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I took dd to visit my very ill grandmother for a week last week. She is 15 months old and nursing for 99% of her nutrition so its often. My mom weaned me at 11 months because of my grandfather's comments about being too old. I was worried what would happen when we got there.<br>
dd would run up and ask for her "mimi" and they would laugh. They thought she was cute! No bad comments at all!<br>
I was so relieved. I guess someone was right, sometimes you just have to see if before you can make a judgement
 

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isnt it nice when they surprise you!<br><br>
your dd sounds adorable...probably would melt ANYONE!<br><br>
yeah!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Awww, thats so wonderful! It really makes a difference when you have your families support <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">)<br><br>
There are three of us girls with babies aged 15 months (mine), 12 months and five months... we are all nursing and plan to for some time. Our mother nursed all six of us so its kind of a given that we all would too!
 

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I love this thread, too bad it doesnt get the kind of responses the 'unsupportive family' ones get <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
I love to hear about those of us who are surrounded by a community we feel comfortable raising our children in!<br><br>
My family isnt very supportive, and they bicker with us about everything we do...but my inlaws are so wonderful (if not a bit too loving and protective of dd <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">: ) My MIL nursed her 2 sons till they were in preschool, and was so loving with them. she had them later in life, and lost a newborn in between my dh and bil, so she really cherished them! and she does the same to my daughter! They love her so much, and even frowned a bit when we actually did start giving her tastes of food (dh gave her some stuff at about 6 months) They thought maybe it was too soon, and may interfere with her nursing so well and growing so healthy and strong! When we decided to stop vax'ing, they were releived, saying they werent sure about it to begin with, but didnt want to interfere....<br><br>
MIL was in LLL 30 years ago...the first gift I got for the baby was 'the womanly art of breastfeeding' from her, the day after we told them we were preg!
 

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yeah.. thats awesome <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Yay! It's refreshing to hear that your family supports EB. My family has also been supportive - now that they realize that I was going to continue no matter what their opinion was!<br><br>
Your DD sounds adorable. My DD calls it "mamas"! (similar to mimi)
 

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I love hearing these stories!! I have a MIL who keeps asking when are we weaning and a mom that hasn't said a word either way. Not bad compared to others.<br><br>
I can only hope that when my dd has her first she can post a messages like these. Oh wait! I hope there is no need for messages like this, but just in case...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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My inlaws were very supportive like that, too, and I was in shock. Unfortunately, now that Konur is 2.5 years, their support has left. Their last comment was about him being a "wimp" if I kept nursing him. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">:<br><br><br>
I hope your family continues thier support, but do be prepared for it to end if you continue. I wish I would have been and known what to say when they threw and more at me.
 

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Ah, it is nice when they surprise you. One thing I've noticed is that my mom seems to really appreciate that DS is just still very young... now that she is in the grandparent role, I'm thinking she really wonders why she was in such a rush to teach us to be independent. She's never actually said it like that, but her comments and well, lack of criticism has made me *hope* that's what she's thinking. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
I do have to comisserate with Konur's mom though. I got more open support when DS was under two but now that's he's a few months shy of three, I can see that there are questions in people's eyes. Mostly from DH's folks, but even to some degree my family. *sigh* Have they learned nothing???? Is DS not a great kid?? Why do they question so? Have I ever given them the idea that I haven't thought through everything I do as a parent about 1 million times??? I have faith they'll keep there questions to themselves.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
All the best,<br><br>
Em
 

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Isn't it great when they surprise you like that? So far, no one in my family has said anything against our extended nursing. Ds is 25 months old. I'm sure they think it's odd, but I appreciate their ability to keep it to themselves!<br><br>
My stepdad came close to making a disparaging remark. He said, "When I see everything that you go through to keep nursing him, I'm kind of glad that my daughter stopped when she was three months old." I told him that I am very glad to nurse ds, and that it has worked very well for us. My stepdad doesn't<br>
"get" a lot of things, so his comments didn't mean a whole lot to me.<br><br>
I have been surprised by my family's acceptance of our nursing, and even MORE surprised by my IL's silence on the matter.
 

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How great for you to get such a pleasant surprise!<br><br>
My MIL nursed my Dh until he was 3 1/2, and he does not hesitate to tell people this. He also tells people our plans for doing something similar! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I am so blessed. Both sides of my family have been so supportive. My mom nursed me and my sister for 3 mos each, back in the 50s that was huge. I nursed mine until toddlerhood/preschoolerhood and she was always in favor of it, as long as we were happy and healthy, and we were. Smart too.<br><br>
My MIL is supportive, altho she did not nurse. 3 of my SILS EBFed several kids before I had my first. I loved watching them causally nursing at family get-togethers, while other kids ran around. It was just the normal thing to do. Nobody did CIO either.<br><br>
We disagree on some other things, but at least in this case we agree!
 

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My father (who is 61) was very supportive of my breastfeeding my DS and was much chagrinned when he self-weaned at 22 mnths.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> He comes from a farm family and he was used to babies nursing well into their 3rd year. Who would ever think a rugged old ******* would be so pro-AP??<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 
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