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I'd like another baby one day, but DD was 10 lbs.! I did not have "GD," and I'm not clinically obese. I was an 8-lb. baby. DH weighed 9, but he was born 3 weeks post-date. Big babies are in his gene pool, however... And supposedly babies get bigger with successive pregnancies.<br><br>
My pregnancy was rough (just for the indigestion and heavy tummy), but it is for a lot of people. My labor was rough (4 hours pushing and 25 total of back labor, but got 'er done!), but ditto. (Thankfully, I had a midwife who did not tend to labor with a stopwatch and a vile of pitocin!)<br><br>
So, here's my ignorant question: Is there something I can be doing during pregnancy (short of taking up smoking or the South Beach Diet <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ) to avoid growing such a HUGE kid?? Or does it make any difference? Am I just freaking out over a simple number?
 

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My first baby was 7 lbs 8 oz, 45 minutes of pushing, 3 days of labor total.<br><br>
2nd baby was 9 lbs even, 9 hours of labor, 9 minutes of pushing.<br><br>
3rd baby was 8 lbs 14 oz, 9 hours of labor, 10 minutes or so of pushing.<br><br>
Just because you had a long pushing phase with your first does NOT mean that you'll have a long pushing phase with your next baby, even if it's bigger. You're already "stretched out" so to speak, your body already knows what to do, and things may go much quicker this time.<br><br>
Your body will grow a baby just the right size for you to push out, barring complications such as GD.
 

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I agree with PP!<br><br>
My first (7 lbs 15 oz) was a 36 hour labor, with 1 hour 45 min pushing phase. I hoped my next would not be longer than 12 hours. I was shocked when it was a 4 hour labor, with virtually no pushing phase. 1 push and she was coming either way! She was 8 lbs 3oz.<br><br>
Your body learns a lot the first time around.
 

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my first was smallish (7lbs8oz)and a 24 hour labour (short pushing though) and my second was BIG..10lbs 5 oz and a 4 hour labour. about 15 minutes of pushing..<br><br>
i'm pregnant again and so far it seems like she will be more like her smallish brother. i measured large with my daughter all the way through and went 2 weeks overdue. im measuring pretty much right on this time. i have a feeling this baby will be around 8 lbs.<br><br>
i wouldn't worry too much though.. if you birthed a 10lb baby once you can do it again! i have to say that i've had those moments of fearing having another huge baby, but its so wroth it once you are holding that sweet little (or big) person in your arms.
 

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Yeah, I wouldn't worry so much about the size as much as the positioning. It sounds like your baby was OP--back labor & long pushing are hallmarks of OP babies. Check out <a href="http://www.spinningbabies.com" target="_blank">www.spinningbabies.com</a> and/or read <span style="text-decoration:underline;">sit up and take notice</span> to learn more about optimal fetal positioning.<br><br>
ETA-- and if you pushed out a 10lb OP baby I bet you can handle a MUCH LARGER OA baby.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yeah, I wouldn't worry so much about the size as much as the positioning. It sounds like your baby was OP--back labor & long pushing are hallmarks of OP babies. Check out <a href="http://www.spinningbabies.com" target="_blank">www.spinningbabies.com</a> and/or read <span style="text-decoration:underline;">sit up and take notice</span> to learn more about optimal fetal positioning.<br><br>
ETA-- and if you pushed out a 10lb OP baby I bet you can handle a MUCH LARGER OA baby.</div>
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I've been reading Spinning Babies!<br><br>
DD was 10lb 8oz. I did have GD but it was well controlled with diet and exercise. I'm a pretty slim person but on the large side myself as a baby. DH was small. This new guy is meauring large as well, though not as large (maybe...who knows) as his sister! I'm not too worried about it though. Almost everyone says subsequent babies are easier to birth, regardless of size .
 

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I'm with you! DD was over 9 lb after pooping. She had shoulder dystocia and I had pushed for 6 hours off and on. She DEFINITELY had some positioning issues but I do believe that we resolved them about 1.5 hours before she was born. I guess I could summon up the energy to push like that again if I had to, but I am more concerned about the PP stuff - the rectocele and the exhaustion after that kind of hard labor. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: I couldn't stand up for longer than 5 minutes for at least 3 weeks, my rectocele was so uncomfortable. And after that it only slowly got better. I am hoping this time around for under 1 hour of pushing!
 

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My first 9.13<br>
My second 11.3<br>
My third 8.2<br>
My fourth 8<br>
Guess which labor was the shortest and easiest? Yep, my second. Three hrs. start to finish. The least painful and nicest labor I've had. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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No comments on the birth <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> but mine were 14lb2, 8lb13 and 8lb5. Sometimes, a big baby just happens for no reason <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">:
 

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Well, my first was under 7 lb, and the next two were 10 lb and 10.5 lb respectively. The little one was the hardest. The next two were four hours flat.<br><br>
I'd work more on baby positioning and methods to ease labor.
 

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I am having the same fears.<br>
ds was 8.7<br>
dd was 8.2<br>
and ds2 was 9.11<br><br>
I'm pg with no4 and can't stop thinking about ds2's birth. It was quick but a really painful delivery. I'm so terrified and actually dread the birth of this baby. I need to find a way to come to terms with this.<br><br>
So no advice just --know someone else knows how you feel.
 

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Hi<br><br>
I'm tiny 5'3 and 107 prepregnancy weight. no gd either pregnancy. My first baby was 9 lb 4 ounce baby boy first time and a cesearean due to, in my opinion, poorly managed labor. This time (just a few days ago) i had an 8 lb 10 ounce girl (with a head bigger than my sons) and a extremely easy uncomplicated labor (4.5 hrs total) no tearing and 20 minutes of pushing. no epidural and no interventions.<br><br>
i say have faith that your next birth will be a wonderful experience. My first birth was horrible and it haunted me but
 

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I had an 11lb, 14 oz baby the first time. He was persistent OP (despite months of trying everything on spinning babies), and I ended up with a c-section.<br><br>
I would prefer a smaller baby this time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
So, I've been doing alot of reading, and so far, my plan of attack is: 30 minutes of exercise at least 6 days a week and eating a more healthy diet (will work on this after the nausea goes away), pretty much avoiding all "treats".<br><br>
I'll let you know how it works in about 8 months! LOL
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'd like another baby one day, but DD was 10 lbs.! I did not have "GD," and I'm not clinically obese. I was an 8-lb. baby. DH weighed 9, but he was born 3 weeks post-date. Big babies are in his gene pool, however... And supposedly babies get bigger with successive pregnancies.<br><br>
My pregnancy was rough (just for the indigestion and heavy tummy), but it is for a lot of people. My labor was rough (4 hours pushing and 25 total of back labor, but got 'er done!), but ditto. (Thankfully, I had a midwife who did not tend to labor with a stopwatch and a vile of pitocin!)<br><br>
So, here's my ignorant question: Is there something I can be doing during pregnancy (short of taking up smoking or the South Beach Diet <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ) to avoid growing such a HUGE kid?? Or does it make any difference? Am I just freaking out over a simple number?</div>
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Just a different perspective -- my first two babies were under 6lbs and I had 25 hours of active labor with over 4 hours pushing. So long labors are not necessarily related to the size of the baby. With my third child, I wanted to make sure things happened differently. I saw a chiro during my pregnancy and my third labor lasted 2.5 hour! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> So yes, something can be done in terms of opening up your pelvis and making it easier for your body to labor - -certain exercises and chiro work. I don't think your labor was related to the size of your baby, b/c my babies were small and I had a similar experience.
 

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OP - just saw you had back labor, was your baby posterior positioned? If so, there is alot of research on exercises to do during pregnancy and positioning to help during labor. Additionally, chiros help flip the baby before labor. This is what I did as my first two were posterior and my third was posterior until the 39th week.
 

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I've had big babies, too, and some scares with stuck shoulders. I'm hoping for a smaller baby this time, so I'm just trying to watch my carb intake. I wasn't technically GD, but I know that I have very temperamental blood sugar, so I need to make sure I get a good mix of protein, fat and carbs in every meal. If I don't, I just feel unwell. My smallest baby happened when I was careful about my diet. My biggest happened when I wasn't. Maybe it's a coincidence, but I'm really trying to eat more mindfully this time to avoid any pushing problems come labor.
 

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I would say work on trusting your body to know how to grow and birth the baby. You are right it is just a number and you just can't predict and worry that would make it stressfull. I do believe that snacking on fillers in pregnancy should be avoided. Instead drink herbal tea and lots of green and raw food inbetween high protien meals. You second labour will probably be a breeze even with a 10lb'er. It is a journey and you can begin by letting go your fears and accepting the things you have little control over.
 

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my first was 9.11lbs at 40 wks and had shoulder dysotocia horrible long labor really difficult recovory- my second was 8.14 at 37 weeks ( i let the stupid OB induced me cuz he was afraid of SD again!) this time I'm 38 weeks and midwife guessed babys size was 7-8 lbs last week so Im thinking at birth will be around 10! I too am about scarad babies size but my second was a SUPER EASY labor I think your first is just hard because your body has never done that before---and I dont think diet affects babies size at all its just genetics.
 

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I sooooooooo needed to hear all of this encouragement. Thank you, thank you, thank you! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/luxlove.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="throb"> I've learned so much about spinning babies and chiropractice and other options!<br><br>
DD was posterior but not born sunny side up. Perhaps she turned around during the pushing phase (???) I did back labor the entire time, and to this day, I don't know what a tummy contraction feels like.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I am having the same fears.<br>
ds was 8.7<br>
dd was 8.2<br>
and ds2 was 9.11<br><br>
I'm pg with no4 and can't stop thinking about ds2's birth. It was quick but a really painful delivery. I'm so terrified and actually dread the birth of this baby. I need to find a way to come to terms with this.<br><br>
So no advice just --know someone else knows how you feel.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> !!!!! Many thoughts, prayers, and best wishes to you!
 
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