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My last period started September 3. I'm now 2 weeks late. We didn't have full intercourse at my fertile time, but we did fool around enough that a determined sperm could have made it, but dh doesn't think it's possible (and no, he knows I'm faithful). While I will love and care for this baby (if there is one) just as much as my other two kids, I was done at two.<br><br>
So, do I do a test now, or wait until at least the weekend? I am kind of freaking out, but I'm not sure I want to see that blue line. And I've already worked out the due date <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">: (June 9, in case you were wondering!!).
 

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You better take a test and get back here and tell us the results!<br>
Might as well........it might make you relieved or excited or scared or....you never know! Take it just so you don't dwell on it for 4 more days.
 

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bwahahahahahahahaa!!!!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Aww....sorry you're in this spot.<br><br>
I know how you feel, we're done with our two girls too, but my hubby got a vasectomy so the doctor would have a lot of explaining to do if I ended up pregnant. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"><br><br>
I say test now so you don't totally bug yourself out the rest of the week. No reason to delay it, you'll either be relieved it's <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/neg.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="negative"> or shall have to adjust to it being <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/pos.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="positive">.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"><br><br>
Test now. Then at least you'll have a reason to either make yourself crazy or give your DH 40 lashes with a wet noodle ... or you won't.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug">
 

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I agree with testing now..no reason to wait if you're already 2 weeks late.<br><br>
If you and your husband are sure your family is complete, have you discussed sterilization?<br>
No worries that way.<br><br>
My husband had a vasectomy in March and it's a wonderful feeling to know that I'm not pregnant, even when my period is late.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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This is coming from someone who has done this, so please no flames...<br><br><br>
Sincee you felt done with having children at 2, have you considered adoption if yo uare pregnant? Would your DH consent? I think it would be a wonderful opportunity for your child to be loved and cared for by a family who has been waiting years for a child to love.<br><br>
I was pregnant at 22 and homeless(well, living with a friend who said if I aborted she would kick me out, and if I gave birth I would have to leave), ,so I chose adoption. I met the adoptive mother and she went to all my doctors appointments/ultrasounds and I got to know her as a wonderful caring person. I knew immediately that she was the one(after months of looking through family profiles).<br><br>
Anyway, just an option.
 

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Didnt your dd just say that she would wean when the new baby got here? Maybe she already knows.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
Definitely test!!! Price of pg test=under 10 bucks. Peace of mind=priceless.
 

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Girl, ya can't just post like that and go away! You leave us all <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/headscratch.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="headscratch">
 

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Sunmountain, you're no help!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
blazfglori, I'd have dh in for a vasectomy today if he would agree, but he's not ready yet.<br><br>
Potty Diva, no flames from me, but there is no way I could give this baby up. Your situation was totally different, and I understand (and agree) with your decision, but that's not an issue here. If I'm pregnant, then the baby gets born and raised here.<br><br>
Aster, that was my dd!!! And she said it before I was late too. Now I'm really scared.<br><br>
Missgrl, Gemini, Amy, dlb, MsMom, thanks for your support.<br><br>
I'll pick up a test tonight!!<br><br>
I hope I haven't upset anyone who has been ttc, or who has lost a baby, that was certainly not my intention, and if I have, I'm truly sorry.
 

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ooops....dp
 

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BTDT..... we got pg with a pre-ejaculate babe. My son was only 6 months old...<br><br>
Good luck! Maybe you are just really late... are ya stressed at all?? (other than the current stresser? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">)<br><br>
(we lost our babe but I wasn't offended. I really wantd to be pg right now but I had determined that I was happy with just one and I was excited to have my body back. So, I was a little upset this time...but it passed quickly <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">)
 

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Irishmommy, I totally know where you're coming from. We got pg. with #2 when #1 was 17 months old. We wanted to wait 4-5 years, so this was not exactly a joyful surprise. The day I took the test, I was so upset, I vomitted. It was difficult to tell dh and the rest of our family b/c they knew this was not a welcomed pregnancy at the time. I felt so guilty to my baby for bringing another baby into the house and not letter her be the only baby. I felt guilty to the babe I was carrying b/c I wasn't ready for it. It took a while, but I eventually came to cherish the new life inside of me and now I can't imagine life any other way. It certainly wasn't the way that we had planned it, but it really has worked out for the best. I am so glad that my girls are close in age and are becoming great friends. Sometimes life takes unexpected turns that turn out to effect your life in such an amazing way that you would have never imagined. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Irishmommy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I don't think you've upset anyone <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
I've had issues TTC and lost several babies. There was a time I'd have sold my soul for a healthy living baby. However, I'm at a point in my life where I really couldn't handle being pregnant. So, I TOTALLY understand! However, like you, If I had an "oops" I'd have to have, raise and love my baby as well.<br><br>
PD - you're an awesome mamma for the choice you made. I can't say what I'd have done in that situation because I've never been there. It must have been very painful - but you should be proud that you gave this child all you had to give <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> As a mother who was once looking into adoption - a mamma like you would have been my hero.<br><br>
IM, get on the ball and let us know! I'm excited, concerned, curious, happy and every other emotion all at once waiting!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Gemini and blazfglori, not to rain on your parade, but while vasectomies are usually a safe form of b.c., i personally know 2 women who've gotten pg after their hubbys vasc's - the first gal i know it was about 7 years later, the second was about 12 years later!!! both didn't hubby's didn't believe their wives were faithful unitl they went to the docs and squirted in the cup - yep, live sperm from both of them!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"> neither friends were very happy - though they both have lovely children now! anyway, just a precautionary tale....
 

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My sister has had two post vas babies. The first was unplanned, the second was planned. This is both of their second marriages...he was "cut" while married to his first wife, met my sister and got her pregnant, so they got married (she thought she was done with the children from her first marriage, but was not "sterilized" and wasn't concerned because he claimed he was). Then they had a second child later that was planned. His sperm count is low, but still there...of course I question whether he was "cut" in the first place (either that the Army botched it or he lied...the jury is still out IMO, but then I don't like him much...).<br><br>
Let us know what happens...
 

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I have a friend who had a party in May for their family because after 8 or 9 years they were done with diapers! Their 4th had just potty trained....she found out May 28th that she was pg with #5! This was post vasectomy.<br><br>
My dad has his snip job 20 years ago and its still holding strong....and my mom is only 43 so she could still get pg....wouldn't THAT be funny!!!!
 
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