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<p>Hey Mammas..I hope its not just me...but I have the worst libido EVER.  I have absolutly NO sex drive, I mean nothing turns me on now-a-days.  I don't even sleep next to my hubby anymore, I am so uncomfortable in our bed and I just prefer the couch AND I am only 9 WEEKS!!!!!.  Please tell me this is a phase as my hubby and I have THE most AMAZING sex life...just NOT so much these days :(</p>
 

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<p>Is this your first?  My sex drive has always disappeared the first trimester.  Marginal the second and then the third, well, my husband thinks it's great!  With my first It took a really long time after the baby was born to get it back, like almost a year.  With the second only about 6 months after.  I think it should come back for you.  I think it's my bodies way of saying that you need to back off the first trimester with so many changes going on.</p>
 

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<p>This is my second, but my daughter is almost 5 now.  So maybe my <span style="font-family:calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size:11pt;">pregnancy</span></span> brain is kicking in and I can't remember how I felt back then.  I hope it gets better, DH is cool about it, but I am sure it bothers him a little... </p>
 

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<p>I am totally the same way. I'm entering the second trimester and hoping it gets better. We actually tried once and it just failed miserably, I just couldn't get into it. So we settled for snuggling. I am really hoping its not for the whole pregnancy.</p>
 

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<p>So glad I am NOT alone...I tried to force it once and threw-up in the process...I hope I am not killing my hubby's ego :(</p>
 

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<p>I have been a hands off Mama too!  But not due to libido but due to fear of MC.  I know maybe that is weird but like I keep saying, at my age and with the infertility, I am not getting a second chance to have another baby.  He unerstands and we were just "compromising" with other things, but this morning i initiated and feel more comfortable now.  TMI, we are just being slow and gentle and he said that is fine and much better than before *LOL*</p>
 

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<p>My SO is working 17+ hour days. I'm in the first trimester and looking after a herd of kids. There isn't a lot of time or energy left over for intimacy between us but we both realise it's temporary. For what it's worth, I've had the best, most amazing sex of my life during past pregnancies. I expect things to pick up in the near future. </p>
 

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<p>YAY!! There is hope!</p>
 

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<p>I am so not into it right now but for different reasons I think ~ I could get into it except I m/c in September and I am t.e.r.r.i.f.i.e.d of seeing any kind of bleeding ~ so I am afraid if we do have sex and I bleed that I will have a total meltdown. The other day I went to wipe and about had a heart attack when I saw red ~ lucky for me it was only my NAIL POLISH showing through the wet toilet paper (such a dork) and then I felt like knocking my head against the cabinet for being so silly. I told DH he is just going to have to give me just a couple more weeks to get my confidence and then I will be back up to par!</p>
 

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<p>count me in, too. sex is so far from my mind, and my husband and i generally have a great sex life. luckily, he is mellow and understands, so there's no pressure. i feel so protective of this pregnancy (after multiple m/c) AND i'm nauseous AND i'm throwing up daily!</p>
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<p>no way!</p>
 

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<p>I've gone back and forth. Right now my sex drive is INSANE but I'm so nauseous and sore I can't get it on. :( So frustrating. My dreams are pretty awesome, though - due to those I suppose I'm still getting it at least twice a day! :laugh:</p>
 

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<p>my poor dh.... we haven't made love since the conception in september!!! <img alt="Sheepish.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/Sheepish.gif"></p>
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<p>we don't generally have a wild sex life, but i usually have somewhat of a desire, especially around ovulation time. right now though, the all-day sickness and exhaustion just has thrown me off totally. i've been fast asleep when he comes to bed. every.single.night. i also have that wanting-to-avoid-because-of-past-miscarriage thing going on. so it's a double-whammy.</p>
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<p>i, too, remember being totally ravenous later in pregnancy, so i'm hoping to make it up to dh. <img alt="lol.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/lol.gif"></p>
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<p>xo</p>
 

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<p>We haven't DTD since shortly after conception in October either...so my poor DH is feeling it too. The other issue (besides my being afraid of any kind of bleeding whatsoever) is that he works outside all day (he is a landscaper) and when he comes home he smells like dirt, grime, sweat, gasoline, exhaust from machines, etc. ~ and to be honest it is hard for me to stomach the smells. I hate to say it to him and obviously he does take showers but by the time he gets done with a shower I can barely hold my eyelids open! Holding out that once my smell aversion dies down and my drive goes up!</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>lokidoki</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1280560/i-dont-want-to-have-sex-like-ever#post_16060430"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>The other issue (besides my being afraid of any kind of bleeding whatsoever) is that he works outside all day (he is a landscaper) and when he comes home he smells like dirt, grime, sweat, gasoline, exhaust from machines, etc. ~ and to be honest it is hard for me to stomach the smells. I hate to say it to him and obviously he does take showers but by the time he gets done with a shower I can barely hold my eyelids open! Holding out that once my smell aversion dies down and my drive goes up!</p>
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<br><br><p>Mine is a chef and comes home at nearly midnight smelling like a Mexican restaurant <img alt="crap.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/crap.gif"></p>
 

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<p>I'm always hands off for at least the first trimester and much of the rest of the pregnancy. I just have no libido. dh is really understanding about it which is sweet. it's just like my body</p>
<p>has closed up shop with him because it's busy with something else. <span><img alt="lol.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="width:15px;height:31px;"></span></p>
 

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<p>Similar here. A couple weeks ago was awesome for libido but it's been over 2 weeks (unusual for us!). For me it has to do with being so TIRED. I feel okay and I'm sure I could get into it (we have an amazing sex life otherwise), but I just want to sleep when in a horizontal position lol.</p>
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<p> DH is very understanding and I'm very grateful for that :)</p>
 

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<p>my midwife put me on pelvic rest (due to bleeding early on), so i'm in the clear. the last time we had sex i bled, so i am nervous. i have been trying "other things" and dh has been really understanding. i had a low libido during my last pg, but i am hopeful it will pick up.</p>
 
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