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So I need to know if this is just normal or I'm bad at babytalk or what. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> Dd is 20, almost 21 mos, and frequently she says things I can't understand. Usually multiple words, a phrase or sentence. She'll look very earnestly into my eyes and repeat herself a few times. Eventually I usually respond with something lame like, "That's wonderful" or "Oh, I absolutely agree." But I have no clue what she's saying. She's repeating the same things, and she talks tons and tons and tons, but only has a few words I understand. Those are:<br><br>
here-you-go<br>
dada<br>
mama<br>
brrrrouway ("pick me up")<br>
da (dog, but she uses it for cats, too)<br>
heyo (hello)<br>
whaszis? (what's this)<br><br>
Umm, there are a couple more I can understand but I'm forgetting them right now. Is it normal that she'd be apparently putting together phrases and so on but I just don't know what she's saying? I'm really clueless. I'm good at languages, but I've always been bad at understanding what babies/toddlers were saying. She'll talk to her rocking horse, me, her daddy, herself . . .<br><br>
I would guess maybe she's just mimicking the "sound" of language rather than really speaking anything meaningful, but I don't think that's necessarily the case because there are things/phrases that she articulates the same and repeats multiple times and I just don't understand them. If she was just making noise, I'd think it would be different every time, kwim?<br><br>
Any insight? I kind of expected to have better communication by this point with her. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> And obviously, she's my first and I didn't have any younger siblings . . . I don't really have any experience to go on. MIL keeps thinking she's saying a bazillion things that I don't think she's really saying - I think MIL is projecting. But at the same time, I don't know what the heck dd IS saying, if anything!
 

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Have you tried sign language? Our 20 month old babbles a lot, but there's not a lot in terms of recognizable words (yet). But she signs like a fiend, and that has been so incredibly helpful. She's communicating with us all the time, but we'd never know it, if we weren't teaching her to sign.
 

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Can you point me to some resources that would teach me how to do that? I've never tried it before and don't know where to start. It's not a bad idea, though - she's extremely physical and that might seem more sensible to her in terms of communication. Thanks! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Its so funny because I cant understand 90% of what my DS says either...but everyone thinks I can because I respond to him like I can! Examples you have use... 'Oh is that so...' 'Really, thats very interresting'...' I completly agree'...'You know I have been saying that all along'...'Did she really say that?'...etc... I think it makes him feel like hes being listened to and every one else that hears us will ask me what he said as they think I know! hehe... He does say a lot of words and some sentences are starting to form...but 90% is really just...babble! But its consistent babble, so I know they are 'words' to my DS (as you have described of your DC)...hes just not very good at saying them yet. Because he will repeat (or try to) words that we say to him and sometimes they come out correctly...and sometimes they come out as something really different! (which sound alot like the rest of his babbling!)<br>
I second the sign language as well! It can be really helpful as children can learn to sign before they can talk!<br>
I would try and be patient though. Children do develop at different rates and I know my son will be talking properly before long...and not a moment too soon! lmao
 

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If you're not tv-averse, see if your library has Signing Time. They are awesome! I took a class w/ a great teacher and signed w/ ds from 10 mo on, and he maybe used up 3-4 signs. A couple of episodes of ST and he was signing along to songs on the cd player. Our PBS station ran ST for awhile, so you could check there, too.<br><br>
Oh, and ETA I understand about 96% of what 30 month old ds says. DH maybe understands 85%. Everyone else--50%. I'm hoping this is just part of his normal speech development. A year ago I was afraid ds would never talk. Now I'm afraid he'll never stop! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I second the Signing Time suggestion (not the Baby ST though). We were very anti-TV, until we found Signing Time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I'd suggest checking it out of your local library (or check your PBS station -- sometimes they have ST on there) and see if you're comfortable with it.<br><br>
Otherwise, here are some good websites that might help:<br><br><a href="http://commtechlab.msu.edu/sites/aslweb/browser.htm" target="_blank">http://commtechlab.msu.edu/sites/aslweb/browser.htm</a><br><br><a href="http://www.mybabycantalk.com/content/dictionary/dictionaryofsigns.aspx?letter=A" target="_blank">http://www.mybabycantalk.com/content....aspx?letter=A</a> (for that one, be sure to scroll down to the list of letters at the bottom of the screen)
 

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My daughter is the same exact age (born March 11) and she does the same thing. She will have this big long rambling sentence of incoherant baby talk, and then it will end with a word she knows. So I usually just repeat that word back to her, and she is generally happy with that.<br><br>
But yea, Ide say its normal.
 

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I understand most of what DD says now (she just turned two). Other people understand a bit less than me (but they mostly understand).<br><br>
There was a period around 18 months when I couldn't understand a few word she said regularly. Eventually she was getting frustrated so I asked her to show me. She meant she wanted to watch the Wiggles. Go figure.<br><br>
Maybe ask your baby to show you what they want or are talking about.
 

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Thanks for all the suggestions! While I'd like to have no TV, dh is a SAHD and so the TV thing is ultimately up to him, and it happens. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> And I'm not totally averse. Signing time sounds like something to try - I'll ask dh to check at the library. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
OT, but I love the way the baby babble sounds. We have a digital camera that will take a short video with audio, and I love it when we get a good recording of her talking. Awwwwww. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:
 

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Yea! I forgot about that. That works, too.
 

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I had a co-worker in the toddler classroom that used to say "Maybe tomorrow, if it doesn't rain of course" whenever a child said something that she did not understand <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
My daughter is almost 3 and occasionally will slip back into gibberish and usually all she's looking for is that I am listening to her even if I don't understand.
 

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I'm in the same boat, I just look for context and if he says the same thing a lot when he points to or sees something that's it. 20 months is fun huh, language explosion but I feel I have no clue what he's saying. One recent weird one for us, jacket is something like "ackgla", and shoes are "oosh".
 
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