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What would you do if you noticed a rabbit at someone's house was out of water?

  • Fill up the bottle and mention it to the owner when they got home

    Votes: 37 69.8%
  • Fill up the bottle and kept quiet

    Votes: 11 20.8%
  • Leave the bottle alone and hope the owner fills it up when they return home

    Votes: 5 9.4%
  • Send snarky email to owner stating rabbit shaking from dehydration/exhaustion b/c out of water

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Option 4 PLUS tell child that it looks like hair is turning white b/c it is dying of thirst

    Votes: 0 0.0%
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I'll explain in a bit, but please take the time to let me know what you would do. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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Leave the bottle alone and hope the owner fills it up when they return home.
 

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Fill it up and casually mention it to them. Letting a poor rabbit go thirsty isn't ok <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Fill it up and casually mention it to them. Letting a poor rabbit go thirsty isn't ok <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"></div>
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For the record, the rabbit had water at 9:00 a.m. this morning, but apparently drank it by 4:00 p.m.
 

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I'd either fill it up and mention it to the owner or just mention it to the owner depending on how comfortable I was in that person's house and whether or not the owner was home or would be home soon. If I did fill it up, I would let them know just so that they didn't worry that the rabbit hadn't had any water during the day.
 

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Option 1
 

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I would mention it to someone, and ask if it was ok if I fill it.
 

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Thank you for humoring me. I am feeling overly emotional and crabby today, but this just iced my cake (that I can't stomach because I might vomit). My hubby thinks I'm overreacting, but I think my SILs actions were uncalled for. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"> Here's the story:<br><br>
I left today @ 9:00 after checking bunny water and food levels. Looked good for what she consumes in a day. Met my ILs (MIL and SIL) to drop off big boys for the day so ds3 and I could head to work. At 4:00 they came back to our house. I got an email from SIL while at work stating that the bunny was "shaking uncontrollably due to dehydration and heat exhaustion" because her "water was empty." Oooookay. She had water today. I would never purposely let her go without water. Her food dish was full. Obviously she has been cared for. Also, could that "shaking" have been twitching and possibly a bit of fear from a stranger opening its cage...it is a bunny after all. So I emailed back that she had water this morning.<br><br>
Then I get home and SIL and MIL leave and my 7 year old starts telling us that the bunny's fur is turning white because she is so thirsty it is aging her? WTF? So my 7 year old is all upset and I am on the defensive. Am I being "pregnant?" If it was me, I would have just filled the water up and mentioned, "hey, your bunny was out of water so I filled it up" when they returned home.<br><br>
My SIL is single and 40ish and still lives at home. Not that there's anything wrong with that, but she seems to pick on me every time I am preggo. Besides that, she responded to a thread on Facebook about feeding kids and I guess I offended her because now she is saying "Ciao" to fb for a while due to it and never responding to my posts again (according to her status update).<br><br>
(P.S. I cut and pasted this so I apologize if you read it on TBW.)
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm sorry your 7 year old got so upset, and over something could have been so easily fixed. That's probably the hardest to deal with.<br><br>
I certainly wouldn't like the implication that I was not caring for my pets either. As an isolated incident, this wouldn't make me terribly angry - but it sounds like maybe there's something else going on? Maybe some past incidents (and recent ones, like the Facebook thing) combined with this is the reason you're upset? I don't have a great relationship with my in-laws, and every little thing they do sets me off. The negative feelings have accumulated over time.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm sorry your 7 year old got so upset, and over something could have been so easily fixed. That's probably the hardest to deal with.<br><br>
I certainly wouldn't like the implication that I was not caring for my pets either. As an isolated incident, this wouldn't make me terribly angry - but it sounds like maybe there's something else going on? Maybe some past incidents (and recent ones, like the Facebook thing) combined with this is the reason you're upset? I don't have a great relationship with my in-laws, and every little thing they do sets me off. The negative feelings have accumulated over time.</div>
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Totally true. You hit it right on the head. I think she gets jealous when we are expecting and she hates anything that detracts my hubby's attention from her.<br><br>
Among other things, she is always mentioning how our dog limps and looks like he is in so much pain and we don't have any bones for him. 1. He's a big dog who is almost 10, he has arthritis...of course he limps. 2. He is not in pain. It's just how he moves. 3. He doesn't need bones. We are carefully watching his weight so it doesn't contribute to further hip/joint/arthritis problems.<br><br>
She also argued with me about a card game they had at their house recently. I stated that we have it at our house and she questioned me on how to play it like she didn't believe me. Huh? Are we 5 or grown adults.<br><br>
There's just no way to avoid her. Sigh. It's gonna be a looong 36 or so weeks. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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Your SIL sounds a bit over the top. It seems like her concerns are more to get you riled up than concern over your pets (and I'm really anal about pet care, but I wouldn't react the way she did, especially not for an isolated incident). I think her reaction combined with your pregnancy hormones and your history with her all came together to make this all much worse than it should have been.<br><br>
Maybe you can take something good from this though. Is it normal for bunny to drink her water so quickly? (it sounds like this is abnormal based on your posts). If she has a water bottle, maybe it's leaking the water out during the day and needs to be replaced? (I've had that problem with them before). Or if it's a dish, maybe she's able to upset it? Or maybe she's just drinking much more than normal, which might indicate an illness (I'm no expert on bunnies, but if any of my critters started drinking much more than normal, I'd be a bit concerned).<br><br>
I'm so sorry you have to deal with an unsupportive SIL <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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She does seem off. There is no reason to purposely upset a 7yo with an untrue statement about the bunny's white hair.<br><br>
However - in card games in my group - it is always "house rules". It is very common for every family to have slightly different rules that they abide by. So - her house, her method of card play.
 

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How passive aggressive of her! I would be livid!<br><br>
BTW, I voted the 3rd option. My mom is constantly making passive aggressive remarks about how I care about my dog. I leave him outside too much (because if I bring him in, he begs to go out). I don't feed him enough (he gets fed once a day, eats all of his food and then is done, if I feed him again he won't eat and my 2 year old makes "dog food soup"). I don't give him enough water (I don't let him have any before bedtime because he will wake up at 4am to pee). It's always something. I feel for you. Your SIL sounds just like my mother.
 

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i'd just fill it up and stfu. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">She does seem off. There is no reason to purposely upset a 7yo with an untrue statement about the bunny's white hair.<br><br>
However - in card games in my group - it is always "house rules". It is very common for every family to have slightly different rules that they abide by. So - her house, her method of card play.</div>
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It's not that she is asking how *we* play it, she was truly putting me on the spot to see if we really had it. Why would I lie about having a $4 card game? Or anything for that matter? She is just really a fight-picker. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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Crashing here, sorry, I saw this on new posts! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"><br><br>
If it was someone I knew pretty well I would probably fill it and mention it. I wouldn't automatically assume the bunny wasn't being cared for, though.<br><br>
Actually, since I am allergic I would have someone else fill it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I am sorry you are stressed out about this <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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i would fill it, in case something had happened and the bunny had managed to spill the water out earlier in the day. and i would mention something to the pet's family just to let them know i had done so, out of courtesy.<br><br>
the reaction you're describing sounds totally kookoo to me.
 
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