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Someone HELP ME!!!<br>
Here's the low down. All of my life I have battled being over weight. WHen I was a preteen a gained a lot of weight, in my teen years I managed my weight pretty well although I was still considerably over weight.<br><br>
I am way to over weight now, and I seriously think I am on the verge of health problems if I don't get this under control. I am 5' 3", 195lbs. For years I weighed no more than 160, but my goal is to weigh less than 140.<br><br>
I had my DS almsot three years ago. At one month PP I was back at my pre pregnacy weight. For a year I didn't gain or lose weight. Then 18 months PP,I switch Birth control pills, to Ortho Tri-cylin lo. Well a year later I am 30lbs heavier. Needless to say, I haven't lost any weight since January which when completely quit taking the pill all together.<br><br><br>
Also, my self esteem is 0, I even told my DF that the reason I haven't want to have sex is because I'm not sexy anymore. I am just fat.<br><br>
So I am here to listen. I need some help and support. Tell me all of the secrets..before I actually go out and seek Lipo suction (just for the saddle bags, that pooch in the front and the love handles)<br><br>
Denise
 

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Go to the ETL thread, buy the book and start tonight. Join a gym with childcare and go everyday except Sundays. After the first week it will be the best part of your day and you won't want to miss a workout.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I have also felt too un-sexy and fat to make love. It's a horrible feeling. Believe me, my dh really didn't care about my weight. He just loved ME. It was a very hard thing to accept, and I eventually was able to accept that (for some weird reason), he was attracted to my body, even if I thought everyone else (including myself) was repulsed.<br><br>
Last summer, I started paying close attention to my portions, and, while not eliminating anything, I did cut down on the amount of junky snacks, added a lot more fresh fruits and veggies to my diet, and drinking lots of water. I also started to walk on my treadmill. I was too embarassed and too tired to walk outside, but I have had a treadmill that my brother is storing at our house for years now. I put the baby in the sling or Ergo and started walking. I started pretty slow for half an hour, and worked myself up to a brisk walk for an hour! The weight has come steadily off (until lately, but my plateau is another story <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">). I have lost almost 60 pounds. I am feeling so much better than ever before. I've started running, and am liking the shape that my body is getting!<br><br>
Now, with all that said, I have done weight watchers before, and had really internalized their point system as a means of understanding portions. If you are starting from scratch, I think this is a great program. But, I think the key for me, was adding exercise. I simply had to make the lifestyle change to make daily activity a part of my life.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> again.
 

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Read this: <a href="http://www.stumptuous.com/cms/displayarticle.php?aid=157" target="_blank">http://www.stumptuous.com/cms/displa...le.php?aid=157</a><br><br>
And the rest of the site. Extremely good, no-nonsense get-fit advice including how to get fit using stuff lying around your house.<br><br>
Good luck! I'm working on the same thing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Thanks for the link. I haven't been on there in a while.<br><br>
I like her page on the kettlebell workout. I've been thinking about taking it up, but didn't want to have to keep buying newer, heavier ones and trying to find someone to buy the old ones that I no longer would need. Her idea of making a "kettlestack" is even more appealing.
 

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start small, with things that you are able to change and stick to <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Make mini-goals for yourself, like:<br><br>
In the next week, I will:<br>
-stop drinking soda<br>
-increase water consumption to 64 ozs a day<br>
-move my body more (even if this is 10 minutes a day, it's something!)<br><br>
In the next month, I will:<br>
-decrease the sweets that I eat<br>
- move my body even more (aiming for half hour, 5 days a week)<br>
- stop eating after 8 o'clock<br><br>
you get the idea; don't try to do it ALL at once, it's overwhelming. But little steps over time will get you there. This is how I've done it, and I've lost over 25 since Jan 1st, and I'm now less than 15 pounds from my goal <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> For me, the biggest factors are moving my body every single day (I walk my kids to school, which winds up being just over 3 miles a day between all the trips there and back), not eating after dinner at ALL, drinking at least 80 ozs of water a day, and being very mindful of portion control.
 

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So I have started some mini goals. Each week I will set diet and exercise goals.<br><br>
This week<br>
Eat a light Dinner (no gravy..or fried foods WHICH I LOVE)<br>
Drink lots of water<br>
Eat a Light breakfast (no sausage, bacon or gravy)<br>
one cup of coffee with milk and sugar..(NO non-dairy Creamer)<br>
Exercise atleast 30 minutes four days out of seven<br>
Walk to places that are local like the Gym, Classes, and library<br><br>
Weight loss goal 2lbs<br><br>
Well, there it is. I am giving up gravy and non-dairy Creamer. My "junk" snack will be All Natural fat free popsicles.<br><br>
Also, I will be looking at that link. I do need some straight forward advice about fitness. This is something I want to maintain for life.
 

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Those look like very reasonable, good goals! GO YOU <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"><br><br>
a suggestion for a "treat" along the lines of your ff popsicles; my kids and I have been loving homemade yogurt popsicles. I use plain, lowfat yogurt (stonyfield farms) blended with strawberries, blueberries, banana, a bit of milk and a very small touch of honey, and a big spoonful of wheat germ. I blend it all together then pour it into the popsicle mold to freeze. Good for you, and yummy!! (If you don't have a popsicle mold, you could also use paper cups and popsicle sticks)
 

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Mmm, that popsicle recipe sounds good! I might have to try that with the kids!
 

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the best thing about it is that they think it's a super duper treat but I'd seriously let them eat it for breakfast since it's so healthy, LOL! THey think I am the coolest mom ever in the summer when they get to have "popsicles" for breakfast and lunch <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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You've gotten great advice, so I just wanted to give you some virtual HUGS! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br>
I have lost about 60lbs now just counting cals and exercising (from August last year to today) and am pretty acitve on sparkpeople.com's message boards for support and I track my food via <a href="http://www.fitday.com" target="_blank">www.fitday.com</a><br>
I didn't realize how much I was actually eating until I started tracking. I also started off the exercise small, now I am up to doing something at least 30 mins a day 5-6 days a week. On my "day off" I usually mall walk.<br>
Hugs,<br>
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I am so sorry to hear this. It has come up in so many threads. I can really offer nothing you probably don't already know. I know that whole, organic un-processed foods will help, lots of water to clean out your system, a cleansing herbal detox to re-establish healthy GI function, NO low/no fat foods, and foods/drinks with preservatives have been shown in some studies to actually maintain the fat in one's body.<br>
For perspective's sake, I would ask you to remember that there are alot of factors involved in one's current health and weight problems in later life can be partially linked to things occuring earlier in life. For instance, mothers who are obese during pregnancy increase their child's risk of having weight problems later on and formula fed babies also are found to have more weight problems. Genetic, environmental, emotional, societal and personal factors all come into play here so it is no wonder that this is a struggle. I am sorry I cannot be more help to you but I think it is wonderful that you are trying to deal with this problem head on. Please keep it up and be strong!
 

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I second the mini goals. Think short term. When I had to lose my pp weight it was much easier to think of losing just two pounds per week than of the overall 40 pounds.<br><br>
Also, I personally find glutony distasteful, so I try to think of images of glutony when I feel myself going overboard. Gobbling up tons of bread or candy or whatever. I try to only take what I need not only so I lose weight, but because I value that way of life.<br><br>
Also, don't bring unhealthy food into your house and you won't have them there to eat. My dh is also concious of his weight (heis a triathlete and likes to keep very little body fat) so this is easier for me, but get the rest of your family onboard and don't buy the bad stuff. If you eat out, eat at healthy restaurants. And remember, being thin feels better than any food tastes.<br><br>
Good luck. Love your body enough to take good care of it!
 

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I totally 2nd fitday.com. I recently lost 15 lbs. just through tracking what I ate, exercising more and drinking tons of water.<br><br>
I have always considered my diet very healthy, but when I started tracking my calories I realized that I was easily eating 250-500 calories over what I should be eating. Being mindful about portion control has been so eye-opening for me. Something else I discovered- when I keep within my calorie range there are times where I will be hungry, and that's OK!<br><br>
Good luck, mama. I am also 5'3" and I know how hard it is to carry extra weight at that height. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 
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