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I am at a complete loss. My sweet happy healthy (I hope) 5 month old daughter has two distinct personalilites. During the day she is fabulous. She eats when she is hungry, sleeps when she is tired with minimal assistance from anyone (nurses down or falls asleep in the sling while I am doing housework), and stays asleep for two 2-3 hour naps each day with out me next to her. She plays and coos and is generally happy.<br>
Then the sun goes down....<br><br>
From about 9pm until she finally falls asleep around 1am she wails. Now it isn't every night and it isn't the entire time, but it is easily 80% of the time and at least an hour to two hours before she finally goes to sleeps. And she absolutely WILL NOT go to Marc, that makes the wailing louder and more disturbing.<br><br>
Fussing I could handle, my oldest did that. Wanting to nurse the entire time I could handle, my youngest son did that. But this is almost hysterical, screeching, crying and nothing I have found soothes her. It is they kind of crying that tells me she is in pain, but I can't find a reason for it. It is horrific, scarey crying that is so loud I can hear her when I am outside in our parking lot and our windows are closed! It is so bad she gags on her all the drool it produces. I could handle this if it were normal crying, fussying, overstressed type response. But this is painful. I am this >< close to taking her in to be seen by someone!<br><br>
We have tired baths, massages, the sling, teething tabs, colic tabs, taking her in the car (big mistake btw she hates the car), skin to skin, pacifiers, nursing, even tylenol thinking its her teeth. I am out of ideas. She only nurses for about 5 mins or less then pulls of violently looks up at me and screams. The sling that she normally loves is now an evil torture device. The massage works to a point to keep her calm, but as soon as I try to dress her she starts up again. I have tried leaving her naked except for a diaper, but then she wakes up from being cold. I will get her calm down and they BAM! she starts it again about 5 mins later. I get her to nurse asleep, and BAM! she is awake in less than 15 mins and won't nurse again until she has cried for about 10. And then when I do lay down to nurse her again, she digs her little feet into my stomach and kicks me so hard I am looking for bruises the next day.<br><br>
I just don't get it. She only does this at night. Every other nursing session is perfect, even laying down during the day she does just fine. Marc is afraid something is wrong with her. I am starting to think that too.<br><br>
TIA,<br>
N~
 

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Hey mama, I am so sorry you are going through this right now. It sounds so difficult. My ds had colic when he was 2-3 months old and he screamed from 4pm until 10 at night and I know how you feel. So many of those night I was crying myself.<br><br>
It is peculiar that this is happening at 5 months..usually the colic period is over by then and this does sound like classic colic.<br><br>
I am sure this...like everything...will pass.<br><br>
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Maybe she is crying from exhaustion? From what I understand (not much), 9 p.m. seems like it could be a pretty late "bed time" for a 5-month-old. What happens if you try getting her to sleep much earlier in the evening (between 6 and 8)?
 

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Oh, Goddess do I remember this with my dd. By the end of this phase I was near hysterics. The only thing that would help a lot of the time was taking dd outside (and this is when it was cold, I mean like December). The car wouldn't work (although it works great now), nothing that was listed in every friggin baby book at Barnes and Noble would work. We wouldn't bundle her up, just a good winter baby blanket wrapped lightly around her and a nice walk outside at night.<br><br>
Sometimes a couple drops of whiskey sucked from a finger would help (we didn't do this often, and mostly only when she was teething)<br><br>
Other times a little Rescue Remedy would help (assuming she didn't get mad that we wouldn't give her the whole bottle!). Or now Hylands has Calms Fotre 4 kids and that helps too.<br><br>
I know this is a difficult phase, mama, but it will pass, I promise. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s stay strong, you're doing great.
 

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Believe me please in saying I'm as unscheduled a mother as it is possible to be ... and that 9 p.m. time also jumped out at me.<br><br>
My kids also go into freak-out mode when they're overtired, and ironically then can't fall asleep.<br><br>
Is it possible to start the bedtime routine a few hours earlier? Like a lot earlier, when she's still relatively cheerful? If you're family-bedding, then it might be an idea to have a night or two or three where you can try to put her to sleep earlier and go with her and stay there, so if she does wake up you're right there ... and see if the nightly fireworks disappear.<br><br><br><br>
And if they don't disappear? Then I'd go to the doctor ... because you seem to have exhausted all the other options.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 
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