN. I answer his questions if he asks but I try not to offer too much because some things like my are just too much for him. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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My DP did not get OPKS at all... he first thought that meant I was pregnant or something. I don't know how many times I explained to him about the LH surge. He gave up after awhile and just said he'd leave me to deal with it.<br>
I suppose if I temped he would ask me too, though I don't truly know. He would probably think I'd gone a little crazy.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">DH asks everyday what my temp was and what that means. After the crazy last week and a half, he's learned about OPK's too. I don't tell him when I poas in case it's negative. I don't think he could handle BFN after BFN. I answer his questions if he asks but I try not to offer too much because some things like my are just too much for him. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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my dh is starting to ask about this stuff now too, like what my temp was and if I think I am going to O soon and also if I took a OPK and if it was + or -.
 

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I share the basics. He <i>knows</i> when I am ovulating. He knows neither of us can ever be too tired or busy to BD. Otherwise there is not much to tell. I do not temp or use OPKs, and he can figure out my CM on his own. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I do not tell him every time I test, but he usually sees them in the trash.
 

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He considers himself "catching up to my excitement," but is good about being aware of when I'm going to ovulate, learning about ops and epts etc, and listening to hours and hours of my ttc talk <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blahblah.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blah blah"> . One thing I find funny is he pronounces Pre-Seed like "precede." As in, it precedes sex. Maybe he's not alone. Does anyone else (or their partners) say Precede?
 

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My DH was fairly involved but we have a very open relationship and keep very little private. He knew my temp most days because he could sign into my FF account and see my chart. He would ask when the OPKs begin and then start asking when it was +. After I o'ed he would keep asking how soon we could test. I will admit though I did some times test earlier than I had told him I would and didn't always tell him about the BFN....he would just call me impatient <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">He considers himself "catching up to my excitement," but is good about being aware of when I'm going to ovulate, learning about ops and epts etc, and listening to hours and hours of my ttc talk <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blahblah.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blah blah"> . One thing I find funny is he pronounces Pre-Seed like "precede." As in, it precedes sex. Maybe he's not alone. Does anyone else (or their partners) say Precede?</div>
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No, but I sent him to the pharmacy, since he was near it yesterday for a meeing, to buy more and he had to ask the pharmacist for help finding it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> He's like, "I sure hope we get pg soon because this is costing me a fortune!" HAHA!!
 

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My DP tries to be as involved when he can but work keeps him away alot of the time so he doesn't get to join in the daily obsessing. He told me to let him know when he needs his 'services'. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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My DH appeases me when I want to talk about it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blahblah.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blah blah">:, or ask him to look at my chart, but generally he doesn't really want to get into the science of conception, from what I can tell.<br><br>
His interests are more in the finances end of our household, and I keep track of our health/wellness.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">He also KNOWS when I ovulated, because the minute I saw EWCM this cycle, I called him at work (a Thurs.) and told him he had to ask his boss for the next day off and come home early. I think the exact words were, "Tell him your wife intends to get pg. this weekend one way or another, and you would really prefer to be there." He was home by bedtime.<br></div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biglaugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="laugh">: I love that!<br><br><br><br><br>
Dh would rather not know anything this time. Our previous two pgs I told him everything and he was very involved. It wore him out, stressed him out, and we fought. He does not do well with TTC on demand sex. He'd much rather be clueless as to when I O and when AF is due this time around. He wants a relaxed TTC and not have it be forced. I'm trying really hard to do that. However, he does pick up on when I O because my sex drive goes into turbo mode. Kind of hard to hide that.
 

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My partner is excited for me to become pregnant and is also naturally inclined toward understanding how things work and what not. Having said that, we have decided to go the low maintenance route for a few cycles and I think I would like to maintain the semblance of spontaneity for a little while.
 
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