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Started since 3 nites ago, my 2,9 years old boy cried very badly when I put him to bed. Mummy I don't want to go to school. I don't want teacher. Afraid, teacher pinched me, here (tab his tigh). I asked same questions about what happend just to convince myself that he is not telling lie (unlightly for his age). He felt asleep with his tears. He joined a Montessory school since last semester. He cried for the first visit to school but it was not as bad as this time. I can feel that he was having a very bad experience in the school. I intend to meet the principal later today, just came accross in my mind perhaps anybody has a same experience, maybe can give me an advise how to handle this situation ? What I should do if the principal and his teacher said they did nothing to my son (eventhough I believe something happend) Any advise will be very valueable for me.
 

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Hi Patricia-This is alarming. I was a little confused about the age of your boy--2, or 9 or is it 2 years and 9 months? At any age it is unlikely that a child would make up something like that for no purpose--this is particularly true if your son is a 2 year old. It might be helpful to take a friend or partner with you to discuss this. I don't know where you are, but in my part of the country/world, a teacher physically harming a child would be taken very seriously. You need to stand your ground if you believe your son.<br><br>
I haven't had a similar experience with my own kids, but I"ve had lots of experience with children disclosing abuse. Take it seriously and investigate.
 

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Thanks for your reply Lauren! Yes, my son is 2 years and 9 month. We lives in Jakarta, Indonesia. The school he attend is a reputable International Montessory school established 25 years old.<br><br>
Just had a meeting with the principal and teachers. They confirmed that they never practise hitting (expected answers). What they did is to tab a child hand when they hit their friends. But my son never hit his friend according to them therefore they never 'hit' him.<br><br>
They have asked me to start again tomorrow morning and will assign one teacher to be with him.<br><br>
Me as a mother still wonder what actually happened with my son. I hope he will get over it and back to school with smile.<br><br>
Once again, thanks Lauren!
 

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I'm glad they know you are watching them!<br><br>
I have always wondered why people think they are teaching 'no hitting' when they hit the child for hitting--even if it is a gentle tap. I think it teaches the child that only the grown-ups can hit. Just my thoughts.....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I don't think it's ever ok for a teacher to "tap" a kid, or to touch the kid in any way the kid doesn't like.<br><br>
I think "tapping" is a sufficient reason for pulling a kid out of school. I would also review the corporal punishment policy. Of course they are not going to admit they hit him, which is probably what they did.<br><br>
Most parents who say they only "tap" are actually the spanking type.<br><br>
I have never seen a kid who didn't have a good reason for not liking the teacher. Also, most kids tend to underestimate the damage done to them, so I would guess it was a lot worse than what he said.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 
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