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<p>2 Weeks ago tomorrow, I stopped BF my son, who is turning 2 on Friday.</p>
<p>The past two years BF my son have been the most rewarding thing I have done in my life so far.</p>
<p>We really struggled to establish BF and I the hospital the nurses were pushing for me to give up my dream of BF for a bottle.</p>
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<p>Needless to say we won that battle and nearly two years later we were still going strong,</p>
<p>however as my son got older, I was feeling under pressure to wean my son, people felt he was too old and that it was inappropriate to BF a toddler.</p>
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<p>I gave in to the pressure and 2 weeks ago, I stuck sticky bandages on my boobs and told my son, boo-boo sore.</p>
<p>He seemed to understand this and has fully accepted that boo-boo is now broken and he cant drink from me anymore.</p>
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<p>I will admit that I was please that he didn't get upset and that it was "easy" to do. But now I feel regret. I miss holding my son and cuddling with him a few times a day, and while it is great that he is now sleeping thru the night for the first time, I miss nursing him at night?</p>
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<p>I feel exhausted all the time and practically depressed, Is this normal, hormones or just regret?</p>
 

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First off congrats on nursing for two years despite difficulties! That is a huge accomplishment and I hope you give yourself lots of credit and love.<br><br>
My 2 year old recently weaned too since my milk supply dried up during pregnancy. I gotta tell you I also have feelings of sadness, regret, etc but I think it's more related to the weaning process. As you stop nursing, your hormones shift and that can definitely affect your mood. Try to take comfort in the fact that he didn't resist or cry, meaning that he didn't really have a deep need for the comfort of nursing at this age. My DD still has difficulties with not being able to nurse and it's been weeks. I think even if weaning was very important to you, there would still be sadness. Weaning marks the end of an era: our kids are growing up and that in itself is a bittersweet realization. The newborn at your breast is now this independent little creature, running around and talking your ears off. Another blink and kiddo will be school age and before long you'll be looking at college applications *sigh*. I think weaning is a big milestone that is emotionally charged, whether it's easy or hard, mother led or child led, done at six months or 4 years. I think what you describe is normal weaning feelings but keep an eye on your mood and seek help if you don't notice things improving in a while. <img alt="hug.gif" class="bbcode_smiley" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/hug.gif"> congratulations on a fine job nursing your little one <img alt="smile.gif" class="bbcode_smiley" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/smile.gif">
 
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