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We got my DD's ballet pictures back, and I was surprised at how chubby she looked. I started taking a good look at her physically, on her own and compared to the kids around her. She's definitely heavier than she should be. The ped brought it up at her 4 year appointment because she was 75th percentile for height and 95th for weight. I freaked out a little but he said it wasn't a big deal at this age, it was common for 4 year olds to be uneven. He said it WOULD be a problem at her 5 year appointment though.<br><br>
So we just weighed and measured her (my DH does it occasionally and marks it on her closet door, so no stigma attached), and I looked at the growth charts. She's now 50th for height (41 inches) and 90th for weight (44 pounds).<br><br>
I am heartbroken. How could I have ignored the issue for so long????? I guess I feel like we are running running running around constantly, so we must be getting exercise. But being hectic is no substitute for actual activity <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> A major part of the problem is that I work from home with no real childcare, so we end up eating fast/junk food much more than we should, and we don't get out enough for the same reasons (I'm trying to work).<br><br>
Plus, I'm just not an outdoorsy person, and I don't know how to combat that! I'd so much rather be inside reading a book or working on the house than outside at the park or playing a sport (ha!). I definitely have my own weight problem (size 16-ish) and have been addressing portion control.<br><br>
And she's gotten to a very picky eating stage. She won't eat most of the healthier meals I cook, won't eat most veggies right now (though she used to eat almost all of them), won't eat nuts or seeds or any kind of healthy snacks. I never wanted to battle over meals, so if she doesn't like something I'll make her a cream cheese and jelly sandwich and some fruit.<br><br>
Ugh, I'm freaking out, feeling like a very bad mama right now. How did I let it get like this? I mean, I know she's not THAT overweight, but for the situation to have been brought to my attention nine months ago and then have gotten WORSE? I feel like a horrible mom, so wrapped up in my own stuff that I didn't see what my DD was needing.<br><br>
I never wanted DD to have the same relationship to food that I do. I've never been a big eater of fruits and veggies. When I was growing up, we had apples and frozen broccoli and corn in the house--that was it. I love my parents, but they never instilled in me an understanding of healthy eating and physical fitness. I've tried to do that for her, but I guess a conceptual understanding is not the same as walking the walk.<br><br>
This is mostly a vent, because my DH is gone right now and my mom, who has her own weight problem and who always brings over junk food when she comes, insists that there's nothing wrong with my DD's weight and that she's fine. But I would love love love any suggestions for making myself (and, consequently, the kids) get up and active more, and for healthy snacks that I can keep around besides just fruit, which she does get tired of at times.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:
 

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One way with snack foods it not to allow unhealthy foods into the house. If there not there nobody will eat them.<br><br>
We like to snack on nuts fruits and veggies. But let me tell you if there was junk food in the house the fruits and veggies would rot.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">We like to snack on nuts fruits and veggies. But let me tell you if there was junk food in the house the fruits and veggies would rot.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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This is so true for me too!<br><br>
OP - <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> You are not a bad mama!<br><br>
You may have already tried this, but is there any way you could get your DD involved in selection and preparation of food...? like going to a farmer's market (or the veggie aisle of the grocery) and letting her pick what looks good and try it? Or maybe having her help in fixing snacks and food... I've seen several books at the library (although no titles come to mind) about fun kid-made snacks. my mom used to do stuff like ants on a log (celery w/ PB and raisins) and cutting sandwhiches out w/ cookie cutters into interesting shapes.... anything where she can get more interested in food as nourishing not as something to be restricted...<br><br>
for increasing activity, what about more game related stuff than exercise - hula hoops, hackey sacks, twister, obstacle course around the house, etc...? She is in ballet class, so it sounds like that is an active thing that she enjoys!<br><br>
Don't be hard on yourself, it may be a developmental thing... I was always chubby growing up, but very active and healthy eating, then when puberty hit, I got tall and stretched out a little <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Don't beat yourself up! Lots of kids grow "out" before "up." But it is never a bad thing to instill healthy habits, especially if you feel that your family is lacking in that area.<br><br>
The fact that she is in ballet is good - that is a physical activity. Maybe you could sign her up for another physical activity that she would like to try - soccer, gymnastics, t-ball, etc.<br><br>
As for healthy snacks - We do a lot of fruit in our house, but we will splurge on the more expensive fruits that STBSD loves (berries, mangoes) because they are good for her. Some other things:<br><br>
-low-fat, low-sugar yogurt<br>
-raw veggies and hummus or low-fat salad dressing<br>
-baked tofu cubes (seasoned with tamari or a spice blend, throw on a cookie sheet sprayed with cooking spray until golden)<br>
-string cheese<br>
-frozen fruit, banana and milk/soymilk smoothies<br>
-fruit leather<br>
-trail mix (limit the m & m kind)<br><br>
Is she a juice/soda drinker? Switching to water or unsweetened herbal iced tea will help cut down calories A LOT.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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I think you need to completely re-evaluate your approach to nutrition and food. I think it would be a good idea if you followed one of those mostly vegan eating plans (MacDougal I think?) and start doing more of your own cooking. Don't feel bad! It's really not your fault, and here you are, wanting to change. You'll probably need to cut out refined sugars,hydrogenated fats, white flour, limit most fats, all meat and dairy, and increase your legume, nuts, whole grains, fruits, and veggie intake. These are things you should do even if you are not interested in losing weight.<br><br>
So in short: cut out sugars, hydrogenated fats, and refined grains; limit meat/ dairy intake to no more than 10/20% of your diet; increase your vegan food groups (legume, nuts, whole grains, fruits, and veggie). Stop buying packaged/ prepared foods-- they are laced with artificial ingredients that can be damaging and addictive. Plus prepared foods (even crackers) are made with lots of hydrogenated fats, bleached, refined grains, and lots of sodium. Most fast food places use MSG.<br><br>
Some links:<br><br><a href="http://www.vegsource.com" target="_blank">www.vegsource.com</a><br><a href="http://www.drmcdougall.com/index.html" target="_blank">http://www.drmcdougall.com/index.html</a><br><br>
And go to the whole foods and vegetarian forums here! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I never thought I could cut out refined sugars, but here I am... sugar free.
 
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