Hi, Beth! Gosh, aren't you glad you chose a midwife and not a stuffy OB/GYN? It seems like it's much easier to talk to a woman with gentle hands than a white coat with fancy car.
I just wanted to let you know, that I'm thinking of you and sending you love, light and peace. The end of any pregnancy has challenges and emotional ups and downs. We all seem to need a little more support than usual. Afterall, we're doing the groundwork to giving birth!
I'm glad that you've learned to question things. Where does she stand on the really important stuff? (I mean, you can make sure you don't recline or make sure you squat if you want to, but does she cut the cord before done pulsing, give episiotomies or something else that you would disagree with?)
I do agree that it sounds like it's time to bring some things up with her. I wouldn't debate the rightness or wrongness of info (but, I don't think that's what's bothering you anyway). It's the idea that at 34 weeks last time, you transfered to her and she was a breath of fresh air. She was magic. This time, you see that she's a person complete with flaws and older research.
My midwife asks me a lot of the same questions each time. At least she has now stopped asking me if I have any other children, "Yes, you delivered him." Ha! I think most midwives forget the details of things like this. But, it's not that small stuff that bothers me. It would be big stuff.
I'm so glad you have great confidence in your body. Because, you're right, that confidence is the most important thing. I think your birth is going to be beautiful and fullfilling. I would talk through some things with your midwife though. It can't hurt. It can only help things by brining them to the surface. I think you'll feel a lot better.
Peace!