[SaraBravo]

well i live in south east ga and i was planning on going up to atlanta with my mom to have the baby up there with a midwife so i could have a waterbirth. we have been planning this for months now. my fiance decided to wait until now ( when i am 32 weeks) to tell me that he wants me to stay here to have the baby. the hospital here doesn't do much in the way of natural births and i wouldn't even be allowed to use the shower while i am laboring because they wouldn't be able to monator me becuase i would have to have those things straped to my belly and an iv. i don't want either and have been planning not use that type of monatoring while i was with the midwife in atlanta. i would be leaving for atlanta not this weekend but following. all my plans are being thrown toppsy tervy and i am scared now more than ever about giving birth because i hate the way this hospital operates. he wants me to stay because if i have the baby in atlanta he will only be able to take 2-3 days off work and he is afraid that he might miss the baby coming. i want and need him there and he wants and needs to be there also. i don't know what to do! if i have the baby here my mom might miss the brith and i need her there too because she is my coach. my fiance would be my coach if i could rely on him to be able to focus. we both know it is going to be hard enough for him to see me in pain and try to give me some morral support.
how do i go from a natural water brith with a midwife to the now too traditional hospital birth?
i am going to try and stay home as long as i can before i go to the hospital and hopefully i will be nearly all the way dialted when i get there.
my fiance said that it is up to me where i have the baby but he thinks everything would be a lot better if i have her here because he would be there for sure. he wouldn't be as stressed about missing the birth and he wouldn't miss as much work. we wouldn't loss as much money. not only the money he would have been making at work but also all the money spent in gas. god knows how much the gas prices are now days and he has an old truck which drinks gas. atlanta is about 6 hrs away.
we also both don't like the fact that we would have to be away from each other for so long. so i guess that having the baby here really would be the best thing but i just wouldn't be as comfortable at this hospital as would with the midwife in atlanta.

 

[SaraBravo]

also if i have the baby in atlanta i will know who is going to deliver me no matter what time i go into labor. there i see a group of three midwives that work together and you get to know all of them that way i know and am used to who ever is on call when i go into labor. here at this hospital there is no telling who would deliver me.
i don't really like that idea.

 

[yasmel]

I would go w/ the Midwife, but of course I am a single mom so my SO to worry about.

 

[AmieV]

I would stick with your original plan. It's hard enough to change plans when YOU want to (trust me, I switched from hospital to birth center at 37 weeks), but to have this foisted on you at the last minute is going to cause you a lot of stress and this venue is obviously something you're not comfortable with...this anxiety is NOT what you need right now and could lead down a road to an unsatisfactory birth. I think your fiance is being extremely unfair. He either needs to take more time off from work or deal with the idea of not being there. I'm sure you can make it through without him if you've got supportive m/w's and your mom.