My daughter just turned 3 and while she has always had some spunk to her she's been so easy going. The past 2 weeks she has become a different child. She is really hyper and high strung now. I'll try to calmly get her attention but she seems to have fun ignoring me. I've started shouting at her.
I don't really know what the reason is for this huge 180 in her behavior, and consequently, my own.
She has started sleeping with us once again when she had been sleeping in her own bed for the past year. I really want to her to be her own person and I'm all for her exploring her world and playing but lately she doesn't listen when I NEED for her to stop doing her current behavior.
Example: She likes to help me cook. She usually has a step that she stands on at the counter. Well last night I was preheating the oven and she had put her step right in front of the oven door. I let her remain for a moment and I asked if we could move her step to the counter before the oven got hot. She shouts "NO!" I was like Sophie the oven is going to get very hot and its time to move out of the way. Again she shouts no so I pick her up and move her out of the kitchen. She of course starts crying. I opened the oven to put the food inside and explained how hot things can burn us but I was angry at that point. I just started yelling about how she won't listen and how I can't take it anymore. Which then and only then does my dh step in and then he started yelling at her too which then I felt like total crap because no one deserves to have everyone or anyone hollering at them ya know?
Honestly I just get so flustered sometimes when things that would usually take me 3 minutes get dragged into 15 because I have to explain things to Sophie or try to redirect her.
I've been a nightmare to her lately. I can feel the 3 of us falling apart. I cry. She cries. I yell. I can't stop. I was yelled at a lot as a child and now it just seems to be the only way that I know how to communicate. I feel awful. I suck so bad at raising a toddler. I don't get GD very well. It isn't coming to me naturally at all. I've read the books. I just can't get it to play into our lives. I know this is more of a vent but I need help. Sophie needs help. My baby doesn't deserve this. I'm just lost.

She has started sleeping with us once again when she had been sleeping in her own bed for the past year. I really want to her to be her own person and I'm all for her exploring her world and playing but lately she doesn't listen when I NEED for her to stop doing her current behavior.
Example: She likes to help me cook. She usually has a step that she stands on at the counter. Well last night I was preheating the oven and she had put her step right in front of the oven door. I let her remain for a moment and I asked if we could move her step to the counter before the oven got hot. She shouts "NO!" I was like Sophie the oven is going to get very hot and its time to move out of the way. Again she shouts no so I pick her up and move her out of the kitchen. She of course starts crying. I opened the oven to put the food inside and explained how hot things can burn us but I was angry at that point. I just started yelling about how she won't listen and how I can't take it anymore. Which then and only then does my dh step in and then he started yelling at her too which then I felt like total crap because no one deserves to have everyone or anyone hollering at them ya know?
Honestly I just get so flustered sometimes when things that would usually take me 3 minutes get dragged into 15 because I have to explain things to Sophie or try to redirect her.
I've been a nightmare to her lately. I can feel the 3 of us falling apart. I cry. She cries. I yell. I can't stop. I was yelled at a lot as a child and now it just seems to be the only way that I know how to communicate. I feel awful. I suck so bad at raising a toddler. I don't get GD very well. It isn't coming to me naturally at all. I've read the books. I just can't get it to play into our lives. I know this is more of a vent but I need help. Sophie needs help. My baby doesn't deserve this. I'm just lost.