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I'm so frustrated.<br><br>
I don't believe that I will ever go into labor on my own, and I am so stressed and sad about it. I am only 39w2d, but I have had ZERO contractions; not even a BH. I have had NO discharge. Wiping after peeing looks the same as it did before I became pregnant. The baby is still high in my pelvis and not even remotely engaged. Right now I can feel her trying to pull a toe out of my ribcage where she seems to have gotten it jambed.<br><br>
I had an ultrasound yesterday to check on my placenta (which had been previa and then was touching the cervix - it moved 11 cm - hurrah!) and my cervix is *STILL* 3 cm long (not dilated, I mean length). It started at 6 cm, which is twice as long as an average cervix, so it is making progress, but it is still as long as where most people start on this journey.<br><br>
I drink RRL tea 3x day. I take EPO orally x3 day. We are DingTD to get semen in there. Still not one contraction, no discharge. All I need is SOME sign that my body may someday consider going into labor or even has a clue that it is supposed to. I'm pretty sure it is broken.<br><br>
Thanks for reading my whining.
 

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Just gonna sympathize with you here...checked yesterday at my appt and, contrary to what the ER told me two weeks ago, I'm not dilated at all. I'm 2 days from my "EDD" and, like you, have basically no signs of impending labor. BH are rare...only if I walk too fast to the mailbox or something. LOL<br>
So, I'm right there with you. Wish I had some words to help, but maybe knowing you're not alone can offer just a bit of peace. ??<br>
The good news is, it's really a matter of days at this point. It could all start tonight for either of us..........
 

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How frustrating and discomforting for you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> You are undoubtedly not the only woman to experience this set of variables, but it still sucks being this far along and not having a single indicator that your body is stepping up it's game for labor. It's so hard to sit back and trust that things will go the way they should ... have you talked to your HCP about the lack of BH and the longer cervix? What is their take on it all?
 

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i sympathize with you too - but keep in mind that some HCP's never even do internal exams, since it doesn't really indicate when you're going to go into labor. you could be walking around for weeks at 4cm dilation, or be totally closed and uneffaced one day, and have your baby the next.<br><br>
i think in these days approaching your EDD, it's hard not to be hyperfocused on your impending labor. i've been having tons of BH ctx, since 16 weeks, my bowels are on overdrive, and i "feel" ready, but still....nothing's doing.<br><br>
so hang in there, maybe do something special for yourself, and know that we're here for you!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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This might not be what you want to hear - but hang in there. Of course you are going to go into labor, probably within a week or 10 days. Most first babies are a little late but no one stays pregnant forever.<br><br>
I know it's easier said than done (especially when you are so antsy with your first) but do try to enjoy these last few days of relative "freedom" and quiet. The last time I slept an entire 7 hours was the night before my daughter was born over 2 years ago <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
And lots of women go right into labor without ever having a BH contraction. I wouldn't worry about that at all.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">This might not be what you want to hear - but hang in there. Of course you are going to go into labor, probably within a week or 10 days. Most first babies are a little late but no one stays pregnant forever.</div>
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That is such sensible advice. Also, we get really hung up on how we're effaced and dilated, and it really doesn't matter. Baby will come out after we're ten centimeters dilated, but that process could take a couple hours or a couple months. No need to turn into a watched cervix that never dilates, or something like that.
 

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Not in your DDC but I just wanted to say, I never had ANY contractions / signs of labor / different discharge / etc. with either labor until it was the real thing. With my twins my water broke at 35 weeks 3 days, with DD3 I started contracting about 8pm Mon. night and she was born 5:10am Tue morning (39 weeks + 3 days).
 

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I'm right there with you. I'd been telling this guy for months that 39 weeks would be a good time to come. I'm one day behind you (due on the 11th) and pretty much zero signs of labor.<br><br>
What I'm taking heart in is that w/ DD I had zero signs as well. I let the m/w check me at 40 weeks and nothing -- no dilation, not effaced, etc. DD was born w/ little warning at 40 wks 5 days.<br><br>
I'll have a crampy evening every now and then and I get all hopeful but then nothing. Even my BHs are not that strong.<br><br>
Hang in there -- baby will come!!!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">i sympathize with you too - but keep in mind that some HCP's never even do internal exams, since it doesn't really indicate when you're going to go into labor. you could be walking around for weeks at 4cm dilation, or be totally closed and uneffaced one day, and have your baby the next.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">: i actually think that the fewer exams, the better, because if you ARE dilated, you think you're going into labor any second and get discouraged when you don't, and if you're NOT, you assume it will never happen for you and you get discouraged! it's a lose-lose.<br><br>
your body might just need a little more time. it sucks, i know. i would have given anything to have delivered right "on time" or a little earlier. but you have a long way to go before you need to worry about induction. try and keep the faith! you'll be holding your baby in your arms in no time and this will all seem like a big blur.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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Thank you soo very much to everyone. Such great support!<br><br><br><b>juliechris</b> and <b>Pastrydemon</b> - It really does help to know that you guys are in the same place I am!<br><br><br><b>VickV</b> - Yes, I've discussed it with my m/w. The scary part is that I was born at 46w gestation and in distress. I can't stay with my m/w practice if I refuse induction much past 42 weeks, and I'm not sure I even want to do so. They are very sympathetic but conclude that it is just how I'm created.<br><br><b>clintonhillmama</b> - Yes; my m/ws don't do internal checks for that very reason. If it hadn't been for the u/s tech measuring the length of my cervix, I wouldn't know that measurement, and I have no idea if I am dialated at all. Based on lack of discharge, I am assuming I am not. Not that it makes a difference!<br><br><b>MCKH</b>, <b>MamaJen</b>, <b>RachelEve14</b>, <b>joannalovesyou</b> and <b>Pastrydemon</b> - Thank you for reminding me that these things can happen seemingly spontaneously! Here to hoping you're right!<br><br>
Thank you everyone for all the love and hugs!
 

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I'm with you too Jenn, and I understand your impatience and frustration. I'm actually three days "overdue" right now with no clear signs of impending labor. No discharge, no change in my very minimal BH, not even any pooping! I started dilating at least four weeks ago, so that clearly doesn't make any difference or give any indication of when the baby will come. I just take heart in the many women who say they have gone into labor with no signs beforehand. Even though I was (sort of) joking last night that I was jealous of all of the women complaining about their prodromal labor! We are all different, and it helps to keep that in mind.<br><br>
And congratulations on your placenta moving higher and your cervix shortening! That has to make you feel better! Hang in there!
 

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The pooping......mine did not start until about 1 hour before labor kicked in. Then I had "bloody show"...those were my ONLY signs. My real contractions started about 30 mins after show and w/in 30 more minutes I really had to concentrate. DD was born about 9 hours after that.<br><br>
I'm trying to remind myself of this!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm so frustrated.<br><br>
I don't believe that I will ever go into labor on my own, and I am so stressed and sad about it. I am only 39w2d, but I have had ZERO contractions; not even a BH. I have had NO discharge. Wiping after peeing looks the same as it did before I became pregnant. The baby is still high in my pelvis and not even remotely engaged. Right now I can feel her trying to pull a toe out of my ribcage where she seems to have gotten it jambed.<br><br>
I had an ultrasound yesterday to check on my placenta (which had been previa and then was touching the cervix - it moved 11 cm - hurrah!) and my cervix is *STILL* 3 cm long (not dilated, I mean length). It started at 6 cm, which is twice as long as an average cervix, so it is making progress, but it is still as long as where most people start on this journey.<br><br>
I drink RRL tea 3x day. I take EPO orally x3 day. We are DingTD to get semen in there. Still not one contraction, no discharge. All I need is SOME sign that my body may someday consider going into labor or even has a clue that it is supposed to. I'm pretty sure it is broken.<br><br>
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Hugs Mama! It will happen don't worry, have you tried brewing stronger RRL tea? Or nipple stimulation? These both should bring on contractions? Also to you have a birth ball? Sitting on it bouncing is supposed to help baby drop and dialte uterus?<br><br>
BTW I feel that same way- get out baby! My first prehgnancy I didmt have and contrax NOTHING until labor- maybe its a first time mom thing!
 

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I hope things pick up for you. Hang in there. I think everyone's body is different and we will go into labor when it's time to go.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I can really sympathize with how you're feeling. You could try (if you aren't already) visualizing your body dilating and opening up, and also talk to the baby and tell him/her that you're ready and s/he can come anytime, etc...I've heard that sometimes that helps. If all else fails, spoil yourself as much as you can, while you can-maybe go get a pedicure, take bubble baths, SLEEP as much as you can, etc...If nothing else, it takes your mind off of things for a little while. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Hang in there, I hope things start to happen for you soon.
 

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Wow, all of this support has been wonderful! Thank you all so much.<br><br>
I saw my mw again today (Betsy - I got to see Irma <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> ) and she says that the baby's head is now engaged. WOOOOO HOOOOO!!!!<br><br>
I have not been using our birthing ball because it needs to be inflated more - it is too under-inflated and it hurts my tailbone. I guess it takes some sort of special adapter to attach it to the pump. I think we'll go get one tonight.<br><br>
Betsy, do you just mean using two tea bags instead of one to make the RRL tea? Also...my tea is Yogi Women's Raspberry Leaf tea. It doesn't actually say RED Raspberry, but that is all I could find at Claudia's. But my mw says it is the correct stuff.<br><br>
I tried nipple stimulation, but I find it really, really nauseating! We'll try again tonight, though. I think I have the world's more sensitive nipples.<br><br>
MGBoutique -<br>
LOL, not only have we been talking to the baby, but my DP sits between my legs and calls out to her... "Baaabbbbyyyy cccoooommmmeee towards the light! Follow my voice!!!" LOL, so far she seems unimpressed, but it makes me giggle. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br><br>
You are all so wonderful. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I have to go finish reading the "daily check in" thread!
 

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