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I do the vacuuming, mopping, dusting, laundry, and cleaning of bathrooms in the early am. (DS in the mei tai) DD watches sesame street and has breakfast during this. Then, we all play together while I watch an hour of soaps. Then we all play together until lunchtime. After lunch, we all go snuggle in bed and take a 2 hr nap together. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> We will go to the playground for an hour, then come home and read books and play blocks for an hour. Then I make dinner. DH comes home, we eat, and we have family time until bath/bedtime. I feel so lazy. I get a nap almost every day. And I watch my Guiding Light soap. (I don't feel TOO bad for this, since I am playing with the kids while it is on.) I feel so guilty. DH is at work, and I am napping. Does anyone else feel guilty for this kind of stuff?
 

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Oh so guilty. But I don't always even get everything done that you do. It's actually becoming pretty depressing and overwhelming for me. I'm not a good "stay at homer" at all. I've tried it over and over and just always end up having to go get a job for no more reason than that I'm no good at the home stuff. But, I need/want/have to be here with dd. I don't resent it, I just worry that I suck at it.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I do the vacuuming, mopping, dusting, laundry, and cleaning of bathrooms in the early am. (DS in the mei tai) DD watches sesame street and has breakfast during this. Then, we all play together while I watch an hour of soaps. Then we all play together until lunchtime. After lunch, we all go snuggle in bed and take a 2 hr nap together. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> We will go to the playground for an hour, then come home and read books and play blocks for an hour. Then I make dinner. DH comes home, we eat, and we have family time until bath/bedtime. I feel so lazy. I get a nap almost every day. And I watch my Guiding Light soap. (I don't feel TOO bad for this, since I am playing with the kids while it is on.) I feel so guilty. DH is at work, and I am napping. Does anyone else feel guilty for this kind of stuff?</div>
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You don't sound lazy at all! You sound like you do a heck of a lot and deserve a nap! LoL.
 

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LOL, I'm pretty similar to the OP- sometimes even 2 naps in a day - but minus all the housework in the morning. About all I do housework wise is one load of laundry, do the dishes, maybe sweep a floor or two. DP (to my immense gratitude!) does the rest in his weekly 'blitzes' of the house. I also feel guilty about naps while DP is working...but then, he gets to watch TV for hours while I'm up and down nursing DS back down to sleep. Sounds like you hve a nice routine/rhythm going for your family, I say go with it, and if it gives you time for little indulgences like your fave soap, great - it prob all helps you not to burn out. My confession: I often read while breastfeeding. I think I'd go nuts from all the feeds otherwise!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Oh so guilty. But I don't always even get everything done that you do. It's actually becoming pretty depressing and overwhelming for me. I'm not a good "stay at homer" at all. I've tried it over and over and just always end up having to go get a job for no more reason than that I'm no good at the home stuff. But, I need/want/have to be here with dd. I don't resent it, I just worry that I suck at it.</div>
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I worry every day that I suck at being a SAHM.
 

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I surf during almost every feed we arent in bed. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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Why would you feel guilty? You do a great job! Now, if you were drinking the mei thais instead of using one to hold the baby......<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
The answer- I would come over and have one too!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">:<br><br>
I still havent been to one of those momtini playdates.....
 

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My laziness comes in spurts, like when I'm bleeding, sick, or it's yucky outside. Yes, sometimes I feel guilty, but then I remember how hard my life was when DS was an infant and I feel like I've earned this well deserved rest!! Other times when I start to feel guilty I realize it's because something's off balance. So I step up and do a little more, as to keep the partnership even between DH and I. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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It sounds like you're doing great. Honestly, if I got that much cleaning done in a day, I'd give myself a big pat on the back!
 

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If thats lazy....I don't even want to know what I am.
 

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You should check out the <a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=874157" target="_blank">lazy mama tribe</a> <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Yup.<br><br>
OP, you do a LOT.<br><br>
I'm gonna go do something useful now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">:<br><br>
Incidentally, my husband is great. If our roles were reversed I KNOW I'd be asking 'What did you do all day? Why isn't X done or Y clean?' But does he? Never! He's much more laid-back than I am in some ways, and he never makes me feel bad or useless or incompetent, even when (quite frankly) I am. He's such a sweetie...
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">You should check out the <a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=874157" target="_blank">lazy mama tribe</a> <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"></div>
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I definitely want to joint this tribe! I'm just too lazy to read through the whole 9 pages at one sitting.
 

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I love the days I get everything done first thing. It seems to make the day so much more pleasant and you're able to enjoy everything. It isn't lazy, it sounds like you use your early day time really well!! Bravo! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I do the vacuuming, mopping, dusting, laundry, and cleaning of bathrooms in the early am. (DS in the mei tai) DD watches sesame street and has breakfast during this. Then, we all play together while I watch an hour of soaps. Then we all play together until lunchtime. After lunch, we all go snuggle in bed and take a 2 hr nap together. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> We will go to the playground for an hour, then come home and read books and play blocks for an hour. Then I make dinner. DH comes home, we eat, and we have family time until bath/bedtime. I feel so lazy. I get a nap almost every day. And I watch my Guiding Light soap. (I don't feel TOO bad for this, since I am playing with the kids while it is on.) I feel so guilty. DH is at work, and I am napping. Does anyone else feel guilty for this kind of stuff?</div>
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Does it count that your post makes <i>me</i> feel guilty? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hide.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hide">:<br><br>
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an actual lazy mom
 

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You get a lot of housework done, you take care of your kids, you take care of you, you find time to do something enjoyable for yourself each day, you get dinner on the table, and you have family time. Sounds like you are a great mom and wife to me! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Our society is so task-oriented that sometimes it's hard to realize that just because we aren't "working" (by society's standards) all day every day, that does not mean we are lazy!!
 

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I guess I feel guilty about the nap. But, If I don't lay with the kids, they wont sleep. The house is pretty clean, clean enough to not be embarrassed by unexpected company. I sound like such a stereo type, watching soaps and napping. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent">
 

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You know, that sounds like a pretty awesome day! I think I'm going to adopt your schedule for our household. A long nap in the afternoon would do us all some good. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Seriously agree with pps here, you are not the least bit lazy. You do way more than I do in a week daily from the sound of it. I also nap with DS almost daily and on the days we don't we're both in a foul mood and go to bed early. I stay up for a couple hours past DS, but still manage about 9 hours of sleep a night. I'm going to a 2-week training session in another week and the hours are brutal- it'll be 11-12 hour days with NO NAPS! Gawd its going to be rough, coming from a real lazy SAHM.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I do the vacuuming, mopping, dusting, laundry, and cleaning of bathrooms in the early am. (DS in the mei tai) DD watches sesame street and has breakfast during this. Then, we all play together while I watch an hour of soaps. Then we all play together until lunchtime. After lunch, we all go snuggle in bed and take a 2 hr nap together. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> We will go to the playground for an hour, then come home and read books and play blocks for an hour. Then I make dinner. DH comes home, we eat, and we have family time until bath/bedtime. I feel so lazy. I get a nap almost every day. And I watch my Guiding Light soap. (I don't feel TOO bad for this, since I am playing with the kids while it is on.) I feel so guilty. DH is at work, and I am napping. Does anyone else feel guilty for this kind of stuff?</div>
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It sounds like heaven to me! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 
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