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Both educational and otherwise. Do you limit it, do you limit computer time? Do you limit junky tv, or let your kiddos self regulate and at what ages.<br><br>
I hear folks talking baout great documentaries but my 3.5 year old just wants to watch junk and I have had trouble finding much "educational" beyond seasame street for his age group........<br><br>
Do you let your kids watch more than you would if they were in ps because they have more time?<br><br>
Just intereseted in what others do?
 

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I limit tv, no doubt about it, both with regards to content and time. I know there are a lot of unschoolers that don't, but we do.<br><br>
I put the greatest limits on content - I can't stand commerical tv, especially for young children, and I won't at this point allow any violent or disturbing programs. Ds1 is very sensitive about this kind of stuff, and will have nightmares. I just don't see the point in it. And whatever ds1 watches, ds2 watches.<br><br>
I guess technically they watch more than they would if they were in school just because we have more hours in the day available to us. But something tells me that if were in school the begging for tv would begin as soon as he got home.<br><br>
We don't have any set rules about the how much we watch - it just depends on the day. An average day is about an hour in the morning (2 programs) and maybe another 1/2 hour to an hour in the afternoon. Rarely is it on in the evening unless we watch a movie, maybe once a week. Rain days, sick days, burnt out mommy days - the tv is on more.<br><br>
I don't necessarily believe that "educational" tv is any better than just "tv", but my older son does learn a lot from the shows he watches. He actually seems to learn better in a sense. For instance, we used to always sing the ABCs, read lots of ABC books, etc. But when ds2 was born, my inlaws brought a Sesame Street ABC DVD for ds1, and after watching it three times he was singing his ABCs. He's done that with a lot of things. We read a lot, and he definitely absorbs information through reading, but he really picks it up immediately when he sees it on tv. Which is also why I am pretty strict about the content of what he watches!
 

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We don't have a tv, but dd watches shows online. I would never say she could only watch "educational" shows, because I'd be a hypocrite and because I think the educational value is in the eye of the beholder. Marketing to children bothers me, but rather than pretend it doesn't exist by disallowing computer use, I believe discussion is a better way to deal with it.
 

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My dcs watch a few dvds a week--a total of about 2 hours--and the selection of dvds we own or have access to is limited (we live abroad). We don't have a tv, and our dvd player is a little 7 inch machine that has to be taken down and set up whenever they want to watch something which I think helps us all be mindful of what we are watching and why.<br><br>
They will watch: david attenborough (sp?) dvds on mammals, insects, undersea life (my almost 5 yo loooooves nature and really likes these movies), a couple of magic school buses, wind in the willows, peter rabbit, and the like. We all love the original winnie the pooh. Richard scarry's videos are great. We just borrowed the sesame street abc dvd and the kids watched it this evening while I cleaned my closet!<br><br>
I try not to make the movies a central part of our lives, but I think 2 hours of dvds is still about 1.5 hours too much. I'd much rather they play/fight/read/make a mess/get bored. That said, I have enjoyed hearing the rapture in my sons' voices as they describe the habits of platupuses, or my daughter's voice singing la-la-la-la lightbulb (which I distinctly remember singing myself as a child).
 

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I don't limit how much tv my kids watch, although I do occasionally ask them to stop watching something which is especially stupid or inappropriate.<br><br>
But I find that since I pulled my daughter from public school, she watches much less tv. Honestly! She used to come home from school tired and cranky and just want to plunk down on the couch and watch cartoons. Now that her days are more relaxed and enjoyable, she rarely wants to watch tv at all. She's more interested in her ongoing activities like drawing and writing stories. I am amazed some days to find that we can go all day without anyone turning on the tv once.<br><br>
My two-year old watches less tv now too, because his sister is around more to play with and he's kept busier with other things.
 

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My children do not watch any tv. They do very occasionally watch a movie, but that is usually just when we have a babysitter (which is probably once every three or four months). We have a small selection of movies that I think are appropriate for young children, and that is all they watch.
 

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I limit mostly by content of the shows I preffer shows that will help teach something (about anything helpful really) but I don;t limit to that. I like my occasional junk tv so I let the kids have some too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> My kids do naturally gravitate to things like Jeff Corwin, Croc hunter, Cyberchase, postcards from Buster, timewarp trio, etc..... Things I don't allow them to watch would be Sponge Bob, Cat scratch, kids sitcoms, and the other mind numbing crud out there where the characters do not treat each other nicely. The kids have hit the point where they are starting to tell what is trash and what is at least slightly worth watching. If they aren't sure about a new show they will ask me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I'm eagerly awaiting when the kids are old enough to watch the shows I like (on the history channel ect). I'm going to be testing the waters with Ds (my oldest) soon since he's studying vikings and there have been some really good shows about them on history and history international channels that I think he'd like but I know at least a couple of them might still be too graphic for him. I know the drier stuff he'd be cool with but the ones where they look at battles etc might be too bloody. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hide.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hide">:
 

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We don't let the kids watch regular TV, but they do have DVDs. My youngest (who is speech-delayed) watches a half hour of Signing Time every morning. My oldest will usually watch with her, and in addition she may watch one or two other 30 minute (prescreened) DVDs as well -- Magic Schoolbus, Peter and the Wolf (with dancers), Postcards from Buster, Peep, Muzzy, or Lyric Language -- in the evening or when dd2 takes her nap. So for my youngest, 30 minutes a day, and for my oldest 30-90 minutes a day. I am comfortable with the content of what they both watch and personally find it worthwhile.<br><br>
As far as computer time, they get maybe 30 minutes a day. Usually uptoten.com or Starfall.
 

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My kids are limited by content and time. Only one hour of screen time a day. My DS would watch morning noon and night. He chooses his screen time and can use the TV or PC. The only thing he chooses that I really hate is Wow Wow Wubzie and Backyardigans. I have started only giving screen time when I know those won't be on.<br><br>
As for the Jeff Corwin shows and the like, I HATE the animal planet commercials. In one week, my son told me that he wanted to buy Zoo Pals, that we needed Lysol or we would get sick and that he wanted to go to Chuck E Cheese. After that, we only get Animal Planet from library DVDs.<br><br>
DD only really likes to watch Signing Time. At this age, my son already had developed an unhealthy relationship with the TV. I wanted to see what happened if I let him self-regulate, but it was not working well for him.<br><br>
I pray every night that lightning hits our TV. I cannot imagine the joy I will feel when it dies.
 

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We have no limits on the amount of tv time. This hasn't been a problem because since the kids know it's not forbidden, they aren't drawn to it. I do, however, use a parental block on PG-13/TV-14 ratings and higher. Not that I don't trust my kids, but it's very easy to happen upon something I don't feel they are ready for by regular channel surfing. Growing up I never had limits on tv either and it's never been an issue for me.
 

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I really really wish we did nothave a tv. My DS is addicted to it. We use tv as punishment. Mess up and it becomes a "no tv day." That is worse than time out or taking away toys or anything. I try to limit what he watches. He watches Sesame Street in the morning. Then he watches videos. Usually Magic School Bus and Land Before Time. Or documentaries about dinosaurs. He also watches a lot of space type movies. If you ask him what his favorite movie is he would say Apollo 13. He has some Dora and Thomas and the usual, Lion King, Little Bear, that kind of thing. But it is usually Magic School Bus or Dinosaurs or Space. DH encourages this because he likes to watch the space movies as well. Lately they have started watching mythbusters together. Since we got the DVR, they record all the mythbuster shows so they can watch them in the evening.<br><br>
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We don't watch regular television. We do rent movies from the library though. Mostly science and nature videos.... maybe a movie from the video store once a week or so. I would say that the boys watch about 1 hour of videos per day.( I do limit it past this though) But it is the rainy season and I do not expect this to continue. In our case as well, the boys really take in a ton of information when watching videos.
 

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I try to limit evening TV time because I've found that it's too easy to go from "just one show" to the TV being on for hours, chores not done, evening routine not happening, kids not going to sleep on time, etc.<br><br>
During the school day, when the other two are in school, the TV usually stays off because DD2 prefers to leave it off and have time to read or talk. Occasionally we watch a movie together. On the days when everybody is home, I limit the TV because generally one DD1 wants to watch a lot more than DD2 and DD2 has a hard time standing up for herself- so I'm the "bad guy" and enforce limits on the TV.
 

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We get very few channels and we don't have cable. My kids haven't grown up watching much TV, and nearly none when they were small.<br><br>
Last week we watched American Idol for a little while-- just for the pop culture 'knowledge' piece. None of us got into it, but we did laugh at the the no-talents. If we hear about a good episode, we might watch one of the nanny shows. My kids *love* to scream in hysterical horror at things like a 'naughty' chair. All this to say, we aren't NO TV people, we do enjoy some things on occassion. We also like movies, and sometimes I wish we had cable. I do like cooking shows, and I would like Discovery Channel, although most of the shoes are easily available through Inter Library Loan. I don't hate TV and I wouldn't ban it.<br><br>
However, I do like the fact that my children have never gotten into a TV habit, and I am glad that TV wasn't something that dh and I were interested in. I don't regret that my small children didn't watch TV. I don't think not watching as littles is any great loss in any way. It didn't turn out to be forbidden fruit or anything, it just wasn't/continues not to be, an issue. It's Sunday night, no school tomorrow for the schooled kids and still nobody is watching TV. I am the only one doing media (MDC) at the moment.<br><br>
But I wouldn't forbid it. They are too old for that anyway. But I am glad it's not something that takes away from other things. I admit that while I enjoy TV at times, I am not one who thinks watching TV for hours is as 'good' as doing some other things. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">. And I myself should shut down and go knit. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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we used to limit TV by not having one... but found that our 5yr old dd was asking for it and becoming quite focussed on it "not being there". At the same time we made lots of shifts to self regulation and radical unschooling.<br><br>
so we chatted to her and she requested a dvd player. We bought an inexpensive portable dvd player and a bunch of dvds of her choice. We also go to the dvd shop every week. Frankly im trying to feed her enough so she does not feel the need for commercial tv which im still coming to terms with but will do if she asks for it.<br><br>
she watches however many and whenever she wants. It was challenging at first (several midnight movie marathons) but now it is just another thing to do and talk about... so i feel the unregulation has been the right thing for us.<br><br>
we have written a bit about our unregulating tv & food journey at <a href="http://theparentingpit.com/category/unschooling/unregulating-food-tv/" target="_blank">http://theparentingpit.com/category/...ating-food-tv/</a><br><br>
cheers<br>
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I've never limited tv (or video games, or computer time... or books, or art time, or dance time...). Neither of us seem to watch TV during the day, except an occasional DVD. We often watch it during the evening if we're home, though... Rain was watching The Simpsons when I got home, and now we're watching King of the Hill. We usually read or knit while watching... I like crime shows, and Rain likes more satire and sitcom stuff.... currently she's been watching reruns of That Seventies Show every night, and that show annoys me... for a while we had 3rd Rock reruns on, and those were much better.<br><br>
When she was 6 her favorite was Friends reruns...<br><br>
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I love the episodes of 3rd Rock I've seen. Hilarious.
 

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My kids are SOOOO into Friends right now!<br><br>
My kids are 8 and 10 and can watch whatever they want and how much they want. They love Animal Planet and some shows on Discover and the History Channel.<br><br>
However, when they were 3 they saw very little TV. I don't really think this is the same issue for a 3 year old as for an older child. When my kids were 3, if I felt they were watching *too much,* I turned it off, put on some peppy music, and did something with them like make a fresh batch of playdough. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> My goal was always for them to learn to self regulate, but I felt that would be easier if they never became adicts.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">we used to limit TV by not having one... but found that our 5yr old dd was asking for it and becoming quite focussed on it "not being there". At the same time we made lots of shifts to self regulation and radical unschooling.<br><br>
so we chatted to her and she requested a dvd player. We bought an inexpensive portable dvd player and a bunch of dvds of her choice. We also go to the dvd shop every week. Frankly im trying to feed her enough so she does not feel the need for commercial tv which im still coming to terms with but will do if she asks for it.<br><br>
she watches however many and whenever she wants. It was challenging at first (several midnight movie marathons) but now it is just another thing to do and talk about... so i feel the unregulation has been the right thing for us.<br><br>
we have written a bit about our unregulating tv & food journey at <a href="http://theparentingpit.com/category/unschooling/unregulating-food-tv/" target="_blank">http://theparentingpit.com/category/...ating-food-tv/</a><br><br>
cheers<br>
arun<br>
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Technically you're still limiting TV, just not DVDs. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My 3 yr old would watch junk if I let him watch junk. However, he loooove animals, so we have a lot of animal documentary type dvds and we tivo several shows like dinosaur stuff on the discovery channel for him. He occassionally watches some children's shows like, "little bear," or "little einsteins," however it's nothing consistent. Like he might see one of those maybe a few times a month. Many days he watches no tv, some days he'll watch up to an hr of it. I let him watch some, b/c as a kid, my parents would not let my siblings and I watch tv and that is ALL we ever wanted to do. If we went to someone else's house, we would just want to watch tv and not play and even now as an adult, I swear I just love tv. Thankfully, we have tivo, so I just record stuff to watch after the kids have gone to bed. As a kid who wasn't allowed to watch tv, I actually craved it more than I craved candy. So, I'm more focused on limiting tv time and monitoring the type of tv that my kids watch.
 
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