[tidalwalker]

How does one move past anger and give a relationship a fresh start? It is so hard after 3+ years together with the past year including a new baby! My partner's behavior has ranged everywhere from completely unsupportive to beyond incredible with the consistency being in the more negative range. Lately he is really giving a new effort and we even (just) started counselling. I am still so pissed off though and when he faulter a bit on his efforts I snap back into "I've had it!!" mode. He has some (untreated) depression/motivation issues that only compound our problems.

We just fought and I'm so fired up I thought a vent here would do me some good. I am so sick of hoping for him to truly change.

Thanks for listening!!

 

[angelpie545]

Oh my goodness I could have written your post. My husband is bi-polar (self diagnosed-he refuses to get an official diagnosis) and dealing with it is insanity. I suspect he has other issues besides just that one, and boy, moving past hurt and anger for the things that he has done is super hard, so don't feel like it's just you. When someone has wronged you, and you know for a fact you did nothing to deserve it, it's hard to accept the mistake and move on, especially if it's your significant other. I know that my intimate relations have definately sufferend immensely from it. I would suggest counseling and working very had on communication. It's tough to move past.

 

[Strong Mama]

Wow this is me too!!!! I am subbing.

 

[tidalwalker]

thanks for the replys!
not that i want other people dealing with what we go through, it helps to know it's not just us. i hope the counselling helps. i can almost see him thinking he can see through all of it, you know, and remain above it but for now he's open so i'll try to remain the same. i don't want to regret not giving it one final try in 5 years so i'm still committed.

i need somewhere to leave my anger so i can try to move on without all the yucky weight of it. it makes me feel physically heavy to get so mad and i just want that kind of energy out of me. long term it could do some serious damage, not to mention how it can affect our 1 year old.

 

[Strong Mama]

if you want to be my *anger venter partner* online, feel free to pm me anytime you need to vent or talk, and i can do the same with you, if thats ok. I have never met anyone with this problem in real life, and am kinda embarassed to talk to my friends about it, you know what i mean? anyway, feel free to contact me if you want to talk!