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I am so tired of being pregnant.<br><br>
I'm tired of maternity clothes.<br><br>
I'm tired of gaining weight.<br><br>
I'm tired of looking swollen and puffy all the time.<br><br>
I'm tired of working 35 hours a week and trying to take care of two small children while toting around an extra 20 pounds in front.<br><br>
I'm tired of not having the energy to do fun things with my kids and DH.<br><br>
Most of all, I'm tired of not feeling like ME.<br><br>
I *know* I am so lucky to be pregnant and having a (hopefully) healthy baby. We were told early in the pregnancy that he had about a 75% chance of having Down's Syndrome, as well as a heart defect, and he has turned out to be perfectly fine so far. So I can't tell you how guilty I feel for not being blissfully happy to be pregnant with a thriving, growing baby. But I am just so huge and crabby and exhausted and HOT all the time.<br><br>
Any suggestions on how to snap out of this funk I'm in so that I can enjoy this time in my life?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I am so tired of being pregnant.<br><br>
I'm tired of maternity clothes.<br><br>
I'm tired of gaining weight.<br><br>
I'm tired of looking swollen and puffy all the time.<br><br>
I'm tired of working 35 hours a week and trying to take care of two small children while toting around an extra 20 pounds in front.<br><br>
I'm tired of not having the energy to do fun things with my kids and DH.<br><br>
Most of all, I'm tired of not feeling like ME.<br><br>
I *know* I am so lucky to be pregnant and having a (hopefully) healthy baby. We were told early in the pregnancy that he had about a 75% chance of having Down's Syndrome, as well as a heart defect, and he has turned out to be perfectly fine so far. So I can't tell you how guilty I feel for not being blissfully happy to be pregnant with a thriving, growing baby. But I am just so huge and crabby and exhausted and HOT all the time.<br><br>
Any suggestions on how to snap out of this funk I'm in so that I can enjoy this time in my life?</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> no advice. I've been there, it comes and goes when you've been giving your all for a long time without a break. Do you have any support or rejuvenating activites you can get involved with? sometimes just a hot bath (alone) can lift you spirits just a bit.<br><br>
Is baby coming soon?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> no advice. I've been there, it comes and goes when you've been giving your all for a long time without a break. Do you have any support or rejuvenating activites you can get involved with? sometimes just a hot bath (alone) can lift you spirits just a bit.<br><br>
Is baby coming soon?</div>
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Thanks for the support. My DH is wonderful when he's home, but he works offshore and is gone two weeks out of the month. The only activity I'm able to do is tee-ball with my DS, and that mostly consists of getting up and down from my chair to chase my 18-month-old around. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
I'm due in July, actually 3 months and 1 day from today. And I think I'm feeling now like I felt 2 weeks before delivering my son and daughter. I'm getting too old for pregnancy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> I totally feel where you're coming from! (literally - I'm due in July too, & am already thinking along those lines!) Do you have any friends that you could trade kid watching with, so you could get a little alone time, to rest or do something by yourself?
 

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Hugs mama. As much as I would love to experience pregnancy I'm pretty sure I'd be whining and complaining too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> . Totally normal. Is there any way you can get out and have a massage or pedicure? Just soemthing to ease the stress and take your mind off of things. Wishing you a fast and healthy remaining pregnancy.
 

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I am totally with you, due in early July myself. I cried myself to sleep last night because I am just so sick of it, but there's nothing I can do except wait a couple more months. *sigh* I'm just sick and tired of it.<br><br>
Okay. That wasn't really helpful, huh. Anyway, I feel your pain <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> and I don't know how to advice you because I don't know how to snap out of it myself. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I'm not feeling sick of being pregnant yet but I know I will get there. What is really getting to me is the feelings of what were we thinking when we got pregnant? I feel so overwhelmed today with the housework, kids, life in general and I can't keep up either. When dh is home he is tons of help but he works alternate weeks about an hour from here and on those weeks he is barely here. I am still nursing my youngest dd as well and co-sleeping. She wakes me up when I really need to sleep.<br><br>
So, I feel your pain. I know from past pregnancies that all these feelings are normal and will pass but it is hard in the moment.
 

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I hear ya! I'm also on my third. i was thinking earlier today about being pregnant the first time. I was 20 and I "took it easy" because I was pregnant. I don't have time for that now. I have 2 kids, a full time job, and a house to keep up. My husband helps, but his idea of clean & mine are different.<br><br>
So, I took a half day off today and am taking a day off next week. It feels good to get caught up and to take a nap during the day.
 

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I second everything you said! You shouldn't feel guilty at all. Being uncomfortable is just one of those things that happens and you can't really do anything about it. I've got about a month and a half to go and it is starting with me too. I have two foster babies right now that I am sooooo happy will be going home to grandma in a week and a half. I love them but I'm tired. I am REALLY tired. I'm grateful I made it far enough for them to be able to stay in one house and not be moved around before they could go home with family.<br><br>
I agree with PP about finding somewhere to unwind alone. My sanctuary is the basement. Just this past week I've started spending a lot of time down there. After dinner I leave my dh with all the kids and veg out downstairs. And for the first time last night I slept down there. Best sleep I've had in so long! My dd stayed upstairs with dad and he said she slept like a log. Why is it when I am next to her she wakes up and kicks me all night long?!
 

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my 6-7th months were harder for frustation and exhaustion then my 9th. I also had an incouragable 18month old at the time.<br><br>
Things will improve, they can only get better from here
 
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