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I always thought that I would tandem nurse when DS arrived. DD was so attached to nursing. She nursed the day before her brother was born and none since then. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: She was 19 months old. We brought him home and she sat next to me while he ate. She told me "Asher eats Bop-Bops!" I was so excited that she was interested in his eating.....I was very worried she would be jealous. She seemed interested in feeding so I offered and she said no. A few days later she latched for half a second after Asher was done. She did that a few times over the first couple of weeks then nothing. I ask her occasionally if she wants some bop-bops and she always says no. She was terribly upset the other day and wouldn't calm down for anyone. Usually she would nurse and be happy so I offered and she again refused.<br><br>
I didn't realize how much I would miss this. I was happy that it wasn't the fight I was expecting (as was everyone else....she was very attached to nursing). Now I am very upset about loosing that special time with her. It was just like a switch turned off when Asher came home.<br><br>
I also feel bad about how our relationship ended. The last few weeks I was very annoyed by her nursing and wouldn't let her go for too long. The last few times I tolerated it longer since I didn't know if she would stop or not.....but as I look back i wish I could have tolerated it alot more.<br><br>
I just wanted to tell someone this.....DH is glad she stopped. He always said he would support me no matter how long we went but I guess her refusal made him change his mind. I needed someone who would understand....and I knew I could find it here.
 

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I totally understand - my 1st DD was 14 1/2 months when her sister was born, & weaned 4 days before her birth, just before the 40th week. I was ready to tandem, & had "made it" through the whole pregnancy, had to supplement from the 2nd trimester on, but DD#1 was still nursing pretty well until the last month of my pregnancy- but was only nursing 1-2x/day for the last week, & I was feeling like "we're almost to the finish line, I'll have plenty of milk again, it won't feel icky/ouchy anymore", & then she just was done. So I wish we'd ended on a little better note than mamma just "putting up with" her nursing, & that she could have gotten more milk. She'll say "Baby milkies!" & "Milkies good!" when her sister nurses, but she isn't interested in nursing anymore.
 
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