[shell024]

Hey mamas...just wondering how you're all doing with any random emotional outbursts..

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generally, when I'm in "ME" mode...(normal me...) I am happy, moving along with my daily tasks, and in a pretty cheerful mood...like nothing's changed.

then...ONE little comment can throw me off track entirely! I will admit that I tend to hold grudges...and can be the sliently angry/sad type. So usually when DP makes a comment that would annoy me.. I'm irked for about 5 minutes and then i'm off to whatever i was doing without a care.... well now with the added bouncing hormones...that comment will have me stressed out and moody for a good hour! I tell myself that i wouldn't normally be so irritated...but i just can't seem to get past it... time is the only thing that gets rid of it.

the other night we got in a "discussion" about religion (which can be pretty touchy on its own!) and I ended up being upset for 2 days. I had come to the conclusion that the combined factors of me just wanting a romantic dinner that evening, plus the tension building in my body, then when i said i didn't want to talk about religion right then he still kept on, and in general i felt attacked...like i was constantly having to defend my own beliefs while he threw his at me. anyway.... i was angry for a couple hours and couldn't just "move on" at that point... ended up sleeping on the couch and crying for awhile...

these emotions can be so consuming!! And 2 days later, I'm totally fine. Couldn't care less about our discussion (okay thats a lie... but at least it has urgged me to figure out a way to have a reasonable talk about our beliefs with each other...minus the attacks...).

there have been many others events like this, and i usually end up in tears and frustrated with my wacko emotions.

i think this was partly just venting... hehe... i feel a little better now. anyone with some stories?? I know someone has to have some kind of similar experiences...

 

[The Milk Bag]

Ahh yes .... my poor DH!! ;-) The last two times I have been pregnant, the thing that tipped me off well before AF was even due, was the fact that I was so unbelieveably angry with him. This pregnancy wasn't planned and I didn't think pregnancy was a possibility at the time, but when I became furious at my DH over how he was bathing our DD (stupid, I know!), I started to wonder. I was only 5 dpo at the time.

After early pregnancy, I'm not so easily angered as I am extremely sensitive. He can make a completely innocent comment and I will take it the wrong way and start crying.

Really, I feel very sorry for him .... good thing this is our last baby!

 

[spsmom]

i am not handling it too well! with pg #1, i actually didn't experience much of any crazy stuff, jsut the glow! but this time i am a wreck! i actually cried the other day because i couldn'd figure out what to make for dinner! i just stood there in front of the open fridge crying. so, yeah, i feel ya! i thin dh has learned to watch what he says even though it's not him it's me!

 

[Full Heart]

Mostly this time I get angry. In past pregnancies though it was usually sad. I remember crying hysterically because I broke a dish once.

This time I get mad if dh leaves the toliet seat up. Everyone is driving me nuts. My uncle is overly protective of my kids - While I am right there! Hello I am their mother I do know how to take care of them. Do clients really need to be calling dh at 9 at night? The doors have Exit and Entrance written on them for a reason people!

I have found I really need to chill out. I take baths when I can. Grab a cold drink that I enjoy. Go lock myself in a room and read for 10 min to get my mind off whatever it is that made me angry. Most of them time after 10 min I can't even remember what upset me :LOL Projects keep my mind off things for a while too. I have a list of things I want to do befor the baby comes and that been working really well. Planning something to look forward to is also helpful. I tell myself, just get through this and then you can go do that. Its really hard and it doesn't help when things aren't just hormones yk? If there was something underlying the hormones just make it worse. Like having sick kids and not sleeping just makes every situation worse.

Michelle

 

[matts_mamamama]

LOL. Was hoping it wasn't just me!

Yesterday, ds was to get a haircut and for whatever reason, dh thought I wouldn't be going with them. I was already frustrated because he slept in and then we had to rush to get ready and I didn't get a shower...so then, he picks up our son and says let's go get your hair cut and I'm like HEY. I was coming too. And he was totally shocked! Now, can anyone explain to me why I would not be attending my 21 month olds 3rd haircut??? I was so upset and hurt that they were excluding me, it was all I could do not to cry!

Before pregnancy? I would have said BYE and enjoyed the quiet alone time! :LOL

 

[cuqui]

This is #3 for us, so my DH (smart man that he is) never disagrees with me, yeses me to death and just smiles. I feel sorry for the poor fools who 'go anywhere' with me. KWIM, LOL!

We also have a rule, I am not allowed to make any major purchases or decisions while pregnant. "Pregnant women are insane". I think it's nice that for 9 months I am always right and get my way, there have to be some benefits

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[mom2threenurslings]

"temporary random insanity" ... Love it!

Yes, I'm a TRI sufferer as well. My dh has the joy of not only having to deal with my TRI, but also my obsessive-compulsive disorder on top of it. My OCD is usually MUCH worse during pregnancy.

A story: When pg with my oldest, I was up at 2AM trying to find dh's tax forms so I could do the taxes. I couldn't find them (and HAD to do the taxes ... it was almost April after all!

) and woke him out of a sound sleep to help me. When he refused I started bawling and asked him why he didn't love me anymore. Think I overreacted a bit?

These days dh will say something harmless and I'll start crying. He's so used to it by this point (4th child) that he just says, "pregnant?" :LOL

 

[sbm1001]

I have a goal this week. I'm trying really hard not to yell at one person. I'll have to let you know how that one goes. :LOL

Shannon

 

[Autumn Breeze]

OMG yes! And I feel so badly because it all seems to get cast upon my 3 yr old! The poor child. It certianly didn't help that last week we were spending more time replacing our water main, and running around to various hardware stores, and we didn't spend much time with him. We tried to make up for it this weekend, and I was kinda hoping to take him to the pool today, but it looks to be overcast...again.

Poor poor baby. Usually if I get frusterated with him it takes a few minutes to calm down, I put him infront of a PBS show, or short movie, even in the bath, and go calm down. Now, it seems the frusteration lasts for days on end. It doesn't help that we're potty training to top it off!

 

[shell024]

Whew...i knew i wouldn't be the only one.. I just remembered a TRI moment in early pregnancy.

I woke up one morning and felt great! (no nausea!) So I decided to take it upon myself to start making up a picnic basket for me and DP to walk to the park with (didn't even ask what his plans were...it was a weekday). As he woke up and took a shower and was getting his KEYS as if leaving somewhere, I demanded to know where he was going and why. (He was going to pick up something at the store). I insisted that whatever he needed to do could wait because I felt great and we were going on a picnic. Not wanting to upset me (ha!), he hesitantly agreed.
Of course I picked up on the hesitancy with my superpower pregnancy sensitivity and started sassing "Oh WHAT, you don't WANT to spend the day with me???" :LOL

He quickly threw some loving words at me and insisted that he get the car ready for us to go.
NOO......we are going to WALK. Walking is healthy and it gives us more time together!!! (We both work at home..

) He agrees.

So we start walking, get to the park, eat our sandwiches n fruit n goodies, all is well and cheerful. Then he made the HUGE mistake of asking when we were going to go back (he had a lot of things to do that day...not that i cared at the moment... poor guy).

"Ha! I knew it...you didn't even want to come in the first place did you??!" That went on for a good ten minutes. Then I burst into tears and was like "Fine, you want to leave? We're leaving right now." I picked up our stuff and stomped off without him. Like a poor little puppy he chased me down and was trying to comfort me and figure out what the hell was wrong with me. :LOL

To make a long story short (too late for that?

) , I cried for a good hour about how he never wants to spend time with me and how he has so many other important things to do.

Then my friend called and we were laughing about stuff and I totally forgot I was even upset.

My poor DP.... I love him.

 

[Galatea]

I can't stop being pissed at everyone and in a bad mood. What do I do? Dh wants me to talk about what is wrong but even if I knew I couldn't articulate it, and talking about my stupid annoyances will only make a fight.

 

[shell024]

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it's like, "what's wrong with you people???" lol...doesn't everyone know that the dishes should always be washed, and god forbid you actually wipe the counters too... Why hasn't the trash been emptied yet?? Is it SOOO hard to turn the friggin TV off when you leave the room? Why is it that you can't figure out why I'm totally annoyed right now?? Why do you always have to say something to upset me??? Don't you know what pregnancy hormones DO??? You left your hair all in my brush!! Who left the door unlocked last night, what if all our stuff got stolen?? Why do you always have to argue with me? Why do you always choose the worst time to upset me????????????????

AHHHHHHH!!! Stop the madness!

Sigh...

I know how you feel. And I agree. It's EVERYONE ELSE. :LOL

 

[mom2threenurslings]

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Originally Posted by shell024 It's EVERYONE ELSE. :LOL

:LOL Yeah, that's it! It's everyone else, not us! We're pregnant. They know that. They should be going out of their way to make sure everything in our lives is absolutely perfect and that they say only kind, supportive things to us like "Can I get you some ice cream?" and "You go to the spa for the day...I'll watch the kids, clean the house, and complete the list of 35 things I haven't done due to procrastination." or "I probably had a wonderful day at work compared to what you've been through today."

My dh really is driving me insane, though. I SWEAR 94 days (give or take a week or two) isn't long enough to do everything he has on his list. He has been doing a bit better today, though. He said, "I'm going to take a quick shower." I said, "After you mow the lawn, right?" and he said, "Which I'm going to do right after I figure out how to get the lawnmower out of the garage and get gas for it." An hour and a half later the lawn was mowed (it was BAAAAAAAAD and we don't even have much of a lawn!) and he was in the shower. No arguing. Good dh!

 

[shell024]

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Originally Posted by mom2threenurslings They should be going out of their way to make sure everything in our lives is absolutely perfect and that they say only kind, supportive things to us like "Can I get you some ice cream?" and "You go to the spa for the day...I'll watch the kids, clean the house, and complete the list of 35 things I haven't done due to procrastination."

i love it.

 

[Goldiemom]

Well, I suffer from this condition as well. I suffer from several different degrees of it though. The things that annoyed me before still do, only worse. Dh loves to throw pity parties for himself. He goes on and on and on about how the truck needs new bumpers and how he is NEVER going to get a gun, and this that and the next thing. All I want to say to him at times like that is well then, you never should have gotten with me if all you care about are material things and the are going to be a big baby and throw "Gotta have it now" tantrums. He knew that I had a kid when he met me. He stayed with me and married me anyway, and we are having our 2nd kid together. Cry me a river...

Then my poor poor poor ds who already has problems with social ques and listening and other such things gets on my last nerve and I blow up at him. Usually he has done something to his sister for like the 20 thousandth time, but it is always him, never my dd who makes me just explode. I of course feel like the worst person to have ever lived and how can I, such a mean, horrible, unbalanced person, be bringing another life into the world? Do I suffer from some kind of psychosis? I know that it is a hormonal thing, as I VERY rarely blow up at my kids when I am not pg no matter how crazy they get.

I hope I am not the only one that seems to go psycho sometimes, though I am sure for your dp, and dc sakes, it would be better if it wasn't like that for anyone other than me. Lord knows I wish I wasn't like this. *sigh* It will start to get better in 12 wks and counting. It has too. I don't think my kids can deal with this freak psycho mom that comes out of nowhere for much longer. Thankfully it doesn't happen often.

 

[Katt2005]

Goldiemom~ I am right there with you!! I am nuts I tell you. And I feel horrible for my DP. He knows its PG related (he has kids from a previous marriage, LOL) but it still drives him insane. When I "get in my moods" as he says he doesn't come near me for like hours, (or atleast it feels to me) Then out of nowhere I have REALLY good days and we are perfect. I feel so helpless, I can't control it, and I don't even realize how crazy I'm being til WAY after the fact, and usually by then I'm off on another tangent! UGH
For a quick little example: I asked him if he wanted me to come up to his work for lunch in a quick text message. and he replies "sure". Normal reply right? NO!! I'm all what is sure? You don't *really* want to see me do you? Why can't you just be a man and say that? What are you doing then? why couldn't you have just said yes?
Yes, There is always a magical *right way* with me that he NEVER gets. UGH just writing this makes me feel so horrible. Oh man I hope this goes away soon. I really need to try to make this up to him on a good day, lol.

 

[shell024]

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Originally Posted by Katt2005 Then out of nowhere I have REALLY good days and we are perfect. I feel so helpless, I can't control it, and I don't even realize how crazy I'm being til WAY after the fact, and usually by then I'm off on another tangent! UGH Yes, There is always a magical *right way* with me that he NEVER gets.

tell me about it....
My good days are awesome and I feel like there couldn't be a better feeling in the world. But THEN...psycho b*tch rolls along for a visit... :LOL

It's very rainy today so I planned to make some Chili and Cornbread. mmm. Got really excited about it. At first....
There was an empty egg carton in the fridge, and no baking powder. DP had been running errands all day so didn't want to run another one. So here I am fretting that "we don't have an egg! no baking powder!!! How am i going to make the cornbread??" Walking a couple blocks in the rain was out of the question at the moment. Asking a neighbor was just absurd at the time--how could I BOTHER someone for such items??? Can't drive cause I lost my driver's license...plus it's raining... I almost broke down in tears...
DP came in while I was ranting and just said "You're losing your mind".
I crumpled to the floor sobbing "YOU'RE RIGHT.... I've lost it... I don't know who I am anymore...

AHHHHHH......."

20 minutes later after DP came back with some eggs and baking powder, I started making the cornbread and chili wondering if I had become schizo.

*sigh*......pregnancy :LOL

 

[canadiangranola]

Right there with you...today, after a 50 moniute walk (5 blocks only) with 2 yr old ds...who suddenly MUST do everything "self, self"...I came home to dh who was plannign on having friends over for a bbq tonight. I walked in the door with a screaming kid, and after putting ds to bed said "I don't want to have people here, I'm tired and grumpy. If you want to have people over, fine, but then when you leave (the men were going to the pub for a beer after the bbq) everyone else goes too...no one stays here."

DH, willing to support, says "okay...i'll call everyone and I can just meet them at the pub."

Me: Then who am I going to hang out with?
DH: But you don't want people over because you're tired, right?
Me: Well, I guess they could come.
DH: I"ll call them and invite them.
Me: I'll have to do all the work...hosting sucks. LEt's just all go out for supper together.
DH: (still being his always agreeable self) Okay....

DH calls friend, explains, and they decide that we'll all go out....I come into the room while dh is on the phone.

Me: No...no no....let's just have them here...ds is sleeping and we'll have to wake him up, and it's cheaper to eat here, and I don't want to go out.

DH

kay, DW wants to just stay here...let's have a bbq here.
Me: Tell them to bring chips...
DH: What kind?
ME: I don't care...not doritos.
DH (to friend) bring some chips for Anno...
Me: sour cream and onion.

dh hangs up,
DS wakes up.
Me: Let's go out for dinner. Call Jim back.

Dh:.......

Anyway...you get the point.

I'm demanding...I'm seriously a five year old right now. When I'm not being two.

Thank goodness DH is an absolutely saint and has the patience to match. I would have left me a long time ago

 

[shell024]

 

[Goldiemom]

I am so glad that I am not the only one that seems to suffer from huge boughts of irrationality! :LOL I could have had that conversation with my own dh. *sigh*