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So, DS comes home from school yesterday with the following homework-related "issues":<br><br>
- Two assignments written down, without due dates<br>
- One assignment brought home that wasn't written down<br>
- One worksheet brought home from which to study, when the upcoming test is on an entire chapter in his Social Studies book<br>
- A "forgotten" assignment of a report on Michael Faraday assigned last Thursday and due Wednesday<br><br>
We've been having similar issues since the beginning of school this year, and the ways in which we've been dealing with it to this point have been ineffective.<br><br>
So, I instituted a new policy and implemented it, all without raising my voice:<br><br>
- Assignments are to be written down completely, including due dates<br>
- All materials needed to complete the assignments are to be brought home<br><br>
If DS does not follow through with this, he is restricted from all activites that aren't school related or assigned by Mom and Dad from the time he comes home, until the time he leaves for school the next day. Each day starts anew when he leaves for school, and he is empowered to control his fate - by doing what he is supposed to do, he controls whether he will be able to use his free time in the manner he sees fit.<br><br>
I think the consequences we imposed on him previously may have been too long lasting, and he therefore felt he couldn't "work his way out of it" by then doing what he should.<br><br>
So, I'm excited because DS "bought into" the plan, and because I didn't yell. Wahoo!!!!! We'll see tonight how it goes.
 

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Just a note: it worked! Everything came home Tuesday night and Wednesday night, assignments were written down, and life was peaceful.<br><br>
I think DS really needed to feel he had a say in the matter - and now that he knows he controls what happens, he is more willing to follow through appropriately.<br><br>
*struts around, crowing*<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Yay, Veggiewolf! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"> Sometimes kids just need to be firmly reminded of what's expected of them.
 
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