Mothering Forum banner

1 - 4 of 4 Posts

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,091 Posts
Discussion Starter · #1 ·
I guess this belongs here. My older DS is currently doing so much to imitate his younger brother. He's doing the whole baby bit, crawling, baby language, etc. He often tries to call attention to himself, "Baby (himself) is crawling, Mommy", "Baby (himself) is making the milk sign." I feel like I'm failing him because it seems like he feels the need to do things his younger brother is doing in order to get attention. I'm afraid he doesn't value all the wonderful things he can do because he somehow thinks his younger brother's actions are more attention-getting or worthy than his wonderful self. I wish he didn't feel like he has to be so competitive with his brother. Does this make any sense? Any suggestions?
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
2,208 Posts
Oh, gosh, I think this is totally normal! Even if he is feeling a little insecure, it's probably just because having a new sibling is bound to be stressful, not because you're doing anything wrong.<br><br>
Just love 'em both.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
6,008 Posts
Oh, this is so normal! There are times that my two older ones will crawl on the floor and say, "Look, Mama! I'm crawling!" Of course my youngest (who is walking, now) will look at them like they're nuts.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Your new baby is brand new. And your older son probably trying to relate to the things his new sibling are doing. He wants to see what all the fuss is about. When the girls do that, I joke along with them, "Oh, my! My babies are crawling!" They think it's hilarious, and it usually passes quickly. I also have talks with them about all the things they can do that their baby sister can't because she's a baby.<br><br>
I'll tell them about all the important "big sister" things they can do. They love doing those "big sister" things. It makes them feel so important and involved. Maybe you can involve your son in some of the child care things (getting a toy, bringing you the boppy, or a diaper, "reading" a book to the baby, etc.).<br><br><br>
Bec
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,303 Posts
Ya know, even if you didn't have your younger son, I think the odds are pretty good that your son would be doign those things. i think 2 1/2 and 3 are a very transitional age, and it is very very common for them to act like a baby, play baby games, play mommy and baby animals, etc. They're leaving that baby stage but aren't far from it and just psychologically sorta working out that dynamic. My 3 yr old with a very non baby ish 21 month old sister does these things, and when I taught in preschools, these games were VERY popular in the 2 and 3 yr old classes especially, both among kids who had younger siblings and among those who didn't.
 
1 - 4 of 4 Posts
Top