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...than a woman enjoying one of the most special times of my life <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">.<br><br>
I had my first prenatal visit with a new family doc yesterday. Enough said.<br><br>
Any other specimen-like ladies out there?
 

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I'm doing my own prenatals and this is one of the very good reasons!!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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Yes this is a reason why I've chosen a very holistic, pregnancy and birth trusting midwife. With DD's pregnancy and birth I had a very medically minded "medwife" and want a completely different experience with this one.<br><br>
If you feel like you don't want to do something that is suggested, don't do it. Come home, research, ask questions, soul search and make an informed decision. If you then decide that you would like to proceed with what's suggeste by the doc, then great. If not, then politely decline. They are your care providers. You employ them. You do not have to be a "good" patient.<br><br>
Sorry for the ramble <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> Enjoy this special time in your life <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Sorry you feel like a specimen, that really sucks. I actually dont know what happens in a regular ob prenatal I have a midwife and they have all been very laid back visits.<br>
If you arent comfortable with how your being treated maybe look for a new ob or midwife.
 

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lol - I always feel like a specimen. Heck, there's a case study on DS and my nursing that is supposed to be published soon! Definitely a specimen <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Sorry you feel like a specimen, that really sucks. I actually dont know what happens in a regular ob prenatal I have a midwife and they have all been very laid back visits.<br>
If you arent comfortable with how your being treated maybe look for a new ob or midwife.</div>
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I second that. This is YOUR pregnancy, YOUR birth, and YOUR baby. It is okay to look for different care if you are not happy with who you are seeing right now.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I'm sorry you feel like a specimen, Magali. Like other mamas suggested, feel free to decline things you don't want. It's your right. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">lol - I always feel like a specimen. Heck, there's a case study on DS and my nursing that is supposed to be published soon! Definitely a specimen <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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Just wondering, what prompted the case study? That's awesome!
 

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Me too. I didn't feel this way with DS, in fact I was really surprised at how un-medical and low-tech prenatal care is most of the time. This time I am with a very holistic midwife at the same lovely birthing centre (we call it the B&B for Bed and Birth because it's so much like a Bed and Breakfast) but I have some medical issues that mean I also have to see an endocrinologist for blood tests every two weeks and have been warned that I'm one more bad result away from being transferred to a high-risk OB (requirement of the law regulating midwives here). So it's been totally different and psychologically it's no fun compared to last go around.<br><br>
I agree with others, if you have any choice at all, change your care to someone more personal and who makes you feel more in control and more at ease. This is your magical experience, not some widget they are making in a factory.
 

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Just wondering, what prompted the case study? That's awesome!</div>
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There is nothing anywhere on nursing with the sort of chronic illness I have. There are so few young women who have it, fewer that get pregnant, fewer that have successful pregnancies, and still fewer who successfully breastfeed.<br><br>
There was speculation (by my specialist) that my milk wouldn't be "good enough" and I'd have to supplement - didn't have to <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
The case study is supposed to be in the next issue of Breastfeeding Medicine. I'm really excited - so glad to have contributed regarding my poorly-understood and fairly rare disease (both characteristics especially true in women of child-bearing age), and so glad to have something in writing that says nursing is successful and healthy for mother and baby even with the factors that were/are in play!
 

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That's so great ILovePie! I have a subscription to Breastfeeding Medicine through my school, so I'm gonna check it out. I absolutely love hearing stories of mamas who breastfeed even through difficult situations, it's such an inspiration! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">That's so great ILovePie! I have a subscription to Breastfeeding Medicine through my school, so I'm gonna check it out. I absolutely love hearing stories of mamas who breastfeed even through difficult situations, it's such an inspiration! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"></div>
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Oooh I'm still trying to track down someone with a subscription, but maybe I can send DH out for it (he's a student at a large U - I always forget that he probably has access to most major journals!).<br><br>
I was trying to find out when the issue would come out - do you have any idea? The author said it was accepted and edited, so should be in the next issue, but I'm guessing these things are like anything else and it could be delayed for whatever reason by an issue or even two?<br><br>
I'd really like to have a copy on hand so I can show it to any future specialists (I anticipate moving and needing a new doc while I'm still nursing).
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Oooh I'm still trying to track down someone with a subscription, but maybe I can send DH out for it (he's a student at a large U - I always forget that he probably has access to most major journals!).<br><br>
I was trying to find out when the issue would come out - do you have any idea? The author said it was accepted and edited, so should be in the next issue, but I'm guessing these things are like anything else and it could be delayed for whatever reason by an issue or even two?<br><br>
I'd really like to have a copy on hand so I can show it to any future specialists (I anticipate moving and needing a new doc while I'm still nursing).</div>
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Not sure when the next issue should be out. The most recent one is from April, and before that February. So, I guess the next one should be out in the next couple of months. If your DH can't get a copy, let me know and I can try to get one for you. You'll have to let me know exactly what article I'm looking for, since they have several different ones in each issue.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Not sure when the next issue should be out. The most recent one is from April, and before that February. So, I guess the next one should be out in the next couple of months. If your DH can't get a copy, let me know and I can try to get one for you. You'll have to let me know exactly what article I'm looking for, since they have several different ones in each issue.</div>
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That would be awesome! Let me know if you see the issue come out and aren't sure what article it is - I don't know what it's going to be titled exactly (I would guess it would be something about maternal glomerulonephritis).<br><br>
Feel free to PM me about it!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Sorry you feel like a specimen, that really sucks. I actually dont know what happens in a regular ob prenatal I have a midwife and they have all been very laid back visits.<br>
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I have no other options for prenatal care, aside from doing it myself. I am loooooving doing my own prenatal care. That is why I didn't see her till 18 weeks, and am doing my own prenatal care aside from needing her to schedule blood tests and an ultrasound and to sign my birth plan. But man, it is so unpersonal and sterile and all about charts and tests and bleh..... I got everything I wanted out of the visit, and nothing I didn't want. Well I got a ton of emotional stress <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">. And of course the specimen like feeling.<br><br>
That being said, I am very jealous of all the ladies around here who have wonderful caring midwives and choice of who to see<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">. In my case there are 6 family Dr.s who might be on call when I am in labor, so honestly, I don't think it matters what I think of this particular Dr. because I'm not seeing her often and more than likely she won't be around for my labor.<br><br>
And I appreciate the support from you all telling me I *can* decline what I don't want...which is pretty much everything they have to offer. I need to hear it. I am feeling better today, a few days after the appointment. But was really stressed when I wrote my original message. My dh really calmed me down by reminding me that I needed those tests and had been planning on them all along lol...but I guess for me, just being in a Dr. office I feel nervous and on the defensive.
 
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