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Between a midwife and an OB. I would hear people talk about having their midwife at their home for an hour, compared to the 15 minutes I get with my OB, thinking what can you talk about for that long? I met with my HB midwife on Saturday and we talked for an hour and a half and I LOVED it! She is so awesome. She was telling me different birth stories to help answer some of my questions and the entire time I am thinking my OB has never told me a birth story. How boring my OB is <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">!
 

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I know. I hate that about an OB's office. You go in there, wait for an hour and then spend less than 5 mins with the doctor.
 

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Not to mention how cool it is that this "medical" appt is taking place in your own home! The level of comfort possible is like nothing else. So glad you are having a positive experience.
 

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Oh and I forgot to add that we have one cat that HATES company. We have friends that don't know she even exists because she never comes around. Sometimes it takes several visits before she will check them out. The minute my MW got there the cat, Dookie, ran down stairs and started purring and demanded to be pet by the MW. I was so SHOCKED! I knew right then this was the woman for me.
 

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Cats can be so helpful in getting us to decide who we like or not. LOL<br><br>
HB Midwives are the BEST! I'm glad you found one that you like so much.
 

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i have a midwife, but i still have to go to my GP's office to see her.... luckily she is usually running on time so the wait isn't too horrible!
 

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Isn't it great? At our first official appointment, I was telling her stories about my grandparents! I think it still freaks my DH out a bit. Maybe next time, I'll tell my MW to be 30 mins late, wear a white coat, jab me with some needles, make some vague scary comments, and leave after 5 mins. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
(and yes, I know I am stereotyping and there are some great docs out there.)
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Oh and I forgot to add that we have one cat that HATES company. We have friends that don't know she even exists because she never comes around. Sometimes it takes several visits before she will check them out. The minute my MW got there the cat, Dookie, ran down stairs and started purring and demanded to be pet by the MW. I was so SHOCKED! I knew right then this was the woman for me.</div>
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I have a very similar story about my cat choosing my DH. She was always very shy and skitterish. When my DH came over for our first date, immediately she was in his lap purring and rubbing on him.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Isn't it great? At our first official appointment, I was telling her stories about my grandparents! I think it still freaks my DH out a bit. Maybe next time, I'll tell my MW to be 30 mins late, wear a white coat, jab me with some needles, make some vague scary comments, and leave after 5 mins.<br><br>
(and yes, I know I am stereotyping and there are some great docs out there.)</div>
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Sounds about right to me.<br><br>
My OB said that if I had a homebirth, the baby would likely survive but would be so brain damaged that he wouldn't be able to get a job anywhere but McDonalds. I fired her and got a HB MW.<br><br>
I waited more than an hour for the OB. And this was the second time I had to come, because the first time she was running so late they sent us home.<br><br>
She wanted to do all kinds of unnecessary tests, and had no interest in how I was feeling or using her own perceptions to determine anything. She just wanted to see numbers on paper. When I got home and told my DH this, he said the OB sounds like a machine operator.<br><br>
The MW was such a different experience.
 

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Yeah,<br>
Last time i was seeing a midwife within a ob practice, with a hospital birth ( in the end I had a ob, because my midwife wasn't on call), so this time I am having a midwife at a free standing birth clinic, (could not get Dh to go for a homebirth).<br><br>
Even that is different. Last pregnancy was lots of tests several u/s, short visits. So far this one has been only one u/s, very few test, only had to pee in a cup once so far, etc. But the biggest difference is their views of the birth plan.<br><br>
Last time, midwife, was like, " short, no more than one page." Dh thought it was because no one would read it at the hospital. This time, midwife said, "write everything you need to tell us, as long as it needs to be, we want to know how we can be helpful to you. What style do you need from us? etc" ( i personally want them to give me and dh lots of room and quiet, and be available when we need it. Mostly I only want support during the pushing stage from them. Dh was great last time!<br><br>
So even different midwife practices can feel different.<br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think it still freaks my DH out a bit. Maybe next time, I'll tell my MW to be 30 mins late, wear a white coat, jab me with some needles, make some vague scary comments, and leave after 5 mins. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
(and yes, I know I am stereotyping and there are some great docs out there.)</div>
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tee hee hee <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> lmao!!
 

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Yay! I am so glad you had a great visit with her. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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