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Why can't he get it together? He gets it together when it's something that he wants or enjoys, but if it's something for me, or us as a family or couple, it just doesn't happen.
We are behind on bills. I ask him and ask him if he wants help in paying them, in remembering them, but no, he can do it! Yeah right. The kicker is that I sacrificed something of mine, a bond, to help us catch up a couple of months ago. I feel like he doesn't even care. Then he also throws it in my face that I'm even mentioning the bond.
Our aniversiary is comming up next week. All I hear is, "Well, what do you want to do?" For his birthday, I planned everything, stuff that we'd have fun doing together; for my birthday, we did something he wanted to do, and he didn't even get me a card! I REFUSE to plan something for our aniversiary. If he doesn't care enough to plan anything, well then I guess that's his problem.
And then I feel like a horrible person for complaining, because he does work hard, and he's in school. He's also VERY laid back, and takes my moodswings in stride- most of the time. But I try to encourage him, and I get nothing in return. I hate complaining, but I'm just reaching my limits.
I don't think that this post made much sense, but it felt marvelous to vent!
We are behind on bills. I ask him and ask him if he wants help in paying them, in remembering them, but no, he can do it! Yeah right. The kicker is that I sacrificed something of mine, a bond, to help us catch up a couple of months ago. I feel like he doesn't even care. Then he also throws it in my face that I'm even mentioning the bond.
Our aniversiary is comming up next week. All I hear is, "Well, what do you want to do?" For his birthday, I planned everything, stuff that we'd have fun doing together; for my birthday, we did something he wanted to do, and he didn't even get me a card! I REFUSE to plan something for our aniversiary. If he doesn't care enough to plan anything, well then I guess that's his problem.
And then I feel like a horrible person for complaining, because he does work hard, and he's in school. He's also VERY laid back, and takes my moodswings in stride- most of the time. But I try to encourage him, and I get nothing in return. I hate complaining, but I'm just reaching my limits.
I don't think that this post made much sense, but it felt marvelous to vent!