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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: I was taking care of this little boy, who is 9 weeks old, for his parents. And he wasn't circ'ed whihc I thought was awesome, until I told his mom that his foreskin looked a little redder than normal, and asked if she was doing anything about that. And she said, "Yeah, next week he's getting circumsized. Finally, I was so tired of having to look at the gross little penis"<br><br>
So, I told her than DS (who is almost 18months old) is not circ'd, and that with proper care (which isn't much) her baby won't need to get circ'd.<br><br>
AND SHE TOOK HER BABY AWAY and then called me to let me know that since we don't see "eye to eye" then she doesn't feel comfortable leaving her son with someone who would allow their own child to be so dirty...<br><br>
So now 1.) poor baby JOey is going to get circ'd and 2.) DS overheard the woman saying that his body was "gross", and I KNOW he's too young to understand but it just really hurt my feelings, KWIM?
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dropjaw"> That is so awful.<br><br>
I'm so sorry that happened to you....and that poor baby. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:
 

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OMG, what kind of parent refers to their kid's normal genitals as "gross"? She ought to be ashamed of herself. I worry what other rejecting messages she is going to give her child over his lifetime?<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dropjaw"><br><br>
You did nothing wrong.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">OMG, what kind of parent refers to their kid's normal genitals as "gross"? She ought to be ashamed of herself. I worry what other rejecting messages she is going to give her child over his lifetime?<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dropjaw"><br><br>
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Ditto this.<br>
I am appalled at this. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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That is so abusive, but she's just voicing what a lot of American women are a least savvy enough not to voice aloud. Evil. She shouldn't have children.<br><br>
(Maybe her dh can take her somewhere where he can have her 'gross' genitals cut- why would her helplessness in the face of threatened mutilation be any more appalling than this? Plenty of people think intact labia are revolting- she at least should have a Clockwork Orange reeducation experience.)
 

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How odd. I wonder what made her not do it in the first place and if somehow that can be apealed too. However since she no longer chooses to have you watcher her son that will be hard. I really do not understand people somtimes! Poor little boy!
 

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This is so sad <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying">
 

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That poor little boy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: Talk about not being receptive to the truth <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
love and peace. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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How terrible for that poor little boy, to have such a shallow and ignorant cow for a mother. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<br><br>
But kudos to you for trying. I am sorry that ignoramus insulted your ds and you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">How odd. I wonder what made her not do it in the first place and if somehow that can be apealed too. However since she no longer chooses to have you watcher her son that will be hard. I really do not understand people somtimes! Poor little boy!</div>
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Her insurance wouldn't pay for the surgery (as with MOST cosmetic procedures) and she didn't have the $$$...<br><br>
I'm sorry for the fact that I was even hurt by what she said, it just... I don't know, anytime ANYONE questions my parenting choices it makes me sad... I spent SO long researching and I'm so sensitive all the time... GRRRR... I HATE that she made me feel this way!
 

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If <b>I</b> was in your shoes, I would've had some CHOICE words for her. How dare she call your son dirty.....I'm jsut so infuriated by her response I am shaking!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Her insurance wouldn't pay for the surgery (as with MOST cosmetic procedures) and she didn't have the $$$...<br><br>
I'm sorry for the fact that I was even hurt by what she said, it just... I don't know, anytime ANYONE questions my parenting choices it makes me sad... I spent SO long researching and I'm so sensitive all the time... GRRRR... I HATE that she made me feel this way!</div>
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Maybe you made her feel the same way.<br><br>
Not that what she's doing is OK. It's absolutely horrible, especially saying your son was dirty. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Maybe you made her feel the same way.<br><br>
Not that what she's doing is OK. It's absolutely horrible, especially saying your son was dirty. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:</div>
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But thats what made me so angry... I didn't attack her choice AT ALL!!! I didn't have time anyway, as soon as I said (in a calm voice) "Oh, well, we didn't circ Connor, and he is perfectly fine, the redness was just normal" she picked up her kid and FLEW out of my house...
 

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That woman is a NUT CASE. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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Well since its over anyways, I'd rip that other name for a female dog a new one. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/censored.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="censored">
 

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First of all...you ladies are a riot<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Some of these posts made me LOL!!<br><br>
But, I feel a little different. You are in the BEST place to say something. The relationship with this (psycho) lady is already over, so what do you have to lose? Most people write about wanted to say something, but not wanting to offend. Screw this lady, who cares if you offend.<br><br>
I would seriously get as much info as you can off the internet and mail her new info everyday. Not one big packet she will throw away, but stuff she would have to keep seeing. Lots of pictures!!<br><br>
Just a suggestion.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">First of all...you ladies are a riot<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Some of these posts made me LOL!!<br><br>
But, I feel a little different. You are in the BEST place to say something. The relationship with this (psycho) lady is already over, so what do you have to lose? Most people write about wanted to say something, but not wanting to offend. Screw this lady, who cares if you offend.<br><br>
I would seriously get as much info as you can off the internet and mail her new info everyday. Not one big packet she will throw away, but stuff she would have to keep seeing. Lots of pictures!!<br><br>
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Once she saw what the first email contained (assuming she opened it, considering how mad she seems at you), she wouldn't open any others figuring (rightly) that they were the same.
 

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You didn't even know she was going to circ when you brought up the redness! You are not at fault...I so feel for you. Kind of hard not to get thrown for a loop when a mother says her son's penis is GROSS. WTF<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 
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