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Oh, I am so upset with myself. I acted like a jerk last night to my DS and this isn't the first time it's happened. He is almost 23 months old and still waking 5 to 10 times a night - sometimes more! I keep waiting and hoping that things will change but seriously, things seem to be getting worse. Last night was one of our typical nights where DS tosses, wakes, wants to nurse, we lay back down and he seems to be about to drift off and then he tosses again, then wants to nurse again, seems to be about to sleep and then the whole scenario repeats over and over for what seems like hours . . . Last night I lost it in the middle of all this and started crying and saying "please, mommy is soooooo tired, we all need to sleep!" Then DH starts in with "maybe he needs Tylenol" which I really try not to give unless he is in obvious teething pain (which he didn't seem to be) then DH and I argue and DS gets more upset/cries and the whole thing is a SUPER MESS!! Nights like this (where I'm begging DS to sleep and/or DH and I start arguing) have happened before, I'm embarrassed to admit. I just feel like such a jerk, but DS will NOT tolerate DH touching him at all at night (walking, rocking, etc) and he also dislikes nursing laying down so I'm sitting up in bed/wide awake 5 to 10 times a night. I just don't know what to do. DS has NEVER been a sleeper. Every once in a while he goes about 3 hours and I feel like a new woman. We've tried everything (except CIO of course) but the cause of the frequent wakings are still a mystery.<br><br>
I'm against CIO - and at this point it would be ridiculous (NOT that I'd even try it) - but really, is it any worse than mama throwing a spaz in the middle of the night?? Ugh! Thanks so much for listening everyone!
 

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I am sorry that you had a rough night! I don't have any suggestions but hang in there!
 

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Hi!<br><br>
I like the term - "spirited". I have one of those. She's now 4.2 and pretty much sleeps through the night, after a good 3 years of what you described. Soooooooooooo, there's hope for you too!!<br><br>
I read somewhere (I think in the "No Cry Sleep Solution") that when a child falls asleep nursing and then wakes up without - it's like falling asleep in your bed and waking up on the cold stone floor. You can't figure out how the hell you got there! Usually when my dd falls asleep on her own, she's more likely to settle easily, without nursing, and doesn't expect to sleep with my nipple <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> .<br><br>
Don't feel like a jerk. You're a wonderful mommy, meeting your ds's needs as much as possible - for 23 months already!!!!!<br><br>
I was wondering if you tried not to nurse. Maybe explain to him that his milk is "all gone" for now (like the milk carton), and we have to wait a bit till we get some more. Does he want some water? Or maybe to hold your hand? Or how about "nursing/sides/boobs/whatever went to sleep. Soon we can wake them up again".....etc....<br><br>
I know that many times my dd needed to release tension by crying in my arms. I'd hold her quietly and let her cry, sometimes in a bear hug, sometimes lying with her and stroking her head and back. She always slept better after that. This is NOT cio. As long as you're with him, and telling him you love him, and are calm and happy just being with him - he'll know that it's okay and mommy will always be there. I found that I was a much happier mommy doing that, whenever needed, than giving in time after time, being exhausted and resentfull.<br><br>
I hope some of this helps. Hang in there - he will learn to sleep eventually!<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 
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